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    What do you girls do to recharge after a bad night, a bad week, or years of racist rejections? Are you turned off of working with the public? Do you look for fulfillment elsewhere? Do you thrive on the rejection?
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    I tell myself, "this is just a little environment in the world, it's not the world." Then I go find a happier environment for a while.



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    Quote Originally Posted by Lena View Post
    I tell myself, "this is just a little environment in the world, it's not the world." Then I go find a happier environment for a while.
    Brilliant!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lena View Post
    I tell myself, "this is just a little environment in the world, it's not the world." Then I go find a happier environment for a while.
    I need to start thinking like that more







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    I laugh it off honestly. I'm Russian, I could be mistaken for Russian or Jewish. I very rarely get the guy who says "you arn't from the USA are you? I hate foreign girls, they're so trashy and desperate". I moved to the US when I was 5, so when I reply in perfect english, no accent whatsoever, they seem shocked and the face alone is priceless. Don't let the idiots get you down.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sc0101 View Post
    I laugh it off honestly. I'm Russian, I could be mistaken for Russian or Jewish. I very rarely get the guy who says "you arn't from the USA are you? I hate foreign girls, they're so trashy and desperate". I moved to the US when I was 5, so when I reply in perfect english, no accent whatsoever, they seem shocked and the face alone is priceless. Don't let the idiots get you down.
    I've gotten that one before, even though I don't have any kind of accent. Perhaps its the hustle. They're like, "oh no, russian girls, too pushy and aggressive. You'll take all my money."

    But I don't think that comes anywhere close to being rejected based on the color of your skin. Guys are just cruel when it comes to such sensitive matters.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lena View Post
    I tell myself, "this is just a little environment in the world, it's not the world." Then I go find a happier environment for a while.
    That is priceless wisdom.

    But ya know, the phrase "F**k 'em" comes to mind, too.

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    ^^^^^Ha ha ha! One of my favorites! I think this is an unpleasant reality many of us should prepare to face so we aren't majorly thrown. Why let a few jerks kill your night's pay. Some of them I view as truly having a preference and the others I view as bullies. The bullies I don't give the satisfaction of a big reaction. They say something crazy and get ignored. Depending on the attitude of his friends I go right on and hustle dances with one of them. I've found that even the most racist dudes can have non-racist friends. There's nothing sweeter than walking away with his buddy hand in hand!

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    See my post in beautiful black women thread
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    Quote Originally Posted by evan_essence View Post
    That is priceless wisdom.
    I can't really take credit for it. I learned it from Inga Muscio in Autobiography of a Blue Eyed Devil.



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    Yeah, most people (Russians included) can't tell that I'm Russian. But once men find out my nationality they think in some gold-digging hussy. It's terrible. Stereotypes are really lame.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lena View Post
    I tell myself, "this is just a little environment in the world, it's not the world." Then I go find a happier environment for a while.
    that's almost exactly how i deal with "not hating men" i tell myself

    "these are just a small percentage of the men in the world." people always ask me "does stripping make you hate men" and i always say "no, but it makes me hate about 75% of the men in america who frequent strip clubs".

    the percentage may be lower or higher for you, but you get my drift. you've got to be able to get yourself mentaly out of the strip club once you leave it. it's hard not to "take it with you", but do the best you can.

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    i am white, so i guess i dont have to deal with racist rejection. but i have had to learn to deal with rejection all the same. at the end of the day, people will judge you but that does not mean that what they say should mean anything to you.

    you know who you are and what you are about, therefor a total stranger is talking total shit when they express their ignorant opion about you.

    i am not defined by other people's opinions. i create myself and live by my rules, therefor, only i can judge me and those that are close to me and understand what makes me have a right to voice their opinions but ultimately, what i think of myself is the only opinion that matters.

    so in a nutshell, i dont giv a shit what anyone thinks of me because they only ever see a fraction of who i am.
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    I was rejected by a customer because I wasn't black enough. He said he only got dances with black girls and apparently I'm too light for him. Ah well...I just kept it moving. That's all you can do really, just keep it moving.... and secretly curse them out in the dressing room.
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    ^^A friend of mine at work gets this a lot. Customers tell her they don't want to sit with her because she doesn't act "black enough." She's a college graduate with a degree in cultural anthropology but I guess they want her to act like a ghetto bitch. Idiots.

