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    The managers at my club are usually pretty easy to deal with...

    and then, BAM! One of them will just blow up in your face and scream on the slightest provocation.

    example:
    Last night, our GM seemed like he was doing great. He was smiling and chatty and friendly with everyone.

    At the end of the night, I got fined for not making the end of the night "showtime" and I went into the office to see if I could have it removed.

    ...I was in the champagne room where there is no clock and it is standard for a bouncer to come and get you when your time is up. Our time ended at 2:00 sharp --closing time-- I heard them announce showtime, but since sometimes they do it at 1:45 bar time or 2:05 bar time or any point in time in between, usually, I stayed with the customer because no one came and got us...

    I told him I didn't know when it was two o'clock and he said, "bar time is always the same"...at which point i tried to explain that because showtime is variable, I couldn't actually know when 2:00 bar time hit

    but he blew up in face and screamed at me. screamed. yelled "I HAVE A BUSINESS TO RUN!!! GET THE FUCK OUT OF MY OFFICE!!!!"

    ...and he'd been so outgoing and energetic and friendly not an hour and a half before...his new underling, "J" assistant manager or whatever, is the same way. barks and screams and yells when he feels like it. i think they might be on coke or something because "J" came in on an off night with a friend of his, who got dances from me in VIP and offered me like, an 8 ball of cocaine. he told me he didn't blow coke anymore and he just kind of wound up with and 8 ball and he figured he'd give it to someone who would enjoy it...yeah. right. I declined. I haven't told anyone about it.

    so these guys don't really look or act seem like they'd be the kind of guys who blow coke all night behind locked office doors...I have no idea. that's beside the point.

    The point is that this is killing me. I'm on edge. I never know when I'm going to royally piss someone off and really get it. I'm always scared. I don't know how to act. I try to show respect so they won't do it, but it doesn't seem to matter. One little slip up and I'm toast.

    I feel disrespected, and I don't know what I'm supposed to do when they wanna charge me money but scream at me before I can say anything about it.

    I've been crying. I put a new spiderweb in my windshield. I feel like shit. I hate this. They are so unpredictable. I hate this. It tortures me. Even though it's only once every few weeks, or even months and months between between incidents...I hate it.

    I don't think I have any recourse. What can I do? This guy is the general manager, and the other one is a very close friend of his, he even took him on vacation with his wife!

    I like this club, I really want to stay because when people aren't yelling at me all the time, it's where I'm comfortable and can make decent money without fines all the other b.s. I can't handle.

    I'm an independant contractor, not an employee, so I don't know if I have any protection at all. I mean, is there any sort of protection for contractors like this? This is a hostile work environment, so since I work with him, is he responsible for keeping it un-hostile whether I'm his employee or not?

    I can't take this shit. It really hurts. I should be tougher, I know, but this is abusive and humans aren't built for that. It's too much. My chest is tight, I'm anxious, all my muscles are tense, I keep clenching my jaw...and I was so happy to go to work last night! It really kills morale. I'm gonna go in and give it my best shot tonight and put that behind me and get psyched about tonight...

    but really, it's eating me inside and i'm not sure if i can handle it.

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    Okay, that was really long, but the bottom line is, how can I make this stop?

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    yeah..that sounds like either coke or 'roid rage.

    You have three choices:

    1) ignore it and know it isnt personal
    2) tell him that you dont appreciate being spoken to that way and if it continues go to the owner about it..preferably with several other girls with the same complaint
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    3) find another club

    The guy is acting like an ass and nobody should have to take that....but like I said..dont take it personally. He's likely already forgotten he said it.
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    Wow! Why are so many SC managers such jerks? I've heard the "I have a business to run" line so many times that it sickens me. What? You have to unlock the club door, collect house fees, and then sit on your ass the rest of the night. This isn't the case 100% of the time but seriously, why are so many managers cranky, rude, and verbally abusive?
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    I think there are two reasons;

    Drugs

    Stupidity


    A whole lot of them are on drugs. My first club was probably the best I have ever worked in, in terms of location, physical layout, dancers, customer base--lots of things. But the manager was a methhead and would sit in his office for hours, never coming out--then start running around like the fucking energizer bunny, trying to do everything at once.

    And I quickly learned that the worst thing you could do was bring anything wrong to his attention--ANYTHING--even if it had NOTHING to do with your job, or you at all. He would immediately start screaming at you, lol! It was automatically your fault.


    The stupidity means that they cannot cope, and feel threatened at any reminder of how very, very difficult it is for them to "run a fucking business!"

    They can't.

    They suck at it, almost invariably. The only reason stripclubs do well regardless is because a stripclub is a potential goldmine if it is run well, and will probably turn a profit even with a drug-addled embezzling pimp at the helm.

