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    since i know that a lot of guys are clueless when it comes to how NOT to compliment a woman, i wanted to clarify something here:

    never, and i mean -never- everevereverEVER, not even with the "toughest" seeming girl, should you say anything that can (and will most likely) be heard as "i'm trying to compliment something i think is obviously a flaw of yours"

    confused?

    i'll give some examples.

    dancer has small natural breasts. you love these breasts. what do you say? "honey, don't ever worry about your breast size..."

    WRONG

    you know what else is wrong?

    "i know most guys like big tits, but......"

    why is it wrong? it's because (even if it may be good intentioned) you're complimenting her by first stating that you think the compliment is probably not a popular opinion. i get these kinds of compliments on my breasts ALL THE TIME. i also work with a very tall very curvy (not fat... but very curvy) girl who gets compliments like....

    "don't ever worry about your weight" and "i like a woman with a little more weight on her" generaly said while doing something stupid like grabbing and shaking her thigh.

    in both of these cases "your breasts are awesome" or "you have an excellent body" are 1038 times better. also, complimenting specifics is usualy a good bet because it makes us feel like you actualy notice things. i love when guys compliment something like my collar bones or my nose. of course, don't pick something random *just* to compliment on it... we can usualy pick up on BS. just being up the unique good things that come to your mind, even if they sound weird in your head like "wow.. her shoulders are so sexy.." why not tell her? she might have heard "nice ass" 49 times that night, but how many times has she heard she has great shoulders? probably none.

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    Yes! I hear it all the time. "Dont ever get a boob job, I love small boobs. WTF? I never planned on getting one. I love my small boobs to. They fit my body. Why can't they just say, "you have great boobs" Why's it always gotta be, you have great small boobs"

    Like telling a fat girl, You have such a pretty face. Why cant you just tell her she's a pretty girl? By saying "pretty face" you pretty much saying, what a waste, you have such a pretty face, but your body is covered in soo much fat and cellulite, that I cannot possibly look below your neck"
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    ^^^^

    Damn, I so wanted to be the 746th guy that day to tell you I love small boobs, ask you if you had a boyfriend and try and find out what time you finished work.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kaylinn View Post
    Yes! I hear it all the time. "Dont ever get a boob job, I love small boobs. WTF? I never planned on getting one. I love my small boobs to. They fit my body. Why can't they just say, "you have great boobs" Why's it always gotta be, you have great small boobs"
    ^^^Ahhhhaa-I hear this one ALL of the time. I guess cause I attract guys that like natural breasts. It doesn't really bother me though (well, not yet, lol) for them to say not to get a boob job. Yeah, it would be nice to have bigger bewbs, but I'm happy with my body the way it is.

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    Those comments would no doubt constitute a faux paux in a social situation but I really don't see the big deal when they occur in a strip club. I mean, are you going to refuse to give a guy a dance if he blurts out something like that? Does anything he says matter beyond his "Yes I want a dance..." reply to the question? The customer wasn't being nasty or beligerent or grossly insulting. He was most likely either married for 30 years and out of practice or perhaps just overwhelmed by the whole strip club environment.

    Seems to me that expecting a customer to compliment a dancer with the skill and coolness factor consistent with dating/night club interactions is putting social packaging around what is, for most of us, including dancers, simply a business transaction.

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    This can work both ways, ya know. I prefer girls with natural looking boobies, and I bet that 3 out of 4 times that I've sais, "You have nice looking boobies" or some variation of that, the reply has been, "Yeah, but they are too small."

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    Quote Originally Posted by FBR View Post
    Those comments would no doubt constitute a faux paux in a social situation but I really don't see the big deal when they occur in a strip club...

    Seems to me that expecting a customer to compliment a dancer with the skill and coolness factor consistent with dating/night club interactions is putting social packaging around what is, for most of us, including dancers, simply a business transaction. FBR
    Gotta disagree with you there FBR, I'm afraid.

    We as customers go to a strip venue to be entertained, and surely the probability that we get a good dance from/have an entertaining time with a dancer is partially dependent on avoiding faux paux.

    It might be a business transaction, but neither dancer or customer is a robot and we will interact with/have an effect on each other. To that end behaving in a way that doesn't antagonise/annoy the dancer is likely to result in a more pleasant time for both sides.

    Who's a dancer going to put more effort into entertaining?

    a) Mr put foot in mouth
    b) Mr make polite compliment

    We all like to feel appreciated and to take the two examples above, Penny and Kaylinn will respond better to you if a compliment is delivered with a bit of grace.

    l'd rather be treated as a pleasant individual, not dance #12 of the evening.

