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    Default Do Men [i]Really[/i] Crave It More?

    Okay, here's another question for you guys:

    The popular belief is that men have a stronger sex drive than women--on average, in general, with some room for individual variabilty, of course.

    Do you buy that? Based on your own personal experience and general impressions, would you agree with that?

    Because I'm not so sure. I think that women may be less likely to act upon their sexual urges, for various reasons, but I'm not convinced that we actually crave sex a hell of a lot less than men do.

    I do think that our sexual urges may be more variable, simply because we experience more hormonal fluctuations than men do.

    Still, I feel like anecdotally, at least, I hear from women who want more sex from their male partners about as often as I hear from men who want more sex from their female partners.

    What do you guys think?
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    I have ED and voluntarily recluse myself from this discussion.

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    No. At all.
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    I'm always the one to want more in any relationship/ fling.

    I think it's on a person to person basis..... Some people are like me, and would love to have it 5+x a day, and others could live without it more ofen then not.

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    I'm horny and I want sex all the time! But I don't want to work for it. I just want a sexy man to materialize in my house and take care of it. Don't feel like wading through a bunch of brand new losers to get what I want, so I just don't go out looking for get laid. If I want it, I just have sex with a current roster player.

    So yes, Nic, you may have a point.

    Or....perhaps women just get bored with the man in bed but don't want to cheat, so it appears that their sex drive is lower. That's happened to me, but then I just went ahead and cheated.

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    ^^^ My thoughts exactly.

    I've always had a much higher sex drive than my partners, but I always knew I was highly sexed even when I was a kid. Some people just have more libido than others, regardless of gender.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine View Post
    I'm horny and I want sex all the time! But I don't want to work for it...
    My sentiments exactly. I don't understand the guys who go through so much effort just to get laid, often willingly sacrificing their dignity in the process.
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    I need sex all the time. Significanty more than my horny boyfriend.

    I don't think I'm a "normal" female though.



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    I am an extremely horny female. I love sex but most of the time I don't think dealing with most males is really appeals to me. Too many will either:
    1. Treat you like crap after sex
    2. Get possesive over you after sex
    3. Give you a disease
    4. Not be able to pleasure you anyway
    I am in a point in my life right now where a long term relationship really isn't viable due to work, school, and other activities. So I want an assortment of f*ck buddies but it's so hard to find any that don't run under the 4 catagories listed above. So for now I mostly just have sex with my hand on one of my vibrators.

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    ^ #4 just breaks my heart. I mean, honestly. Sweetheart, you deserve so much better.

    At the very least, please try to find fuck buddies who take good care of you sexually.

    Anyway, on the subject at hand, there is no discounting testosterone. The testosterone level rises dramatically in females when they are ovulating and they are much more likely to seek out other partners during this period, engage in more risky behaviors and have much more fun in their sexual encounters. A recent study has shown that as many as 30% of children born in committed relationships may have actually been fathered by other men because the women are much more prone to stray from their partners and seek out men who are more physically attractive or more sexually stimulating. It's why children tend to physically resemble their natural fathers -- an evolutionary check on men who have been cuckolded and refuse to provide resources to support the child.

    Males have 60x the level of testosterone, which we live with all the time, and this causes us to do all sorts of crazy and wild shit because we have no cycles. It's why most extreme fetishism comes from males, as well as most deviant behavior. You try living with this level of testosterone. It practically blew our heads open at age 13 and we've had to deal with it ever since.

    We are perpetually driven to try to fuck anything that can't outrun us.

    The reason women are more driven has less to do with hormones than it has to do with their bodies and their physiology. Women have bodies that are designed to be sexually stimulated and sexually overwhelmed. They have much more intense, prolonged, physically exhausting and mentally overwhelming sexual responses than men do, as long as the men they are with know what the hell they are doing (and at the end of the day, the men are not really necessary at all -- only the thought of them.) Women can cum in so many ways, for so long, and in such intense waves of prolonged pleasure that it's like they are almost a separate species. It's why learning to play a woman's body like a musical instrument, hard and determined, to drive her to new levels of uncontrolled, throat-wrenching, hair-pulling, explosively overwhelming, legs-around-the-neck physical insanity for long, repeated, intense periods is the only way she is ever going to remain interested in you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by The Other Owner View Post
    We are perpetually driven to try to fuck anything that can't outrun us.
    omg! For some reason, This made me crack up so hard!!! I'm going to put it in my siggy, is that okay?

    oh, and number 4 makes me sad too. I have no issues stopping right in the middle of things and saying this just isn't working for me, you aren't doing things right, please leave.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nicolina View Post

    I do think that our sexual urges may be more variable, simply because we experience more hormonal fluctuations than men do.
    Generally I think men think about sex more than women. I totally think the homral fluctuations is a huge factor at least for myself. At the moment I am in a sexual hormonal stage and I want it a lot and I am initiating it. I definately usually have a low to non existent drive tho.

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    ^^ Erectile dysfunction. We sell so many pills to deal with the limp dicks of America that we had to abbreviate it.

    Oh, I would say in general, men want it more than women. This isn't really a representative section of women, anyway. I would have said I wanted it more when I was in a relationship with a guy who wouldn't give it up whenever I wanted, but now that I am, and can have sex whenever I want it, I think that he wants it more or that we want it equally, depending on how tired I am.

    By the way, has no one here ever given an "I'm tired but I still want to take care of you, honey" blowjob but me?