    Oh, they ACT like they are running a business, usually by yelling at people, looking serious all the time, or my personal favorite, running around with a clipboard without ever writing anything on it (true story). But most of them are barely scraping by. They sometimes have themselves convinced that they are possessed of great business acumen, but the truth is never far from the surface. Hence their constant assholish behavior.



    My advice? You can try to find a better club, of course, and you should. But there is almost always going to be a certain amount of this going on (my present club is the only club I have ever seen where it doesn't happen--not that it's perfect).

    Even in a really good club there's going to be other things that will wear you down if you let them. Customers fucking with your head, other dancers fucking with your head, slimeball DJs fucking with your head, lol...

    You have to toughen up a bit. There's not a goddamned thing wrong with you, but to make it in the business you simply must develop a thicker skin. Just try to remember the kind of person you are, and love yourself--no matter what which idiot is babbling or screaming at you at the time, and move on. Learn to let it slide off you.

    They are inferior beings, and cannot really touch that which is within you.
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    [QUOTE=Djoser;1022540]

    You have to toughen up a bit. There's not a goddamned thing wrong with you, but to make it in the business you simply must develop a thicker skin. Just try to remember the kind of person you are, and love yourself--no matter what which idiot is babbling or screaming at you at the time, and move on. Learn to let it slide off you.

    They are inferior beings, and cannot really touch that which is within you.[/QUOTE)
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    Quote Originally Posted by Djoser View Post
    I think there are two reasons;

    because a stripclub is a potential goldmine if it is run well, and will probably turn a profit even with a drug-addled embezzling pimp at the helm.
    Teehee, yr funny.

    Quote Originally Posted by Djoser View Post
    running around with a clipboard without ever writing anything on it (true story).
    I used to do that! Altho I can imagine in retail/bartending it is far more necessary to NEED A CLIPBOARD that a freakin SC. What are they doing, ordering new supplies?

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    The clipboard was simultaneously a symbol of his authority--in his mind--and a security object (you know, like a teddy bear or blankie). In that sense, it was entirely unnecessary for him to write on it, merely carry it about with him at all times to make him feel better, and look important and busy.

    No one ever questioned his use of it, that I recall, including myself. But it became clear to me that's what it was all about. He has to have been the single stupidest manager I have ever worked with or heard about--I mean really, really dumb.

    This was the manager I wrote about a few years ago here, whose jaw would start twitching if anything was stressing him. It happened frequently.

    I always wanted to smack him to stop it.
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    Basically... what Djoser said.

    Drugs and stupidity. Don't let their problems become your problem. Avoid them.
    If you think school is hard, try being stupid.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bellyflower View Post
    I'm an independant contractor, not an employee, so I don't know if I have any protection at all. I mean, is there any sort of protection for contractors like this? This is a hostile work environment, so since I work with him, is he responsible for keeping it un-hostile whether I'm his employee or not?
    Excluding those situations where there's a collective bargaining agreement and/or a civil service system that governs, outside of a fairly limited number of rather well-established and well-defined sets of circumstances there is very little difference re how an employer can and cannot behave vis-a-vis those who work for him, whether they're employees or independent contractors. IOW, given you're description of his behavior, the fact that you're an IC vs. an employee matters not.
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    The managers in the clubs don't care. Managers will facilitate pimps, and don't care if their girls are happy or not. They don't care about drug abuse, battered women, etc. That says it all.

    If you won't put up with it, someone else will. That's their attitude. You are just a chick with two legs and two arms, just like the other blue million out there who are willing to work there.

    Corporations will offer the world out here to get well-adjusted, highly-motivated, bright women to work for them. Why on earth anyone would choose to grind on someone's lap for cash when there are so many other fulfilling opportunities they could be spending their time on is a wonder to me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by erotictonic View Post
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    Corporations will offer the world out here to get well-adjusted, highly-motivated, bright women to work for them. Why on earth anyone would choose to grind on someone's lap for cash when there are so many other fulfilling opportunities they could be spending their time on is a wonder to me.
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    As you indicated you are an independant contractor so laws that regulate employment - such as antidiscrimination etc do not apply to u. There is nothing you can do. If you dont like it your only option is to ignore it or leave unfortunately.

    I always wear a watch and it's synchronised with the clock at work - that way I am never late. Clubs will fine girls at every chance they have, to raise revenue.

    The way he spoke to you was disrespectful but it doesnt sound like the type of place where u would get anywhere by standing up to him and demanding better treatment.

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    Quote Originally Posted by erotictonic View Post
    Corporations will offer the world out here to get well-adjusted, highly-motivated, bright women to work for them. Why on earth anyone would choose to grind on someone's lap for cash when there are so many other fulfilling opportunities they could be spending their time on is a wonder to me.
    Ah ok..........