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    Hmmmm thanks for the input.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Phil-W View Post
    Gotta disagree with you there FBR, I'm afraid.
    No problem Phil. We disagree no more than half the time so thats not too bad

    I've been doing this a while too. And can slither my way around the nuances most of the time. But I do think that it is unreasonable to rant about a comment or comments that obviously were delivered with good intentions. Well, this is a message board and rant is what we do...but you know what I mean. Guys in an SO situation do have to worry about the slightest verbal misstep. I mean, the SO has power and the family room couch is not a fun place to be for any length of time. But should the same rules apply in a strip club? Surely, as long as the customer has money to spend, doesnt stink and respects the dancers boundaries, I don't see why he has to go through the same mental gymnastics he has to endure at home. I agree that the guys who can deliver the proper coolness factor might well get slightly better dances and/or table time but at the end of the night it was just a tiny difference of degree and no great expenditure of energy and effort by the dancers.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pretty_Penny View Post
    dancer has small natural breasts. you love these breasts. what do you say? "honey, don't ever worry about your breast size..."

    WRONG

    you know what else is wrong?

    "i know most guys like big tits, but......"

    why is it wrong? it's because (even if it may be good intentioned) you're complimenting her by first stating that you think the compliment is probably not a popular opinion
    Quote Originally Posted by Kaylinn View Post
    Yes! I hear it all the time. "Dont ever get a boob job, I love small boobs. WTF? I never planned on getting one. I love my small boobs to. They fit my body. Why can't they just say, "you have great boobs" Why's it always gotta be, you have great small boobs"
    I'll certainly respect your ladies' right to take these compliments as an unintended hint that your bodies are inadequate, but I doubt in most cases that was the intention of the person saying them.

    Please realize that you work in a profession where there is a general notion that nearly every dancer is for better or worse is destined to do certain stereotypical things, one of which is having BA done at some point in her career. Believe it or not, a lot of us guys aren't crazy about this self-fulfilling prophecy coming about, particularly when perfectly good factory equipment is going in for an unneccesary upgrade. Some of us perhaps would like to encourage a favorite dancer with naturals to NOT get one. My current ATF of the last three years has natural B's, has nursed multiple children with them, and does just fine.

    But I see so many dancers lining up to get them on the notion that "I can make more money with bigger boobs". To be perfectly honest, having been on SW for four years now, I see far more applause of dancers going in for boob jobs by the women here than from the men.

    Like telling a fat girl, You have such a pretty face. Why cant you just tell her she's a pretty girl?
    Well not to be blunt here, but if she's truly fat (and as I've stated before, women are way more critical on appearance flaws then men are, although I'm sure there are no shortage of pigs out there), that part of her body would be considered unattractive by most people. Telling her otherwise would be lying.

    Besides that, fat or not, I don't see where admiring a woman's face on its own merits is such a difficult concept to understand. It really no different than singling any other part of her body for admiration. We've got a lot of pretty faces right here on SW. That doesn't mean there's anything wrong with the bodies they're attached to.
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    Quote Originally Posted by FBR View Post
    Those comments would no doubt constitute a faux paux in a social situation but I really don't see the big deal when they occur in a strip club. I mean, are you going to refuse to give a guy a dance if he blurts out something like that? Does anything he says matter beyond his "Yes I want a dance..." reply to the question?
    Well, we'll still take his money yes. Happily. But if the compliment is intended to make us feel good, probably the best way to go about is not to be all "everyone else finds you repulsive, but I...." I mean, it's no less a faux pas because we'll still dance for you. It just means that you get to feel us up while we think you're a social tool.

    The customer wasn't being nasty or beligerent or grossly insulting. He was most likely either married for 30 years and out of practice or perhaps just overwhelmed by the whole strip club environment.
    Well that is why she is helpfully telling you all. Just sit down and be grateful.

    Seems to me that expecting a customer to compliment a dancer with the skill and coolness factor consistent with dating/night club interactions is putting social packaging around what is, for most of us, including dancers, simply a business transaction.

    FBR
    FBR. How could you? Even if it is a simple business transaction there is still and undeniably a social element - or else there would no need for us to romance and charm you ahead of time. A simple "Hey FBR, wanna dance?" would be in fact preferable to me sitting down and saying "Hi! I'm Jenny. I've been dying to come over here and sit with you all night; you just look like the most fun guy in this place and you are, without doubt, the most handsome man I have ever seen in real life and blah blah blah for 20 minutes before - so hey, let's go do a dance." There is already social packaging around it - the social packaging is part of what is bought and paid for.
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    "Well, hello...my what a big...pair...of shoes you have there..."