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    ^^ I go for a handjob in that case. Head bobbin is too much work if I'm not even up for sex, so to speak

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    ^^^Of course. I'm bizarre though. Sometimes all I want to do is sucky sucky. Inevitably, however, this gets me super horny and I end up hopping on. In fact, when I'm having problems getting wet, I just go down for a little bit and--shazzam!

    Back on topic, I ALWAYS want more sex than the person I'm with. Always, be it a long term relationship or a whirlwind fling. However, I seem to have a habit of choosing partners who don't want that much sex. My husband is just perfectly satisfied to get it on about twice a month.

    By the way, does anyone wanna do it?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Dottie Rebel View Post
    ^^^Of course. I'm bizarre though. Sometimes all I want to do is sucky sucky. Inevitably, however, this gets me super horny and I end up hopping on. In fact, when I'm having problems getting wet, I just go down for a little bit and--shazzam!

    Back on topic, I ALWAYS want more sex than the person I'm with. Always, be it a long term relationship or a whirlwind fling. However, I seem to have a habit of choosing partners who don't want that much sex. My husband is just perfectly satisfied to get it on about twice a month.

    By the way, does anyone wanna do it?
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    I dunno. Sometimes she wants it more than me. Sometimes I want it more than her. Usually we're both willing when the other is.

    Her horniness cycle has more peaks and valleys and mine is more of a flat line. If you really dug the truth out of me, I might guess that besides orgasms feeling really good, she also enjoys it for validation of love, whereas I enjoy it because .... well, orgasms feel really good.

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    I'm reminded of that old saw:
    "Women need a reason; men need a place."

    Regarding the OP, I find it hard to generalize. But of course I will now generalize <g>. My sense is that once a woman overcomes her culturally influenced "good girls don't want it that much, and definitely don't go looking/asking for it" early training (let's hear it for self-aware, confident women around age 30!), they can be just as randy as most guys.

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    men want it more i think. of course what do i know it's been about 4 years sense ive had any .....



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    Quote Originally Posted by KaliThorne View Post
    I am an extremely horny female. I love sex but most of the time I don't think dealing with most males is really appeals to me. Too many will either:
    1. Treat you like crap after sex
    2. Get possesive over you after sex
    3. Give you a disease
    4. Not be able to pleasure you anyway
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    ^ #4 just breaks my heart. I mean, honestly. Sweetheart, you deserve so much better.
    Always a smooth talker you! #3 scares me more. However pleasuring a woman is a language spoken between partners. The distance of a sexual relationship is defined by how well you understand each other in that area. Though powerful, and a nice thought, I fear a woman who's easily served by the majority.

    Women have bodies that are designed to be sexually stimulated and sexually overwhelmed. They have much more intense, prolonged, physically exhausting and mentally overwhelming sexual responses than men do, as long as the men they are with know what the hell they are doing (and at the end of the day, the men are not really necessary at all -- only the thought of them.) Women can cum in so many ways, for so long, and in such intense waves of prolonged pleasure that it's like they are almost a separate species. It's why learning to play a woman's body like a musical instrument, hard and determined, to drive her to new levels of uncontrolled, throat-wrenching, hair-pulling, explosively overwhelming, legs-around-the-neck physical insanity for long, repeated, intense periods is the only way she is ever going to remain interested in you.
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    I don't know but my husband can be sick as a dog and I say the word sex and he's up for it no matter what, me I have a head ache he decides he wants to even suggest sex and I give him the death look. I think it varies from person to person but I don't know if hormonal, physical thing is a fact.

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    ^^^
    hahah my bf knows that look well.

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    Quote Originally Posted by The Other Owner View Post
    Males have 60x the level of testosterone, which we live with all the time, and this causes us to do all sorts of crazy and wild shit because we have no cycles. It's why most extreme fetishism comes from males, as well as most deviant behavior. You try living with this level of testosterone. It practically blew our heads open at age 13 and we've had to deal with it ever since.

    We are perpetually driven to try to fuck anything that can't outrun us.

    The reason women are more driven has less to do with hormones than it has to do with their bodies and their physiology. Women have bodies that are designed to be sexually stimulated and sexually overwhelmed. They have much more intense, prolonged, physically exhausting and mentally overwhelming sexual responses than men do, as long as the men they are with know what the hell they are doing (and at the end of the day, the men are not really necessary at all -- only the thought of them.) Women can cum in so many ways, for so long, and in such intense waves of prolonged pleasure that it's like they are almost a separate species. It's why learning to play a woman's body like a musical instrument, hard and determined, to drive her to new levels of uncontrolled, throat-wrenching, hair-pulling, explosively overwhelming, legs-around-the-neck physical insanity for long, repeated, intense periods is the only way she is ever going to remain interested in you.
    ... i hate to say it but this POST made me horny. no... really. some people are turned on by visual stimuli, some are purely physical... I'm a verbal-cerebral sex fiend on a solo basis. I think about sex all the time... even when i'm burned out at the club or not "in the mood" or sore as hell or whatever, it doesn't mean I'm not THINKIng about it quite actively. Most of the women I know (then again they're either strippers, feminists, or both... ) definitely crave sex as much as guys.

    and i would also have to add that "deviance" is more cultural than sexual... what are thought of as "deviant" sexual acts (besides kinky stuff and bdsm, etc... I am talking aggro- illegal/mysogynistic type shit) is more about power anyway. Fetishism, in its various forms ad functions, as opposed to deviance, I have found to be equally embraced by both sexes... after all, takes two to tango.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Embyr View Post
    .. Fetishism, in its various forms ad functions, as opposed to deviance, I have found to be equally embraced by both sexes... after all, takes two to tango.
    Theoretical in the extreme, but worth discussing!

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