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    I have read several things on the "blue side" that decry the fact that the strippers just walk around, don't sit down, and don't ask for dances. I am really shy (unless I've had a drink or two!) so it's really hard for me to go up to men and just start chatting away. This is especially hard for me at the beginning of my shift. Sometimes I even just sit at the bar and see who tries to make eye contact with me. I feel really silly doing that.
    I guess what I'm asking is...
    You guys WANT us to come up to you, right? You want us to flirt, giggle, talk and make sexy eyes? You WANT us to ask YOU for dances, right?
    Tell me if I'm wrong. I'm getting a lot better about not being shy, but it would help me if I had some positive responses on here. The weird thing about this is that I have been stripping for about 1 and 3/4 years.
    Do you find anything cute about the shy girls or do you just want a straight up conversation and the inevitable question "Would you like a dance?"
    Thanks in advance

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    Default Re: The approach that y'all want

    Oh I just saw this thread about being shy , but that's not really what I'm asking.
    I guess what I'm asking is what do you want from an introduction/approach from a stripper?

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    Quote Originally Posted by sun child View Post
    Oh I just saw this thread about being shy http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?t=84016, but that's not really what I'm asking.
    I guess what I'm asking is what do you want from an introduction/approach from a stripper?
    The best approach I have gotten was from an atf. She walked up to me and said "how have you been" and then said "so do you want a blow job?"

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    Put yourself in the customer's shoes. Imagine you're sitting alone in a bar filled with attractive guys. If one of them comes up to you and says, "Hey, wanna fuck?" he's probably not going very far with you, right? Or if one of them sits in a corner and never musters the courage to talk to you, he probably isn't going to end up in your bed at the end of the night. But if another is friendly and interesting, talks to you in a genuine way, makes you feel attractive--he stands a very good chance, no?

    A lot of men at strip clubs just want to have the feeling of being picked up/seduced by an attractive woman. If you treat customers the same way you would want to be treated in this situation, you probably will do well.

    If not, you can always take mdiver's advice and offer a blow job.

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    I'd guess 9 out of 10 guys expect the dancer to approach them. The remaining few like myself prefer to do the asking. Bottom line, while you'll meet exceptions, the best money to be made is if you take the initiative.

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    Just be polite and pleasant, that works for me whether you approach me or I approach you.

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    Default Re: The approach that y'all want

    I prefer to be approached most of the time but I don't have a problem initiating conversation with a girl. I don't specifically need giggles and sexy eyes. Some girls don't have the personality to pull it off and I would rather they be themselves than go over the top. I'll admit that I do like the shy girls as I find something endearing about them. But if a girl doesn't feel comfortable enough to talk to me on future visits and I know she recognizes me, I just assume that she'd rather not deal with me for whatever reason and move on.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sun child
    You guys WANT us to come up to you, right? You want us to flirt, giggle, talk and make sexy eyes? You WANT us to ask YOU for dances, right?
    me? i'm indifferent to the issue, but you're right. many customers do want strippers to make the effort. but hey, i understand. why work when one doesn't have to work.
    Quote Originally Posted by sun child
    Do you find anything cute about the shy girls or do you just want a straight up conversation and the inevitable question "Would you like a dance?"
    are you kidding me? a stripper who can look pretty and keep her trap shut. now, that's hot.
    Quote Originally Posted by sun child
    I guess what I'm asking is what do you want from an introduction/approach from a stripper?
    "hi, my name is_____". i think that about covers it.
    Quote Originally Posted by mdiver
    The best approach I have gotten was from an atf. She walked up to me and said "how have you been" and then said "so do you want a blow job?"
    ah yes, the classy introduction that one might encounter in houston (and those girls aren't joking ).
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    Quote Originally Posted by mr_punk View Post
    ah yes, the classy introduction that one might encounter in houston (and those girls aren't joking ).
    She wasn't joking either .

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    Quote Originally Posted by sun child View Post
    You guys WANT us to come up to you, right? You want us to flirt, giggle, talk and make sexy eyes? You WANT us to ask YOU for dances, right?
    Of course we do. A big part of the fantasy of a strip club is that beautiful girls come up to you and flirt and pretend to be interested in you. That's as big a part of what you are selling as the dance itself.