    I figure this one wouldn't go over very well?

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    Dare I say it, but I sometimes get the impression that dancers don't always like compliments on the the finer points of their anatomy.

    They tend to mention that after the 386th guy has told them they've got nice legs/boobs/bum (delete as appropriate) that it all gets a bit boring.

    (And I suspect that you as a complete stranger telling the dancer she's got a nice kitty might not be the ideal way to get into a her good books)

    I've always thought that dancers like a modicum of polite conversation that lets them know you can relate to them as an individual and a mental attitude that says "I can appreciate this is entertainment and not to be taken too seriously".

    The customers that dancers seem to genuinely like and enjoy meeting with are those that treat them like normal people doing an unconventional job, and are relaxed enough to enjoy looking at her figure without sitting there with their tongue hanging out of their mouth.

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    I HATE when guys compliment my private areas that include the butt, kitty, and breasts, because really there isn't much I did to get them and I also can't easily change them. Plus, it just makes me uncomfortable even in a SC.
    I DO like compliments on clothing, hair, jewelry and eyes <--- eyes only because it reminds me of romance and sometimes a little romance will get you a long way with a girl.
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    Quote Originally Posted by FBR View Post
    Those comments would no doubt constitute a faux paux in a social situation but I really don't see the big deal when they occur in a strip club.
    Why is it differant? Are we somehow LESS sensitive about our bodies when our income depends on it?

    Sorry...but anything that hints that something that would not be acceptable behavior OTC is perfectly ok INT is just wrong. Outside of the obvious differance in job description( you would never ask the check out girl at Publix to take her clothes off for you...but then again, I bet you'd never ask me to bag your groceries either.). If something is rude OTC...it is still rude ITC...it may be more tolerated...but that doesnt make it less rude.
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    Quote Originally Posted by cameronfl View Post
    Why is it differant? Are we somehow LESS sensitive about our bodies when our income depends on it?

    Sorry...but anything that hints that something that would not be acceptable behavior OTC is perfectly ok INT is just wrong. Outside of the obvious differance in job description( you would never ask the check out girl at Publix to take her clothes off for you...but then again, I bet you'd never ask me to bag your groceries either.). If something is rude OTC...it is still rude ITC...it may be more tolerated...but that doesnt make it less rude.
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    I always enjoy giving compliments to the dancers and even though they have heard it before you almost always get at least a smile back. On complimenting specific things about them I get the best responses when I take notice and comment about their body art. Sometimes I'll get the whole history of when, where, and what they mean for them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Phil-W View Post
    Dare I say it, but I sometimes get the impression that dancers don't always like compliments on the the finer points of their anatomy.

    They tend to mention that after the 386th guy has told them they've got nice legs/boobs/bum (delete as appropriate) that it all gets a bit boring.

    (And I suspect that you as a complete stranger telling the dancer she's got a nice kitty might not be the ideal way to get into a her good books)

    I've always thought that dancers like a modicum of polite conversation that lets them know you can relate to them as an individual and a mental attitude that says "I can appreciate this is entertainment and not to be taken too seriously".

    The customers that dancers seem to genuinely like and enjoy meeting with are those that treat them like normal people doing an unconventional job, and are relaxed enough to enjoy looking at her figure without sitting there with their tongue hanging out of their mouth.

    Phil.
    I totally agree Phil. In fact, if I may be so bold, Im beginning to think a customer is much better off if he keeps his mouth shut in order to avoid the faux pas described above. Unless he is really cool and with it, talking will most likely reduce the quality of his dance and make him look to be more of a tool than he already is. The less said the better.

    D: Hey there You look like you want to have some fun. Wanna take a trip to paradise?

    C: Smiles, showing interest

    D: Oh you will so love it. ~pushing up her covered breasts with her hands, increasing the cleavage factor~ These babys have been waiting for you.

    C: Raises eyebrows and plants a questioning look to his face

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    C: Planting a puzzled expressing on his face.

    D: Well..I had fun and all...but you never talking really wierds me out.

    Guess I was wrong about being strong and silent.


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    For what it's worth penny, I think you're absurdly attractive.

    But I'm basing that more on your comedy than your bra size.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cameronfl View Post
    Why is it differant? Are we somehow LESS sensitive about our bodies when our income depends on it?

