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    I just started at this club a week ago, and tonight the manager asked me if I would give this guy a free lapdance because he fixed the DJ's car. I didn't want to be considered rude (plus it was super busy tonight) and selfish, so I said sure. I was able to get him to buy two more dances, so it wasn't that bad. My question is-- is it wrong to not want to give it away for free? I was grateful for the dj and even gave her an extra tip because she burned my music for me etc. but I was working like a dog and didn't even get a chance to sit down before I got asked for a freebie. Not to mention the guy offered me a line of coke as a tip I guess I shouldn't bitch too much considering I made good out of the situation, just wanted some feedback.

    Also...at the end of the night the manager was putting together a card for one of the girls and I wasn't going to sign it because I don't even know her. He told me to sign it and I did, and he goes, "Okay I need $10." I was like, "Okay...." So I handed it over. I'm new and don't want to seem like a complete bitch but if this keeps going on, the bitch is going to come out.

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    Um, no, it's not weird to not want to work for free. You could reason that if you were willing to give out the freebie dance, you'd work your way into the DJ's good graces which is good. But then the manager telling you to give him $10? Hell no, he's taking advantage of the new girl. He just cost you $10 + a dance! Next time, politely decline and walk away.

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    What a crock of shit. The only good thing about this story is that your club has the imagination to have a female DJ.

    Look, I'm a man. I have the feelings of a man, it no doubt shows in my posts, and I might even piss some people off here because of it sometimes.

    But I was raised by a very strong-willed woman, who taught me to be strong and look out for myself, as any real man or woman should. A real man or woman seeks not to impose bullshit on others, but to be free, and to let others attain their maximum power.

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    The manager asked you to give some guy a dance because the guy fixed the dj's car? Then either the manager or dj should have bought the dance for that guy, not offered to give it away free. This manager essentially offered a free service for a business he doesn't own. Your an independant contractor, that lap dance wasn't his to offer. You should have said no.

    If you allow people to walk on you, they will. You dont have to be rude about it, just politely stand up for yourself. You dont want to be known as the new girl who is a doormat, then everyone will try to walk on you.

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    Thats not cool at all. Dont make a habit of doing it or they will keep asking u too. Say no next time, make something up ie. you have a customer waiting if you dont feel ok with just saying no.

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    Lesson learned, thanks guys. I knew all of this deep down, I just needed a little validation. They know it's hard when you're a newbie and trying not to make any waves, so it's obvious that you're going to be considered easy prey. That will be the last time I get taken advantage of.

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    That really makes me mad. You're not a worthless piece of meat like the manager is making you feel. He manages the fucking club, he should at least have $10. *rawwwwwrr* Next time he does something like that, you give me a call

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    Dont EVER let anyone bully you into doing ANYTHING for free. Just tell them ..sorry..I'm working. If YOU'D like to BUY him a dance from me to thank him I'd be happy to do it...otherwise why is it YOUR responsibility to settle the DJ's debts?? They are using you as a piece of meat...."thanks for the favor..I'll just get one of my girls to do something to make it up to you"
    Fuck a whole bunch of that.

    And I would have just very nicely said that I would be happy to donate to a girl i KNEW...but to ask for ...no less DEMAND money for a girls b-day that you dont even know?? Again...Fuck a whole bunch of that.

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    as far as the free dance- DO NOT EVER give anything away for free. you are worth more than that. if you went to a dominos and asked for a free pizza, you'd be laughed out the door. if they ask again, make a bargain- you do a free dance and pay no house fees- and get it in writing with a witness (like another dacer or house mom) the house fee should be higher than the dance price.

    if the manager asks for money again, say 'what for?' and get another girl (one who's been there awhile and knows the drill) and say, why do we give the manager $10?' that'll put the manager on the spot.

