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    REALLY ANNOYING LAST NIGHT!!:
    So, I went up to a guy while it was slow and talked to him a little bit. He was really into my convo and bought me a drink. About 10 minutes later, it was my turn to go on stage, so I said, "Sorry, I have to go on stage now, but I'll catch you as soon as I get off". He seemed pleased about that. So, after my set, I did my tip walk. He was sitting at the bar, so when I got to him, I said I'd just have to finish my walk and I'd come get him. Toward the end of my walk, another guy pulled me in for a dance. ONE SONG. I had to take the opportunity at the time, slow night. When I came out of the lapdance room, the original guy was nowhere to be seen. So, I went over and did a few table dances for another guy. When I came back from THAT, the guy was at the bar. I went up and asked if he wanted to get a dance now, and he said sorry, no!! And he said it in a way like he was "showing" me for going off at getting dances with other guys. I was like, "Are you sure"? And he just looked at me like he was very disappointed in me, like he was shaking his head that I was SOOOO Sad. That is absolutely ridiculous!!! I'm in the club to work!!! GET A LIFE, AAAARGH!!!
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    Hell, if he wanted you so bad he should have snatched you up at the start of your conversation! I hate customers that feel like they own you and want you to just sit and bullshit with them all night.
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    the response i'd have said, is, "im at work, and if someone puts $20 in my hand, i have to do that dance. but im here now, and i WANT to dance for you, that's why i took the time to come over here. if i didnt want to dance for you, i would have avoided you. now let's go have fun and forget this silliness."
    (situ happened to me before too parker) a lil reverse psych never hurt anyone

    Love it!

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    This has happened to me. Not long ago a regular of mine "punished" me for dancing with someone else -- who came up to my stage and asked for dances -- by spending all his money on someone else. *shrug*

    I apologized for keeping him waiting, made a song and dance about how much I'd rather be dancing for him, and told him I was ready to dance for him now (rather than asking him if he was ready.) He ended up spending some money on me anyway. I would've liked to have what he spent on the other girl, too, but hey. Sometimes you gotta share the wealth.

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    I agree with all the prev. posters: yea, if he was that into you he would've gotten the dance at back before you even got on stage to dance. I like the reverse psych the Chrissy uses too. Grace, I've never had a regular do that to me before..they all respect my hustle and "know" that I dont really want to be dancing for some strange ol' man anyway, I'd rather be with them. I have had customers try to throw that guilt trip on me as well. I just used to be honest and tell them that I tried scoping the crowd to find them before I went and did the dance, but hey you were no where to be found. BUT hey, I'm ready now.

    I've been dancing almost 1 1/2yrs..I'm getting tired of spoiling these men in here..







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    If I get any resistance to a pre-stage dance for someone, I say something to the effect like 'oh too bad... I dance so much better when someone warms me up right *smirk*, and *sigh* I get so busy after my stage...' But anyway that was a crap thing of him to do, bad form!

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    Unless it's totally dead, customers like that I usually just walk away from, they seem to be the type that expect you to spend all your time with them and then barely pay you anything. They're the ones that say $10 for a table dance, that's too expensive!!!!

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    eh, I find that I work better when the guy gets jealous, it makes me feel so awesome! and, those guys seem like target vip custys (hide you away from everyone else!)

    I don't do the tip walk thing, some girls do, but I'd rather invest time in just a few guys rather then planting many seeds.

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    i wouldn't even let it bother you,if i were you....got other more important things to be thinking about and be concerned about.

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    Okay, not that I really want to be putting my neck on the chopping block here.. buuuuuut.. from a custie point of view.. if a dancer tells me not once, but twice that she's coming right over to be with me, and then goes off into another room for dances with another customer?? I'm going to be a little ticked.. not from an irrational jealousy point of view cuz that's silly.. but from a common courtesy point of view. I mean, how would I know if it was for one quick song, or ten??

    I've hung out in clubs when it was slow, and had girls do similar things like that.. but they've always come running up and said something to the effect of "Hey, its slow today and blahblah over there is getting ready to leave, do you mind if I give him a couple dances real quick, and then I'll be right back to rock your world?".

    So, yeah.. when you tracked me down again, I'd probably say "No thanks" as well.. I wouldn't be a big baby or act condescending or anything stupid like that guy seemed to be though.

    TG

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    I understand where Taco Goblin is coming from. Do you have to do the tip walk if there is a customer waiting for you? This guy sounded like a good prospect and I think you would have made more money from him than a few bucks from a tip walk on a slow shift. From a dude's perspective, it might look like you are doing everything BUT giving him a dance. He sees you out on the floor, busy and making money but you are not dancing for him like you said you were going to do. I also agree he didn't have to be a weirdo about it though.

    Some clubs require that you do a tip walk, but try to avoid it in this instance if you can. In the future you should check with him first and then if he isn't ready or willing to get a dance, then go ask for tips.

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    It is a male ego sort of thing - by saying "I'll catch you as soon as I get off [stage]" then going for a dance with another customer as soon as you did so, you convinced the first customer that he was lower in the pecking order than the second customer.

    How would a typical dancer feel if she came back for a promised dance and the guy said; "No thanks, I've decided that dancer over there is more to my taste and I'm going to have a dance with her instead".

    Probably a mirror image of what the first customer felt.

    As Taco Goblin said, coming over and giving a valid reason why you've got to give the other guy a dance first is both good politics and good manners.

    It wouldn't even do any harm to make with a white lie and say "I'm getting this guy out of the way first so I can really concentrate on your dance" or such like.

    Phil.

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    Good points from the customers. In my case, I did wish in retrospect that I had gone to my regular first. It was only the second time he had been to see me, and for some reason his behavior made me think he was going to want me to hang out for free all night...he was really playing the "buddy" card. I'd asked him before I went on stage if he wanted a dance and he gave me the "in a minute" routine. The other guy just seemed like a better prospect. Oh, well. You can't win 'em all.

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