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    Default I am sooo upset right now! What should I do?

    I called the place I was thinking of working because I wanted to ask a few questions. After one the manager I was talking to started to take an angry tone, but I stayed polite and asked another one. He told me I was being stupid and then hung up on me! I called back (stupid I know but I didn't think I did anything wrong!) and explained that I wasn't trying to be rude I just wanted to know some things. He told me to go work at another club, and that I was obviously not interested in working there, said he had a business to run and immediately hung up again. When I went in person the person told me to get my licence and come back, I just wanted to know if I should come and expect to audition, or be able to work that day, or what? I didn't get an answer because apparently that is stupid? But I don't know because when I went in person the guy I talked to just looked at me and said I would be fine. Does this mean I shouldn't even go down there? I really don't want to spend another 300 getting a licence plus more on some clothes and stuff just to be told I can't work there! I'm already out almost 100 and there is no other club really in the city so the license would be a waste. Is this normal management stuff? Should I take it seriously and never go back? I just don't know why I got yelled at, was my question really that stupid? Blah, I feel so sad now.

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    Default Re: I am sooo upset right now! What should I do?

    did you meet the manager from the phone in person? What questions did you ask?

    But yeah, it does sound like you should find another club.

    Where are you located that there is only one club in the city and there is a $300 license to work there?

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    Default Re: I am sooo upset right now! What should I do?

    I'm curious as to what you asked him, too. Does this club go through an agency to book their dancers? If so, they do it for a reason, so they don't have to worry about scheduling and auditions and training.

    I would go in and talk to the other dancers that work there and ask them if they like it or not. Maybe make a post in Club Chat about the club you are considering to get some honest feedback about the club and it's policies.


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    Default Re: I am sooo upset right now! What should I do?

    If your manager has spaz-attack like this, you do not want to work there TRUST ME. You're better off finding greener pastures. If a "manager" flips out before you're even hired then imagine how he'll behave when he's grown accustomed to you. I've had jerk-managers and they at least pretended to be nice in front of new girls. Obvioulsy you're dealing with someone unstable and abusive. You might... might... have caught him at a bad time but even then if he were at all professional he would have asked you to call back at another time. There is no excuse for such behavior and you're much better off finding a safe and healthy work environment where mgmt is helpful rather than hurtful.
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    Default Re: I am sooo upset right now! What should I do?

    I believe the club is Hamilton Strip in Hamilton ON (correct me if I'm wrong). I recently posted in Club Chat about wokring there too. I have never been there but from what I hear the place is pretty sketch. There is only one other club in Hamilton and it is the same if not worse.

    If the manager you spoke to is that much of a douche to a complete stranger on the phone I can't imagine how he would treat his employees!

    Could you try Solid Gold in Burlington (that isn't too far away) or somewhere out towards Niagara?

    Thanks for posting this though! I am pretty much certain where I will be working this summer.

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    Default Re: I am sooo upset right now! What should I do?

    Yah- it just sounds like they don't want to deal with the hassle of answering questions, hiring, and training an inexperienced dancer. They're lazy. Don't worry about it. It's not you. I would go somewhere else where they're willing to help you out a little more. k? good luck!!!

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    Default Re: I am sooo upset right now! What should I do?

    Some managers just hate being called to the phone to answer questions they consider "unimportant" esp if they are busy. You are better off going in and asking in person, it is much harder to be rude to someone face to face, esp if you are hot.

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    True. it's really not that rude of him, well it is, but it's typical.

    go in person, at a slow time.

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    Default Re: I am sooo upset right now! What should I do?

    I wanna know what questions she was asking too. What was the need for the phone call anyway? Why not avoid the phone in it's entirety and just go in person. WHY after he hung up the first time did you call back again? I'd be pissed at you too and I probably wouldn't want you working for me...

    But I also agree that maybe he was in a cranky mood because he's busy and you're asking a million questions.

    Were your questions that important that you couldn't wait to ask him in person?







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    Standard or not, when she came in person after the phone call he could have answered her questions. At the very LEAST informed her if she would be auditioning or even get to work, as she was shelling out $300 plus expenses.

    I would find another club. I don't care if people say that's standard. I've worked at almost every club in Tucson and asked plenty of questions, phone and in person, and have NEVER gotten treatment like that. The people were always polite and professional. I'd run for the hills with this rudeness, because I know there's better out there.

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    Default Re: I am sooo upset right now! What should I do?

    Quote Originally Posted by LatinaRose View Post
    Some managers just hate being called to the phone to answer questions they consider "unimportant" esp if they are busy. You are better off going in and asking in person, it is much harder to be rude to someone face to face, esp if you are hot.

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    True. it's really not that rude of him, well it is, but it's typical.

    go in person, at a slow time.
    It is rude, but sadly it is typical, in my experience. Fortunately, there are exceptions, and I hope you find a cool club.

    But when I first started enquiring about work in the Daytona clubs, I was amazed and repelled by the seemingly deliberate rudeness I encountered.

    It seems sometimes the number one requirement to be a manager is to be a hardass. This usually means low socialization skills, lol.

    Go in person, if you are hot you'll get hired no problem, trust me. But by all means try to find a better club first.
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    Default Re: I am sooo upset right now! What should I do?

