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    So I've got one for you...

    I've been a customer at a few clubs, and I've decided that I need to take a break from them for a while. I know what the game is (separating men from their money), and there's a couple of dancers that I text/email. I've told them that I'm curtailing (not going at all) for a while, just for economic/other reasons, and I don't really feel like giving most of my money to the club.

    So...

    One of them keeps texting me, how much she misses me. I suggest that I'd be willing to get a drink or something outside the club, but I'm just not interested in doing the club thing. (Again, does she miss me, or my money?). So I'm pretty insistent on it -- basically stating that I don't feel like being "just a customer" because the honest reply could be, "well, you're just a stripper," but I really don't want to go that route.

    Let's just say that I've spent enough on her in a month to pay her rent, and I really don't feel like paying it anymore.

    I mean, sure, I wouldn't meeting her OTC, but I know it wouldn't be the same. She does the whole, "I miss you" dance, but she says she can't get past "customer" stance.

    Comments, suggestions?

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    She misses your money - plain and simple.
    Keep asking to meet her OTC and this will become very apparent. She will come up with excuse after excuse or she will just say no. If she gets really desperate she might even meet you OTC but it will just be a ploy to get you back ITC.
    You have been her customer and make no mistake that is all she will ever view you as.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jaizaine View Post
    She misses your money - plain and simple.
    Keep asking to meet her OTC and this will become very apparent. She will come up with excuse after excuse or she will just say no. If she gets really desperate she might even meet you OTC but it will just be a ploy to get you back ITC.
    You have been her customer and make no mistake that is all she will ever view you as.
    so is there a guilt complex?

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    Quote Originally Posted by biznustraveller View Post
    so is there a guilt complex?
    Elaborate and I might be able to answer. I don't understand what u r getting at here?

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    on the part of the dancer...

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    I don't think it's anything to do with guilt. If you have spent a good deal of money on her she is probably worried that you won't come back and continue to spend on her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jaizaine View Post
    I don't think it's anything to do with guilt. If you have spent a good deal of money on her she is probably worried that you won't come back and continue to spend on her.
    Amen. There is usually very little "personal" in "business" on the dancers behalf no matter how intimate your lappers are.

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    Yeah, it sounds to me like she's just trying hard to keep a good customer. If you've told her you're done with the club for a while, she really ought to respect it. I will occasionally get in touch with a customer I haven't seen in a while, just to say hi and see how he's doing. Sometimes this will turn into a visit, but I don't push it, and I would say this girl is being pretty rude. Just keep saying no.

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    Okay, can we get something straight? Stalking is when someone is wilfully interfering with another person's sense of safety and security. Have you even asked her to stop contacting you? I mean you gave her your information in the first place - you obviously at some point encouraged her to use it.
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    She's not stalking you. She's txting you (and others, probably), encouraging more of your business IN her club. I've been stalked by a woman, and your description of this dancer's actions do not even begin to meet the definition.

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    Sounds like you're in love. I think you should marry her.

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    So you dont want to be 'just a customer' anymore, so that means.. what? You want to date her, sleep with her, be with her, marry her? What?

    What I dont get is why are you asking if she has guilty feelings? If we say... "uh, maybe." does that give you a SLIGHT thread of chance? Is that what you want?

    She misses your money. Period, end of story. Now she will have to go find someone else to pay her rent.. and that really sucks!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by John Doe View Post
    Sounds like you're in love. I think you should marry her.
    Uh, no.

    She's great, she's nice, she's sexy...but again...

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    Homeskillet,

    Strippers have 3 ladders. Guess which one you're on???

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sinful333 View Post
    So you dont want to be 'just a customer' anymore, so that means.. what? You want to date her, sleep with her, be with her, marry her? What?
    Sleep with her, sure. Why not. I'm attracted to her. But then again, guys want to sleep with a lot of females.

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    If we say... "uh, maybe." does that give you a SLIGHT thread of chance? Is that what you want?
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    She misses your money. Period, end of story. Now she will have to go find someone else to pay her rent, and that really sucks!
    Why does it suck?

    I've been a lurker here for a while, reading through the threads. I always find it interesting when a dancer plays that "Just a customer" card, because at that point, customers could say, "well, you're just a dancer", right?

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    Yep, sounds like your run of the mill SS.