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    depending on the situation a free dance is ok.. ive been dancing for a year and ive only done one free dance, one of the girls brothers came in and he was going to iraq, he was perfectly well behaved so i dont see anytthing wrong with that. If it was one of the DJ's i really liked i would have done the same thing.

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    Ain't nothin' in this world for free......screw that shit. Don't let people do that to you, even if you are the 'new girl' you can tell them no.

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    Quote Originally Posted by barbiedawl View Post
    depending on the situation a free dance is ok.. ive been dancing for a year and ive only done one free dance, one of the girls brothers came in and he was going to iraq, he was perfectly well behaved so i dont see anytthing wrong with that. If it was one of the DJ's i really liked i would have done the same thing.
    If YOU decide you WANT to do one..thats fine. Ordering someone to do a dance for free...to pay back a favor that had nothing to do with her no less...is crap
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    Quote Originally Posted by barbiedawl View Post
    depending on the situation a free dance is ok.. ive been dancing for a year and ive only done one free dance, one of the girls brothers came in and he was going to iraq, he was perfectly well behaved so i dont see anytthing wrong with that. If it was one of the DJ's i really liked i would have done the same thing.
    Yea, but see you OFFERED to do it..The OP was asked to do it by the manager, for helping the DJ. F*** that...I would've asked who's paying.







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    Default Re: Free lapdance?

    i will never give a free lapdance to someone i don't know. ever.

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    ^ ditto


    The only time I've ever given a free dance is to a guy who changed my tire, I gave him a pass and a dance when he got there. Oh, and to a really good reg for his bday, but he spent ^500$ a week.

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    I've only given one free dance in my life and that was to a photographer/friend who did an hours-long photo shoot with me and two other girls for very little money. So when he came to drop off the photos, me and one of the other girls danced for him.
    You are not obligated to give away free services. Any manager worth his salt would compensate you for the dance and THEN some for being available at the very least. That guy sounds like a total dick - the kind of man I love to hate. You can rest assured that he and I would be at total odds with each other until I left or he kicked me out - probably the former.
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    Someone can get a free lapdance if they fix MY car for free... they can go fuck themselves if they want a free lappy for fixing someone ELSE'S car for free...

    I can't believe how fucking ENTITLED these people think they are!!


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    if the guy fixed your djs car then it should be the dj giving the free dance or eve better your manager
    what a wanker (manager)

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    Well, on the first point I can see how it might be kosher. Because you mentioned the DJ did you a favor, and she owed the custy a favor for fixing her ride, so you squared everyone by dancing free for the guy on the DJ's behalf. I'm just hoping the manager was aware of that dynamic, otherwise I'd say his request was totally outta line, although it still evens everyone up in any case.

    Second point, yeah that WAS outta line.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lilithmorrigan View Post
    Someone can get a free lapdance if they fix MY car for free... they can go fuck themselves if they want a free lappy for fixing someone ELSE'S car for free...

    I can't believe how fucking ENTITLED these people think they are!!
    Exactly.

    I'm confused as to what the $10 was for? Was there any explanation? Did you even ask what it was for??

    If my manager told me to give someone a free dance, I honestly don't know what I'd do. This thread has really made me think. I think I'd just stare blankly and ask them to keep repeating themselves until they realized how stupid it was to ask. Like, "You want me to do what? For free? No tip? Do I still have to pay base? Why? What? A FREE dance??"
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    That's kind of fucked up. If my manager asked me to give a free dance, like a ONE song, three minute lapdance I would do it.... but he helps me out all the time, I've known him for years, and I would assume there was a good fucking reason for it. (He has never asked me to do a free dance, btw) Yet, for him to just "tell" you to do it as if he owned you.... meehshhh, I wouldn't like that. If anything, I would just say, "I am sooo busy with a customer, I really can't do a dance right now.."

    I think the ten dollar thing was fucked up... was it a birthday card, get well card???
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    uhh the DJ should be giving dood a free lap dance imo, not you.

    edit: just noticed someone else said this too, ahaha.

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