    I don't care how busy he was, no reason to be an asshole. If you can't take the stress of being a manager, shouldn't take the damn job.

    I had a manager like this at a non-entertainment job and she would have break downs and cry but she seemed like a hard ass the rest of the time. I laughed at her. It was sort of funny, if you're gonna break down - at least wait til you get home to do it. It's really unprofessional and is bad for customer service if you're rude to people - even potential employees, because now you can go and tell 10 people your shitty expirience, and those ten people tell 10 people, etc. The chain goes on.
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    I met someone else in person but I was so nervous at the time I totally blanked on that manager’s name. D’oi, I was so stressed out I didn’t even notice that I left the questions out. The first one was asking if I should come down ready to audition that day. The second one was asking how hours worked, if you got hired for shifts or if it was more flexible (I wanted to know because I’m starting a part time job soon). I am in Hamilton, and it was Hamilton Strip, and the other place really is actually worse. The reason I wanted to know about the hours is because I was thinking about just getting a license for Burlington instead and going there, depending on the answer. When I went to Hamilton Strip I did ask a bunch of the girls in the bathroom that I went to a couple times about the work. Most said they liked it and there were some nice costumers…but no one said anything about management and I didn’t think to ask. It was the first time I’d ever even been to a club and I felt pretty intimidated in my running shoes and jeans.

    Xxambyrrxx, where will you be working? I called Solid Gold and the person I talked to seemed nice so I’m going to go check it out in person. The reason I thought to go to Hamilton Strip is honestly because I’m pretty shy and nervous about my looks, and was terrified that all the girls at Solid Gold would all be so beautiful and perfect in every way imaginable that I’ll just be a freak in comparison. But now I’m thinking they’re all human and I’m not the only one with some stretch marks and flaws.

    The reason I called back was because I honestly thought it was a lack of communication, I’m not used to people yelling at me when I think I’m being reasonable. I explained I wasn’t trying to be rude. Also, the reason I was calling rather than going in person is because it takes more than an hour to bus there. And I didn’t want to go ready to audition, only to not have to do it that day anyways. The manager that yelled at me said some pretty mean things, implied I was lying about having gone to see another manager and that I would be too ugly anyways, and that told me that I clearly had no desire to work and was an idiot for asking such stupid things. The manager I talked to in person pretty much took one look at me and just said come back as soon as you get a license, then wrote down instructions to do so on a card for me. Most of the girls there are actually…not very attractive, not to be rude and there were exceptions, so the comment about not being attractive enough made no sense to me anyways. Is this really typical?

    Sorry this was so long, just wanted to respond to everything, thanks for all the replys.

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    Okay i'll answer for you.

    There are no auditions in Southern Ontario, get your license, get a pair of heels and bikini and show up to work.

    Hours usually are 4pmish till 2amish.

    Start on a Mon or Tues... they will respect you more for showing up early in the week vs the weekend.

    Also show up early... they hate a bunch of girls crawling in around 9pm... try like 5 or 6.

    Though I honestly think Hamilton sucks for work. IMO anyway..

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    Default Re: I am sooo upset right now! What should I do?

    With you being new in the business, I think I would try to find a club that might be a little more helpful to you as a beginner. Then if later on you still want to try this club go ahead. Then you won't have to deal with the management quite as much because you'll know some of the basics. Did the girls say anything about good money or just nice custies? Cause I prefer good money to regular nice guys. Don't get me wrong. I don't want asshole customers either, but money is the objective.

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    The reason they were dicks is because southern ontario is so flooded with girls now they just dont care.

    Every girl and her doll want to strip there. Chances are the club is just over flowing with girls they dont give a fuck because they know they will have girls anyway.

    It sucks but thats how it is.

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    Default Re: I am sooo upset right now! What should I do?

    Quote Originally Posted by Cally View Post
    The reason they were dicks is because southern ontario is so flooded with girls now they just dont care.

    Every girl and her doll want to strip there. Chances are the club is just over flowing with girls they dont give a fuck because they know they will have girls anyway.

    It sucks but thats how it is.
    Hmm, well Canada does seem to be more open minded on things than the US does....my Canadian friend always tells me cool stories of just random cool things that are different there than here.

    But yes, if I have learned one thing on SW, it's go and do it...or go to the club at least once and check it out - then go do it. The girls always seem pretty nice on talking to people about how the club runs.
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    I'm thinking I will work in Niagara (I have been told to try the Sundowner mostly) or maybe Burlington or Toronto or maybe I will just get a shitty regular job I realy have no idea yet!! But even if I am dancing it will only be part time and just for the summer.

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    Default Re: I am sooo upset right now! What should I do?

    Some town/city bylaws require that the dancers have licenses and some don't.

    Cally is right though. There is a lot of "dancers" and many of them are moving around trying to find a busy place to work.

    Best bet for you is to try st kitts/nf area.
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    Quote Originally Posted by xxambyrrxx View Post
    But even if I am dancing it will only be part time and just for the summer.
    Right. We've heard THAT one before. LOL Good luck finding a club and don't let the jerky manager turn you off.

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    My club is in Sarnia and we have been getting floods of girls from the GTA coming down to work. I'm still making decent money for the amount of girls in our mid-size club, you just have to be on your game a bit more. Also there is no licensing here...just walk in and work.

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