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    Default How do you break up?

    When it's time to end things with someone, what is your exit strategy?
    After a few dates, maybe sleeping together, a couple years, whatever. How do you let them know it's over? I'm just really curiose how everyone handles these things. Right now my favorite is to just stop answering the person's phone calls. Is this extreme? I mean, if it's only been a few dates I think that's fine, and I am a coward. What do you do?
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    Default Re: How do you break up?

    I do it on a post it note. jk

    Yea I do the same thing. So its not mean or extreme. Youre just not that into him.
    A few dates: Dont answer phone calls and fade away.
    A few months: A phone call or meeting.
    A few years (havent gotten there): Probably some long drug out break up sorta thing in person.
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    Default Re: How do you break up?

    It depends on the person.


    If it's in bad terms, that mother fucker deserves no explanation and I just cut all ties. Delete his number and block him online. He knows wtf he did wrong, and I wouldn't want to waste my precious time yelling and explaining..no need, fuck that. That's how it went down with my last ex.


    Good term break up, I tell him how I truely feel to his face & end it from there. I had a huge respect for my first exbf, and vice versa.

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    Default Re: How do you break up?

    How about the very modern txt message? Have had this happen to me a year ago--we'd only dated a few disasterous weeks (she was a spiritual Dead Zone, just this side of creepy). In retrospect, it was funny she did it that way.

    For anything longer term than a few weeks, however, I think the dumpee deserves an in-person meeting with the dumper.

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    Default Re: How do you break up?

    I'm such a pussy! I can't do the dumping. If it has been less than a month I just stop answering/returning calls & hope they get the hint (if not, change my phone # if they get psychotic with their texts & voicemails).
    But I'm still a wuss when it comes to LTR's when I love someone but know it's not working. I either act like a bitch or blatantly cheat on them so they'll break up with me. Immature, I guess, but I just can't dump people that I've had (or still have, even tho we're not compatible) feelings for.

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    Default Re: How do you break up?

    I definitely agree it depends on the person, not the time you've known them.

    If they are a jerk, it's okay to just leave. In my experience, assholes never think they did anything wrong anyways.

    If they were cool, an explanation is probably in order unless you've known them for a really short amount of time. Just keep it casual/brief.

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    Default Re: How do you break up?

    Props to everyone to going this far in not saying "Message him through myspace"

    Regardless of the length of the relationship, this is hard. It's a rough mix of the type of person, type of relationship, and nature of the direction it WAS going.

    However, there is a basis, a STANDARD even that denotes how you would go about this and it's defined by you as you begin the relationships. Typically when you say shit like "I would never do X, I would be direct" and whatnot.

    No MATTER WHAT though. Maintain respect and discretion. And things don't have to just be direct about it. No drama is good.
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