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    empdiv has come up with several good questions. It would be an interesting thread to talk about how to handle this dancer competitiveness. What's a guy to do when his favorite starts to get displeased with him for being with other dancers? What if he want to have two favorites? Is there a good way to keep her happy while giving other dancers your money?

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    Quote Originally Posted by empdiv View Post
    Honestly, my first gut reaction when I saw her dance like that was a little shock and jealousy, but I got over it pretty quick, after all, it is her job. I just thought her dancing with heavy contact = she likes the guy. Which seems pretty rediculous now.

    Even if she might see me as just cash on legs, I'd rather be thought of as the nice customer than some perv with money.
    Everyone finds their niche in the smoke and mirrors that is strip club land - and having found our niche we tend to get stuck in it.

    For example, I'm a pretty dancer friendly guy and a fair few girls who come up to talk to me know that. It means that they have no expectations of me wanting heavy contact, and wouldn't think of offering it. Acts very much like a filter, because the heavy contact girls think; "Hey, there's Phil - no point in trying to sell him a dance".

    Conversely, if you get known as a guy that likes more contact, you'll find that the light contact dancers stay away from you. In effect, you're wanting the type of dance that they're not really comfortable doing, and if they can find alternative customers, they'll stick to those. Instead, the heavy contact girls will home in on you.

    Dancers are great gossips (for many reasons) and you'll tend to find that if you visit a place regularly, you'll get talked about. If you get talked about, many dancers will put you into the mental niche I mentioned, and there you'll stay unless you radically change your behaviour.

    Quote Originally Posted by empdiv View Post
    Last week, I went in again and while my "dancer" was walking the floor, I got a few dances with another girl.... After the dances, my dancer came up to me and said the other dancer is very greedy and she'll just say anything to get me to dance with her.

    That surprised me because this was the first time she bad mouthed any other dancer to me and the other dancer seemed genuinely nice when she was talking to me. Do dancers bad mouth other dancers to their regulars? Is she just a real bitch and her true side is showing?
    Don't ever loose sight of the fact that your dancer is in effect a self employed business woman. You come into the club with (lets say) $300 to spend, and she hopes that you'll spend the bulk of that on her. If you spend money on other dancers, you're spending less on her.

    There could be many reasons why your dancer badmouthed the other, but it's always as well to remember that dancers are just like us: they also have hopes, fears and worries. Although it's rare for one dancer to too obviously run another down, maybe your dancer had things on her mind about outside of work and was a bit more outspoken than she'd normally be.

    If you are going in to see a specific dancer it's best to be up front with her. Tell her that although you'll spend the bulk of your time (and money) on her, you occasionally like to get a dance or two from other girls.

    Your dancer is less likely to be worried if she knows you're primarily there to see her - no dancer likes to think she's losing a nice/well spending customer permanently to another girl.

    Quote Originally Posted by FBR View Post
    And if you do go and have...you know...impure thoughts about her you can come to the Blue Side for special dispensation..
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    What FBR is saying is that there are two sides to this site: pink and blue.

    Pink is where you're on at the moment. It's intended to be dancer friendly, and most guys that post on this side do remember that these formums are mainly for dancers and we are in effect guests.

    The blue side you can find if you scroll down the page with gives the list of forums. Right towards the bottom you'll find a link for the Strip Club Junkie Forum. That side's mainly for customers and comments are more uninhibited.

    That's not to say it's a dancer free zone - you'll find the dancers who post there are more than capable of sticking up for themselves.

    Phil.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FBR View Post
    I suspect that is exactly where he is at. He's been a nice guy for months living in his happy world but then suddenly observes another custy getting...I dunno..whatever...but clearly more than him. I bet he has at least one devil sitting on his shoulder whispering into his ear asking him "How do you spell C-H-U-M-P?". I'm sure he trying to brush away the pesky devil but it is difficult.
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    Ah, that good old devil who sits on all our shoulders and from time to time tries to lead us into temptation.

    Yet, for all we talk about dancer/customer relationships and it's all about the $$$'s, etc, etc, etc, we can still strike up ITC friendships with the dancers we go in to see.

    OK, she might be earning a living, but it's still nice to see that (genuine) smile when she sees you and knows the two of you can have a relaxed time together for the next hour or so: most dancers prefer to spend time with customers they like - if nothing else it makes their time more pleasant as well.

    Only problem then with letting Mr Devil have his way is that the smile might not be so genuine next time.

    Phil.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Phil-W View Post
    Ah, that good old devil who sits on all our shoulders and from time to time tries to lead us into temptation.
    I have a little devil on one shoulder and a little angel on the other. It seems as though the little angel often has black eyes and busted lips....

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    Quote Originally Posted by empdiv View Post
    Thanks for the input. I have another question I'd love to get input from you dancers.

    I saw her again a few days ago and after we spent some time, she said she was gonna go on the floor. While she was gone, a very nice dancer came up to me and chatted so I got a dance from her. The club has a back room where all the normal dances are. While I was there I saw my "Regular" dancer with another customer. The club is contact club, and she was dancing with A LOT of contact with the other customer. When she usually dances for me, it's pretty light. Most of the time we spend in VIP we just talk anyways. I figure maybe she dances pretty light with me cause I may be a bit older, or maybe she just straight up dislikes me. Or maybe he is a long time regular of hers.

    My question is, is there any polite way of bringing that up and asking her to dance like that for me sometime?
    I was like this with a regular too. I didnt even realize the dances were crap and we talked the whole time. I really enjoyed him... one day while we were in VIP I noticed it and started 'really' dancing for him... but it seemed fake and I didnt like it... I prefered with him to dance differently than I did with people I didnt know. Something different, special.

    4 months of this and I asked him out... now were been together 6 months and are buying a house together. This from the girl who for 6 years put girls down for dating custys... LOL...

    Lost the regular but found something else - worth the exchange.

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    Oh God AudreyLeigh, you're going to make the poor guy go crazy now!
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    Welcome back Audrey! You should update with if you are still in school and your daughter etc!

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    Something tells me that if she was willing to date a customer, saying how about a blowjob for $50 isn't going to work in your favor.

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