Sometimes I swear, if I hadn't met some great guy friends, I'd swear I'd just swear off the male race!
So when I was in Germany, my husband and I were a part of an online expatriate forum for english speaking people living in Germany. I arranged a meetup at a local Irish pub for fish'n chips and drinks with the people from the forum and we had a good turnout, about 14 of us. One fellow had been very helpful and polite to R and I with our questions on the forum, and I got to chatting with him over many things. He seemed to be a very nice guy and I thought "Hey, I made a friend".
Fast forward to today. I had added him to my Yahoo Messenger and had been chatting with him here and there since I came back to Arizona. Now, I got the distinct feeling he was trying to constantly hit on me, but I tried to ignore it and hoped he would knock it off. (changed the subject, etc.) It was making me uncomfortable.
Well just a couple minutes ago he messeged me and was pretty quick with the flirting. When I did not respond to it and changed the subject, he started going "You're such a tease!" I thought he was joking, so I said "No, never". He kept saying it, so I finally said, "No, I married, and no tease. I'm sorry if you take my politeness as being a tease". He right away goes, "Ok! Goodbye!"
Now I thought he was still halfway joking so I said "You're strange, I was just being nice to you and now I get the feeling I have offended you", to which he replied "Go away!".
Well, ok. I immediately deleted this foul being from my messenger.
I'm so pissed. I just wanted to make new friends. He was interesting to talk to at the meetup. Now I guess all he wanted was to scam on me behind R's back, which is not cool. What the fuck is wrong with guys? Just because I'm nice doesn't mean you have some chance to date/fuck me! I'm fucking married! Grr.....


". He kept saying it, so I finally said, "No, I married, and no tease. I'm sorry if you take my politeness as being a tease". He right away goes, "Ok! Goodbye!"
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Every one of those actions was like holding open a door and inviting you to move through it. And you knew it instinctively because it made you uncomfortable. You didn't pursue his overtures but you also didn't move away fast enough for him to get discouraged. In the end, you didn't do anything wrong; he's simply an ass to get into a huff. He should have been better about reading the clues that you were only friends in the first place, but regardless, he definitely should have politely backed off when he finally got the idea. Eff him. Um, figuratively.
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