I'm sick customers touching me. I don't mind a little brush on the back, or legs, or other neutral areas, but I am sick of guys touching my ass and breasts. Especially breasts, for some reason.
I guess I'm kind of a wuss about saying no. I've always danced defensively, just shifting my body so they can't reach whatever they're trying to get at, but sometimes I 'm not fast enough. Once they've touched my breasts, it's like fucking Brer Rabbit and the tarbaby, nothing I can do will dislodge them. I'll even grab guys hands and try to pull the off my breasts, and the fuckers will *struggle* with me.
I am also tired of the way guys will keep pushing and pushing and pushing the envelope. They start out touching my legs and if I allow that they want to touch my thighs and their fingers just keep creeping up and up and up. I realize this is partly my fault, because if I want my boundaries respected I have to set them out and enforce them. Like I said, I'm kind of a wuss sometimes. My policy of passive aggression needs to be updated.
Eventually, I'll say something like "that's too far" but they seem to listen to me less than half the time. Maybe it's because I'm smiling when I say it? I used to try taking their hands and guiding them over the places where I don't mind being touched, but most guys seemed to get the wrong idea with this, pull their hands away from mine, and just start touching everywhere.
I'm at a loss.
How do you let customers know where it is and isn't OK to touch you? Do you lay out the rules at the beginning of the dance, or do you wait for them to transgress before you say anything? What do you say? How do you say it?



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