    Sorry...but anything that hints that something that would not be acceptable behavior OTC is perfectly ok INT is just wrong. Outside of the obvious differance in job description( you would never ask the check out girl at Publix to take her clothes off for you...but then again, I bet you'd never ask me to bag your groceries either.). If something is rude OTC...it is still rude ITC...it may be more tolerated...but that doesnt make it less rude.
    Cameron, you are making more out of it than what I said. The dudes that made the comments were likely smiling and thinking that they were being complimentary and polite. You want to crucify them for being inept and having no game? I think thats wrong. There are enough guys out there who are deliberately nasty to satisfy your nail driving instincts

    You mentioned Publix. I love that store chain. Great prices and hot baggers. There are no Publix stores in Ohio...we're stuck with Kroger...thats why I bought a vacation home in New Port Richey

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    I dont think the point of this thread was to crucify anyone. It was just to make them aware that even though in their minds for example "I like thick girls" is a compliment...the girl will likely hear "you're fat" and instead of making her feel great as intended..she'll feel like crap. telling her not to get a boob job when she hasnt mentioned wanting one..will make her just think that you are simply trying to make her feel better about what is obviously inadequate chest-age(not that small is inadequate...ya'll get my point right?)
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    I guess I have a pretty thick skin when it comes to receiving compliments. Or alternatively maybe I am a bit conceited LOL.

    I think if a guy goes out of his way to say something nice even if he doesn't say it quite right it was still nice of him to try.

    A guy told me he liked small breasts the other night. He said I love A cups while looking at me. To which I replied "well that's great but what your looking at here is a C cup". He started apologising and I just laughed.

    Hey the guy spent $200 on me so HELLO he thought my body was mint!

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    thanx mast... you're the beez neez

    and fbr...

    i know what the -intention- is, i'm just saying how it "comes across". it doesn't effect my sale and i don't even mention it to the customer. i just quietly think in my head "jesus... this is why men accidently piss women off all the time" but on the outside i just go "aww thanx" and smile really big. i can tell you all here how i really feel, but inside the club (as long as the customer's intent is kind) i would -never- make him feel wrong or stupid for what he's saying. i'm not going to lose money over it. in fact, i happen to be a very non-typical female in most cases related to emotion. i rarely have the common female response to such things, but when 95&#37; of the compliments on my breasts start with "don't worry..." or "usualy...etc/etc" it eventualy has me thinking "jesus christ, can someone say something nice without first stating how absurd their compliment is to them" it's like... imagine if a woman says to you "i know most girls like (whatever physical feature) ... but i think yours is charming the way it is!"

    actualy... go ahead and insert the words "big cocks" into (whatever physical feature) and maybe you'll understand what i mean.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FBR View Post
    I totally agree Phil. In fact, if I may be so bold, Im beginning to think a customer is much better off if he keeps his mouth shut in order to avoid the faux pas described above.

    <Snipped comments>

    D: Uh..I'm good. I don't need anything. ~glancing across the bar~ Oh, my girl is signalling for me.

    C: Planting a puzzled expressing on his face.

    D: Well..I had fun and all...but you never talking really wierds me out.

    Guess I was wrong about being strong and silent. FBR
    Do I detect the faintest hints of sarcasm, FBR?

    I never said, you shouldn't pay compliments - just that you should stay away from the ones that are (a) personal and (b) done to death.

    Maybe a "that was a damned enjoyable lap dance" might go down better than "you have really nice boobs".

    I do give several dancers lifts home and there's a tendency for them to vent a little if they've had a stressful night. Personal comments do not go down well.

    One dancer for example has a clitoral piercing and gets very wound up by guys she's only just met asking her what it does for her sensitivity, etc. Asking about said piercing is guarenteed to get you a 'lap dance by the numbers'.

    Conversely, talk to her in a sensible manner about something she wants to talk about (for example music) and when she gets round to giving you a lapdance, she'll take pride in giving you an enjoyable one.

    Sometimes being courteous does pay.

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    If I felt insulted by a guy, such as ones who say, "I like an older woman," (without knowing my age or anything about me) or something like that, I may or may not continue to entertain him, depending on how quickly he realizes his rudeness. I'll say, "You know, you really need to watch it when you are making assumptions about a woman's age. And the word "old" is not something you ever want to use in front of a woman."

    If he doesn't get it and apologize, I'll tell him to fuck off and find someone else. What he's doing is called passive aggression, and I don't need it.

    There are tons of other guys out there, why should we stick it out with the one who wants to insult us? And it doesn't matter how you meant it, it matters how we take it, because we internalize that shit and your little backwards compliment can ruin someone's night. Even worse if you call a woman, "thick," "healthy," or otherwise insult her by backwardly calling her fat.

    We like to hear that we look good, with no negatives included in that comment. If you don't have something nice to say....well, you know what your mama told you about that one.
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