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    Quote Originally Posted by josie View Post

    Has anyone noticed that men have trouble taking "no" for an answer. The other day at school a classmate asked me out. "No thanks," I said. "I have a boyfriend."
    He went on to tell me that I should just give him a chance, its worth a try, etc. I'd never even more than a 10 minute conversation with this guy before. So frustrating! No means no, d-bag!
    Ugh yes. Reminds me of a guy I had the misfortune of sitting next to on a plane last week. He kept trying to make small talk, which irritated me well enough (hint: when you see someone reading a book, chances are they don't want conversation; shut up and leave them alone.) But then that "small talk" went straight from "so where do you go to school?" to "Hey, I bet you'd be wild in bed. Do you like black girls? Cause a lady friend of mine and I are looking for a partner, heh heh heh." EW. Sleazebag. WTF is wrong with people; asking a complete stranger for sex? I said I wasn't interested. He said "ooh, I love a challenge. We ARE going to hook up when we get back to Baltimore; you can just put your number in here" and hands me his cell phone. What part of NO did you not understand, pushy cocky asshole? Talking to him made me feel like I needed a shower. ew ew ew.

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    Ugh yes. Reminds me of a guy I had the misfortune of sitting next to on a plane last week. He kept trying to make small talk, which irritated me well enough (hint: when you see someone reading a book, chances are they don't want conversation; shut up and leave them alone.) But then that "small talk" went straight from "so where do you go to school?" to "Hey, I bet you'd be wild in bed. Do you like black girls? Cause a lady friend of mine and I are looking for a partner, heh heh heh." EW. Sleazebag. WTF is wrong with people; asking a complete stranger for sex? I said I wasn't interested. He said "ooh, I love a challenge. We ARE going to hook up when we get back to Baltimore; you can just put your number in here" and hands me his cell phone. What part of NO did you not understand, pushy cocky asshole? Talking to him made me feel like I needed a shower. ew ew ew.
    I hate when guys do that! I just want to scream, "DOES THAT EVER WORK?!" Guys like that are lucky if I FART in their general direction, let alone hand them my phone number. Too bad you didn't have any hot coffee to throw in his face.

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    i can't stand men usually.

    especially ones who LIE thinking its cute. the other night some guy tried telling me "you know me from work remember?"

    i said "oh! did i give you a makeover?'
    "bitches LOOOOVE smiley faces!!"

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    Quote Originally Posted by Picaresque View Post
    Ugh yes. Reminds me of a guy I had the misfortune of sitting next to on a plane last week. He kept trying to make small talk, which irritated me well enough (hint: when you see someone reading a book, chances are they don't want conversation; shut up and leave them alone.) But then that "small talk" went straight from "so where do you go to school?" to "Hey, I bet you'd be wild in bed. Do you like black girls? Cause a lady friend of mine and I are looking for a partner, heh heh heh." EW. Sleazebag. WTF is wrong with people; asking a complete stranger for sex? I said I wasn't interested. He said "ooh, I love a challenge. We ARE going to hook up when we get back to Baltimore; you can just put your number in here" and hands me his cell phone. What part of NO did you not understand, pushy cocky asshole? Talking to him made me feel like I needed a shower. ew ew ew.
    I hate it when guys do that! Sometimes I'm not feeling sociable and guys always try to make conversation with me if I'm on a bus, train, or plane, or in line at the grocery store. Now I always bring my MP3 player if I have to wait for a bus or if I'm stuck waiting somewhere so I don't get stuck talking to someone if I don't feel like it. I'm not a bitch but sometimes I just want to be left alone. Lots of people won't respect a book or a magazine as a sign to not talk to you, but most people will leave you alone if they see you have headphones on.






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    Default Re: Girls, do you begin disliking guys even OUT after working as a dancer?

    Quote Originally Posted by Picaresque View Post
    Ugh yes. Reminds me of a guy I had the misfortune of sitting next to on a plane last week. ... Talking to him made me feel like I needed a shower. ew ew ew.
    You could have told the flight attendant that he was sexually harassing you and asked her to move him to a different seat. You might even have got a free flight out of it.

    No need to put up with such boorish behavior. Note that he did not know you were a dancer, so he would have hit on any attractive woman he encountered. Such people should not be patiently tolerated, although I do admire that you did put up with him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by blondhottie View Post
    I hate it when guys do that! Sometimes I'm not feeling sociable and guys always try to make conversation with me if I'm on a bus, train, or plane, or in line at the grocery store. Now I always bring my MP3 player if I have to wait for a bus or if I'm stuck waiting somewhere so I don't get stuck talking to someone if I don't feel like it. I'm not a bitch but sometimes I just want to be left alone. Lots of people won't respect a book or a magazine as a sign to not talk to you, but most people will leave you alone if they see you have headphones on.
    Yeah, this is the kind of crap I've gotten really firm about since I started dancing. I used to feel trapped, like I had to make conversation with the guy, even though I was completely uncomfortable. Now, if I don't feel like talking (which is most of the time) I just say, "Excuse me" and go back to my book. Guys act all offended sometimes, but I honestly don't care. They're the ones who are out of line, not me. I'm not obligated to talk to people just because I happen to be riding the bus. I have a right to my privacy.

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    Nope, work is work, outside of work I'm the normal me. I totally switch into a different person during work and when I'm done I switch into the normal girlfriend.I like to keep the two worlds seperate.

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    Default Re: Girls, do you begin disliking guys even OUT after working as a dancer?