    I have just about the exact thing going on with me and my ATF.

    Mine just emailed me saying she got into a "car accident" and has no insurance nor does the person she was in the accident with and this is bad timing.....blah, blah, blah.

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    [QUOTE=biznustraveller;1010747]Sleep with her, sure. Why not. I'm attracted to her. But then again, guys want to sleep with a lot of females.

    Quote Originally Posted by Sinful333 View Post
    If we say... "uh, maybe." does that give you a SLIGHT thread of chance? Is that what you want?


    Why does it suck?

    I've been a lurker here for a while, reading through the threads. I always find it interesting when a dancer plays that "Just a customer" card, because at that point, customers could say, "well, you're just a dancer", right?

    To say "you are just a dancer" is to basically say that that is all we are. Our job is to be a dancer. You are our customer. You keep saying that we play the customer/dancer card. Is that your way to take a stab at trying to gain control of the situation? Are you trying to make her/me/us feel bad by saying we are just a dancer?

    We didnt make you our customer, you did. Take responsibility for that and understand that we dont go to work looking for love and/or sex. We go to work looking to pay our bills and in turn you ARE JUST A CUSTOMER.

    Just by the title of your thread, it seems like you are trying to get the upperhand with words. Its not going to work here. She isn't stalking you and Im sure she is not OBSESSING over you like you are her. Im sure she isnt posting about you or thinking this over way to much.

    Deal with it.... your just a customer.

    Also.... it sucks because you were basically easy money. Came in on a regular basis, gave her at least enough to pay her rent. She saw you.. and knew her night wouldnt be a complete waste. Now she has to go work her magic and find another..... YOU.
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    Quote Originally Posted by biznustraveller View Post
    I've been a customer at a few clubs, and I've decided that I need to take a break from them for a while...One [dancer] keeps texting me, how much she misses me. I suggest that I'd be willing to get a drink or something outside the club, but I'm just not interested in doing the club thing. (Again, does she miss me, or my money?)...

    I mean, sure, I wouldn't meeting her OTC, but I know it wouldn't be the same. She does the whole, "I miss you" dance, but she says she can't get past "customer" stance.
    If she wanted to meet you OTC:

    1) She would have suggested it.
    2) She would probably have stopped taking your money for dances.
    3) She probably would have started to become a bit uncomfortable being naked in front of you.

    If none of the above happened, you were just a customer (although probably a valued one) to her.

    Two options:

    A) Accept that your relationship will never be more than dancer/customer and give up on any ideas of meeting her OTC.

    B) If you like her company ITC, set yourself a budget that you can afford and stick to it. Some dancers have customers they genuinely like to see in a work environment. Means you are polite, realistic about the relationship and have a liking for each others company in that environment.

    No reason why you can't have a little fun without denting your bank balance too badly.

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    The OP claims to be an experienced customer and to "know what the game is" yet comes here seeking answers to stripper behavior most customers learn about in Stripclubbing 101. And they don't flunk you in that course...if you don't get it they make you take the course over and over again until the light bulb finally does light up. So I can only assume that the OP really does know the answers but is recovering from a terrible automobile accident, can't leave the house and thus has nothing better to do than post frivilous questions on a stripper board to see what kind of responses he will receive.

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    Or he's just plain ignorant.
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    Yeah, that's not stalking, that's a girl trying to make sure her $$ keeps coming in to see her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by biznustraveller View Post
    One of them keeps texting me, how much she misses me. I suggest that I'd be willing to get a drink or something outside the club, but I'm just not interested in doing the club thing.
    You call that stalking? Bwahahahaha. Ah man, thats just par for the course for most SC regulars.

    Quote Originally Posted by biznustraveller View Post
    (Again, does she miss me, or my money?).
    One who has to ask this question already knows what the answer is. He just doesn't like the answer. And if he truly doesn't know, well there's one sure fire way of finding out, which brings us to...

    Quote Originally Posted by biznustraveller View Post
    Let's just say that I've spent enough on her in a month to pay her rent, and I really don't feel like paying it anymore.
    Then don't. Problem solved.
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    Instead pay it to me.
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    Quote Originally Posted by amylynnej View Post
    Instead pay it to me.
    Amy, sometimes I get the feeling that you really, really don't like customers. Please say it ain't so.

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    how does texting constitute as stalking someone????

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