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    Yeah, I have that experience ALLL the time! I prefer professional black guys because I have NO luck selling dances to ghetto guys. Ironically I do better with "white chocolate" guys! LOL White chocolate meaning white dudes who are into hip-hop culture.

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    this thread reminded me of an indian customer i danced for. he said that he felt like he was scaring away the girls because of his race and ranted for a while about how he's an indian, vegetarian, and hindu, but that the girls all think he's a terrorist and are afraid to come give him a dance.
    Also, i try to play along with whatever personality type the customer has. Like one time this really ghetto girl wanted me to dance for her, so I just started talking like her too. It could backfire if she thought I was making fun of her...but it didnt!

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    It makes me cry because I am once again reminded how embarassing it is to be black.


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    Quote Originally Posted by ctstriptease1 View Post
    It makes me cry because I am once again reminded how embarassing it is to be black.
    Whoa! I'm not touching that one, but wow!

    Professional black guys were some of my best customers through the years, but that's not what this thread is about......

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    Quote Originally Posted by ctstriptease1 View Post
    It makes me cry because I am once again reminded how embarassing it is to be black.
    Whoa!!! Honey, don't say that. There is no shame in being differrent than the majority population. There is shame in cruelty, in bullying but not in difference.

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    I laugh it off honestly. I'm Russian, I could be mistaken for Russian or Jewish. I very rarely get the guy who says "you arn't from the USA are you? I hate foreign girls, they're so trashy and desperate". I moved to the US when I was 5, so when I reply in perfect english, no accent whatsoever, they seem shocked and the face alone is priceless. Don't let the idiots get you down.
    I find that it works FOR me, actually. There are some guys (ok, a LOT actually) whose faces just light up when they find a girl with an accent and they say that they "love Russian girls, because they work harder for the money" or "they just love pleasing men" or "they'll go the extra mile, not like American bitches who just want money". I just smile and try not to let them know that I'm laughing on the inside at their stupidity. I actually like to play along with these fools and see how much I can take from them before they realize that I'm actually not going to "work harder for it."

    But as for actual rejection, there is one incredibly hot black girl at my club who likes to say that when a guy says he doesn't like black girls, what it really means is "I'm not a real man; can't handle a black girl!"

    Also, no one is going to appeal to everyone. Aside from the fact that the rejection is based on racism, which only means that the guy is a loser...everyone is going to be rejected sometimes because they don't have the "look" that a certain guy likes. I've had plenty of guys tell me that I'm beautiful but they don't want a dance with me because they're crazy for black girls, "so here's $10 if you can bring me the hottest black girl in the club". No dancer is going to appeal to everyone, but if you keep going and don't let stupid comments get to you, sooner or later you'll find that guy who is crazy over you and willing to shower you with money.

    The thing that keeps me going when i've had a particularly nasty rejection, though, is the thought that if I allow that asshole to ruin the rest of my night and keep me from banking, then HE WINS. And hell no, I'm not going to let him win. So I've got to just get back out there.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Optimist View Post
    I have NO luck selling dances to ghetto guys.
    That's not a bad thing! For some reason "ghetto guys" love me...but then they usually end up whipping their dicks out during dances. Then again, so do skeezy white guys...it's definitely an advantage to appeal to the professionals of any race. More money, less hassle, ususally.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Picaresque View Post
    But as for actual rejection, there is one incredibly hot black girl at my club who likes to say that when a guy says he doesn't like black girls, what it really means is "I'm not a real man; can't handle a black girl!"
    I like that, wish I had the nerve to say something like that







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    When I get the "you're too pale" thing I just suck it up and bite the inside of my cheek. I know that there ARE those who like me as is, and I like me as is, which is what really counts.
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    There are always people out there who strive on puting others down. I try to tell myself that is ok. I know I'm not going to be everyguys type and if they feel better about themself by being an ass then I get stived to make more money and prove to them they are missing out.

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