    I hate men and it's because of dancing.We have to put up with so much verbal abuse and insults from stupid drunk guys (especially the weekend crowds) that in the day to day life i want nothing to do with them because i feel like i have seen that it only takes a few beers to turn them into animals. I think it helps if you have a sweet boyfriend and then you realise that not all of them are like that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by miss cleo View Post
    it only takes a few beers to turn them into animals.
    I've seen examples of this more times than I care to mention. They walk in the club like normal men, some even semi-pleasant to talk to. Then later in the night

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    Quote Originally Posted by jaizaine View Post
    I've seen examples of this more times than I care to mention. They walk in the club like normal men, some even semi-pleasant to talk to. Then later in the night
    From 1am-2am is always the worst for me...that's why I always tried to get to work early enough that I could leave before 1am. It seems like everyone gets weird after 1am.

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    My problem is I was already like that about men and I find it hard to switch it off INSIDE the club.

    I am WAY too on gaurd at work and dont give of myself or let anyone in and it doesnt make me any money.
    "Sex is currency. What's the use of being beautiful if you can't profit from it?" - Lily St Cyr (40's burlesque dancer)

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    Quote Originally Posted by virgoamm View Post
    The one thing I did notice though was not caring much at all about trying to look sexy when I went out to do things because I didn't want men gawking at me like I did before because I got plenty enough of that at the club.
    I never dress nicely when I go out of the house. Unless of course I am meeting friends or going out for dinner or a night out!

    People are always telling me I should smile more and I often think I could get so much for free and whatever if I used my womanly charms but I totally switch that side off because if I smile and be feminine, guys just want to fuck me. Every fucking time! And I hate having to deal with that.
    "Sex is currency. What's the use of being beautiful if you can't profit from it?" - Lily St Cyr (40's burlesque dancer)

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    isnt it funny that dating a stripper is what most men want to do but we are probably the hardest girls to get a date with haha!

    i think doing this job has made me very disinterested in men. right now, i am totally uninterested in men. i feel like i am a-sexual. i havent had sex since new years day and i havent missed it. ive not seen one guy im sexually attracted to and havent really thought about getting it on with anyone.

    i think it also may hav to do with my ex being to clingy and thats made me even more weary of having a boyfriend.

    we cant tar everyone with the same brush, but men certainly dont do themselves any favours in general.
    "Sex is currency. What's the use of being beautiful if you can't profit from it?" - Lily St Cyr (40's burlesque dancer)

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    Quote Originally Posted by Paris View Post
    Society has changed and honor no longer has a place in this self centered, make-the-money, pimp-the-bitches world. *sigh*
    thats exactly what i said to a custy last night. he asked me what i look for in a man and i said "respect and honour" and he was so surprised and went on to tell me how he grew up and how that was important in his family growing up and he never expected that to come out of my mouth. however we did hav a very long intellectual conversation about sociology and politics. unfortunately it was for free

    but back to my point. i am single because i want a man who has respect and is honourable and that is a very rare find. but i am willing to bide my time.
    "Sex is currency. What's the use of being beautiful if you can't profit from it?" - Lily St Cyr (40's burlesque dancer)

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    Quote Originally Posted by cinammonkisses View Post
    I dont hate guys, I just feel like, "dam why is he hitting on me here, I shoudl've met him at work" lol that's what crosses my mind now.
    hahahahaha! me too!
    "Sex is currency. What's the use of being beautiful if you can't profit from it?" - Lily St Cyr (40's burlesque dancer)

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    This whole thread is proof that we need to change to a Matriarchy.

    I really think I am turning into a full fledged feminist female supremacist.

    I am wary of becoming a man hater, but I am very very PRO women. And I consider this to be Neo-Feminism. PRO women, not anti men.

    Women need to be educated and the women's magazines need to be stopped. Seriously, 101 ways to please your man in bed, the right shade of lipstick to make him want to marry you, how to cook a delicious meal so he never wants to leave, get liposuction, fake boobs, lip injections and $1000 face cream so he wont stray.

    Its all fucking bullshit! This job has shown me how little men are concerned about what we think they are. At work, I am a smoking hot goddess with a man's ruin body and sex appeal to make you weak at the knees.

    In the company of women, i am fat, over confident, small breasted, acne scarred skin, outgrown roots, etc etc etc

    My point is, we are being taught in the wrong direction and its distructive to women. We have been so subjugated that we sabotage ourselves now and men think its ok to treat us these bad ways cos no one knows how to conduct their own selves and train men how to truly behave cos the magazines we read dont teach us the right shit!

    That is my current stance on all things male and female. I dont expect everyone to agree with my opinion but since when were opinions made for agreeing with?
    "Sex is currency. What's the use of being beautiful if you can't profit from it?" - Lily St Cyr (40's burlesque dancer)

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    I wish i could devlop this problem I LOVE men i can't get enough of them. I don't have alot of sex I just love being around men its alot easier then hanging around women.

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    By the age of 16 I was perfectly comfortable telling guys to piss off if they were bothering me, but I came of age with Bikini Kill records. So that was there before stripping. I also knew lots of really cool guys so I didn't think all guys were jerks. I still feel the same. When I first started dancing I would say my opinions about women changed far more than those about men.

    I did go through a social burnout period when I would practically snap at the grocery checkout guy, cab driver, etc. for making small talk before I came back to my senses and realized that's just normal behavior.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Susan Wayward View Post
    By the age of 16 I was perfectly comfortable telling guys to piss off if they were bothering me, but I came of age with Bikini Kill records.
    Hell yeah!

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    i hate the same type of men inside the club that i hate outside of the club. fortunately, it's way more common for me to run into those types inside the club. i don't tend to hang out in places where men are generaly assholes. also, i'm very lucky to have a decent ammount of great male friends. that, and knowing a few great men in my family (like my step dad) helps keeps things in perspective for me. once i hit work the jerk ratio goes up, but that's the nature of the bizz.

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