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    Default Re: The approach that y'all want

    Since joining SW and reding lots of posts here, I've become more assertive about asking dancers to dance for me, and I am having a lot more fun.

    But I used to sit in the club and wait and wait and wait, sending mental vibes to the girl I admired to try to get her to come over. Usually she didn't. More often, someone else would. Sometimes, nobody would.

    So, my advice is, yeah, go up to the guys. Sit down, talk a moment or so. If they don't ask you to dance, ask them. Maybe you will get turned down if the guy is short of funds, or doesn't do lap dances, or is waiting for someone else. But you FOR SURE won't get a dance from him if you don't ask, so you have nothing to lose but a few minutes of your time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sun child View Post
    Do you find anything cute about the shy girls or do you just want a straight up conversation and the inevitable question "Would you like a dance?"
    Either way is good, as long as you aren't too quick to the "Would you like a dance?" question. However, speaking for myself, I *LOVE* the shy girls and I love to chit chat, exchange CS/SS, etc.

    My advice would be to just approach and start talking. I think that in 99% of the customers, ranging from mr_punk to Phil-W, you'll get a vibe for what they want. Most guys won't leave you chit chatting if they just want to be asked and most guys won't demand a dance when they want to chit chat. The hard part is just starting up the convo...

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    Default Re: The approach that y'all want

    shy doesnt matter, but i would be sure to SMILE and make EYE CONTACT. this is signs that welcome the guys to approach you even if you dont initiate.

    guys want to have a FUN time in there so thats why I might not pick the girl who looks like shes sulking in the corner not getting any dances.

    i want to pick a girl who will be a fun experience both while dancing and/or chatting. but as mentioned, all guys are different. i think its best to NOT open with 'do you want a dance' bc its tougher to say no if a little time is invested. not a lot, just a minute or so of small talk. then hit up for a dance, if no, move on.

    g/l

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    Usually, I prefer a quick approach. Come up, be flirty, introduce yourself, and get to the point and ask if I'd like a dance. I know why you're approaching me, you know why you're approaching me, and often a quick "So, want to come dance with me?" will catch me in a snap-decision where I'll just blurt out "Yes!" if I find you attractive

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    Quote Originally Posted by mr_punk View Post
    me? i'm indifferent to the issue, but you're right. many customers do want strippers to make the effort. but hey, i understand. why work when one doesn't have to work.
    I don't get what you're saying here. I have no problem making the effort or working. Just wondering what guys are looking for.

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    i'm not referring to your lack of effort. i'm speaking about the customer's lack of effort.
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    MMM.... I like to be approached. I will always - and I mean always - buy a dance if a girls sits down and talks to me. I guess I feel obligated plus I appreciate the effort. I think most of these girls usually ask " Do you mind if I join you?" . Then we introduce each other, yadda yadda, small talk then BOOM "Do u wanna dance?" I will always say yes in that situation. Of course if your are cute and I click with you then Im yours for the nite

    But in a club that is hopping, really packed... I think you would just go to the guys and ask for a dance - if you have time for that. I think most guys would understand in those circumstances that they are not going to get a lot of upfront personal time.

    But I am definitely a sucker for a dancer who will spend some time with me and approaches me.... Heck once a girl sat next to me and I swear, she never responded to any conversation with more than one syllable. And then when I stopped trying , she wouldnt leave. So I asked her for a dance so I could get rid of her. ( Yep I am a real sucker!!!)

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lapaholic View Post
    And then when I stopped trying , she wouldnt leave. So I asked her for a dance so I could get rid of her. ( Yep I am a real sucker!!!)

    Classic! I think I may need to use this one sometime. It actually may come in handy. I never thought of it....duh...

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    Default Re: The approach that y'all want

    When a dancer is confident, looks like she takes care of herself, and obviously... HOT(cant leave that out), it's typically a really good sign. I think it's perfectly ok to ask questions regarding wanting dances because it's your money. If you sit there for 30 minutes and don't get but a $1 then it's a complete waste of your time.
    Man oh man, what a trip it's been.

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    Erm.. Keep the SS subtle and believable, for example, if you want to charm the guy a little with a compliment, make it something real that he is probably already proud of. On the other hand, the girls that sit uninvited and expect guys to entertain them also do quite well in terms of sales, not uncommon for a guy to buy a dance so that he can free himself up for a girl he's more into.

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