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    Hi,

    I was thinking about what to say when going up to customers for the first time and couldn't really think of anything besides "hi, my name is ___ , are you have a good time tonight?" I read something on here about asking only questions that you know have yes answers but I can't seem to think of many. Also, I have NO idea what to possibly say after that. If anyone has any suggestions or ideas, just as a place to get started, it would be greatly appreciated. Asking the other girls at the club seems like it would be weird, and also they may not want to help me out in case I might take some of their business or something. Thanks for any replies.

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    Never forget a customer's favourite topic - ourselves.

    "Hi, what's your name?" might not be a bad opener.

    (Remembering to call us John/Jason/Jeremy every now and then is not a bad idea either - shows you've remembered we're a person and not just $20).

    I've not seen any research on this, but I guess the same thing applies to when you go up to a customer as when you go to a job interview, etc. We tend to provisionally make up our mind in the first 30 - 60 seconds and everything thereafter is conforming the impression.

    If we like you when you come over, then we (sub-consciously) start to clock up reasons why we should have a dance.

    If we get the wrong impression then we (again sub-consciously) start to notice reasons we shouldn't get a dance.

    As they say - first impressions count.

    What I'd suggest you avoid is "Hi, my name is___, are you having a good time tonight?"

    First thing it's too close to "Wanna dance" and second thing is it's too impersonal. You want questions that focus on them as individuals rather than anything too formulistic.

    Remember a basic human need is to be liked. Just as you want to find customers who'll like you as a person (and hence buy dances from you) the average customer will want to think the dancer likes him as a person (even as he's forking over his $20!)

    (As to being liked - remember a lot of our impressions of people come from body language AKA non-verbal communication. Reading a book on body language and finding out about the little signals we send out when we like people might be a good idea - it means you can mimic the signals when you go up to someone).

    And going back to the original point of your post: I don't think there is a list of good questions - i think it's more important to concentrate on 'reading' each potential customer you go up to, and behaving in a way that'll make him like you.

    Every person is different, so this might require a slightly different approach from person to person.

    For example, you like talking to older customers because "you're more mature and nicer to talk to than those young guys", while conversely you like talking to younger customers "because it's nice to dance for someone my own age".

    Phil.

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    "Hi, darlin', having fun!"

    ya, I jut got here

    "oh, cool, it's a great club! I'm honey (hold out hand), may I sit down?"

    sure, I'm billybobjoe

    "Nice to meet you! Have you been here before?"

    yes, a few times/no

    "great, tonight is going to be sooo much fun! do you live locally?/ Wow, are you visiting srq? It's a fantastic place, and this is a awesome club"

    ya, I live here is srq, I moved here from appleville in washington a year ago/ ya, I'm here for business/golf/vacation/sports for a week

    "awesome, that's quite a change! I just love it here, don't you?/ wow, that's great! This is a super place to come after all those meetings today/being out in that hot sun/ kicking your buddies butts in golf!"

    ya, t's a great place/yes it is!

    Ok, I'm ready to dance for you! Lert's get naked!

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    Default Re: Opening lines

    You might want to search the Hustle Hut for topics of this nature.

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    Try to get the custy saying "yes" from your opening line. When approaching someone, I look at the girl on stage and say, "Geez, aren't the girls beautiful here?". It's soooo amazing, with all the different kinds of women we have here, how gorgeous and talented they all are in their unique ways." Or "Wasn't it a beautiful day today?" Whatever you say, make sure that it is something the customer can't answer "no" to. After you ask him a few questions like this and get him in the habit of saying "yes", he will have a hard time saying "no" when you ask him for a dance.

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    What you say is also going to depend a bit on the type of person you are. Some girls can do a cheezy line, get a guy to laugh, and then go right to a dance. Do you have a particular look? Are you sexy, funny, sophisticated, nympho, girl-next-door, or innocent? If so, then you can take that into account. The type of club you are in also makes a difference. Is it a high hustle or low hustle, do most of the girls sit and chat or do they all use one liners?

    Focus more on how you say something than what you say, the tone of your voice and the sort of image you are projecting (leaning forward but standing, sitting next to them leaning toward them, sitting strait up, kneeling at their side, standing before them, all create a different image and can work if you want it to). A bit of contact, even your hand on their hand/shoulder/thigh works well.

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    mine changes from customer to customer, but is generally something like"hello, how are you doing?" followed by a "what's your name?" and a "mine is mia, nice to meet you" .....

    what i find is more important is -how- you approach them. always smile as you're walking up. make eye contact. never approach them from behind, if at all avoidable. the only time you almost -have- to approach from behind is when they're sitting at the stage and you're thanking them for a tip after your show. in this case, i try to walk up on the side so that they can see me coming in their side view, then i hug them from behind when i thank them.

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    The approach also depends on the age of the customer. With an older gentlemen you sometimes have to take a more sophisticated approach versus a young guy, you may take a more laid back approach. For instance, with an older man, I'll walk up to him and say "Hi, how are you tonight? Are you enjoying yourself? My name is......, what's your's? Is this your first time here? etc..... With a young guy or group of guys you might say to them "Hey guys, how you tonight? So what's the celebration, guys night out? Them: it's his birthday or his bachelor party. Me: Oh, I think the birthday boy or the bachelor is going to need a dance, don't you guys? THey always say yes, I've never had them say no.

    I find young guys are a much quicker hustle, you keep it really short & sweet, talk to them for maybe one song, then move in for the kill, get as many dances as possible and then move on. WIth young guys they want to just get dances, and from lots of different women. With older men the hustle is a little slower, it requires sitting with them longer, like 3 songs, maybe getting a dance first, maybe not and then trying to get them back to VIP. I'm starting to be able to tell within the first song if I think the guy will go to VIP or not just by body language and the "feeling" I get from him.

    Trust me, all of this takes time and lots of practice. WHen I first started, I was sooo clueless and scared!! It gets easier the more you do it. I highly recommend reading good sales books, body language books, etc. It'll help a lot!

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    Nikki, I look SUPER innocent. Even though i'm mid twenties people often think i'm 16! I've even had people tell me they thought my real I.D. was fake before, when I got angry and made them re-check they changed their minds. The place where i'm planning on working has no VIP, just 20 a dance in another room.

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    there are TONS of threads on this issue in newbie and hustle hut sections. go use the search function.

    Love it!

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