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    Quote Originally Posted by Optimist View Post
    You weren't confused when you were doing the grinding.
    Actually, I was. Not to mention, I didn't have a choice in the matter. I never actually chose to dance but for two weeks out of my life when I was naive and couldn't remember my past. Also, I hated it and thought it was disgusting the whole time I was doing it, but that's not the point. The point is that there are greener pastures to be had, so why make that life choice?

    Besides, even if I thought I wasn't confused then, that would just mean I have learned better now. Ummm, you weren't confused when you were two and you ate a bowl of mashed potatoes with a knife.

    In other words, if I had had any other way of making money, I sure wouldn't have been there. It's like choosing a bowl of microwaved soup when you could have steak.

    The pros of working a real job are: 1) You get respect from your colleagues and superiors, 2) You are contributing and get a real sense of achievement, 3) You are growing, 4) The obvious - You aren't being groped by a bunch of strangers, and 5) Higher level of safety and security in your life. Why put yourself in an environment where you are not safe, where you will more-than-likely be touched by strangers, where the managers are arrogant, self-serving, uncaring, abusing losers, and you are stagnant and not really growing career-wise, when you can make the same or more money elsewhere and get better treatment and self-rewards?

    I don't have a problem with other people choosing that. I just don't see why they are doing it if they don't have to.
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    Okay, I had a very nasty post in reply to you Erotictonic, but, I decided to not bite the bait on this one.

    All I will say is, shut up.
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    Then why the fuck do u come on SW? Geez get the violin out - you HAD to strip, yeah like there were no other options.

    Most of the women here strip coz they choose to strip. Your comments are out of line and sad.

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    Quote Originally Posted by erotictonic View Post

    T: 1) You get respect from your colleagues and superiors, 2) You are contributing and get a real sense of achievement, 3) You are growing, 4) The obvious - You aren't being groped by a bunch of strangers, and 5) Higher level of safety and security in your life.
    Are you fucking kidding me? ALL of the above have NOT HAPPENED to me in any of the "real jobs" I've worked in, and some of them all 5 occur at once. So I might as well make $500 + cash a night to deal with that.

    Generalizing "real jobs" is just like microwaving soup when you could have steak!!!!!!!


    That's the funniest fucking analogy ever, thanx for that!

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    WTF? Is she a troll or something? Why are you here derailing topics and discussing things with us "lower life forms" if you hate stripping so much? Please firmly cram your Real Job Speech as far into your rectal region as possible.
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    OK back to Bellyflower's problem -

    If it were me personally, I would have shouted "I HAVE A BUSINESS TO RUN TOO AND I AM NOT A CHILD SO DON'T YELL AT ME LIKE I AM ONE." at him when he said that. I never put up with managers trying to treat me like crap. I am always prepared to walk out the door to back it up. They usually ask me to come back and then things are cool. If not, then I find somewhere else that is tolerable. YOU don't have to put up with it either. I'm sorry to say but you have to be much firmer with them. As gross as it is, you have to kind of play on their level and they might show you a bit more respect. Either that or find another club where it is not so hostile and abusive.
    That guy is an absolute jerkoff. Whatever his reasons are for being that way don't matter. What matters is that you are emotionally healthy and able to do your job in a comfortable environment. It's hard enough dealing with customers trying to be abusive, let alone immature coked out managers.

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    There's no reason to be scared of these guys. Remember that all stripclub managers are nothing but spineless pussies, and they scream at girls because it makes them feel more manly

    If money is good enough at this club and you can ignore it, do that. Otherwise, I'd find a new club. NO club is worth putting up with such bullshit. I'll say it over and over and over again girls, there is NO loyalty in this business, so you shouldn't feel obligated to any club, ever. If you're being treated like crap and it's affecting your ability to work and make money, find another club. There's tons of them out there


    Oh and to erotictonic, if all you have to say is something negative about our CHOSEN profession, then get the hell off this board. Most of us around here do it because we CHOOSE to, so we don't need to hear any preaching from batshit loons like you, Miss "ears work"

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    bellyflower, many managers are unpredictable. I'm a wimp. I will never talk back to a manager, DJ, bouncer, etc. because I know I am expendable. I can be fired at any moment for any reason. If a manager insists I pay a fine and I don't plan on quitting, I cough up the money. There have been times when I refused to pay because the club needed me more than I need them. But those times are rare.

    As a stripper, you can count on no one but yourself. No one has your back. You are in this alone. Wear a watch from now on.

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    Quote Originally Posted by StrayStripper View Post
    bellyflower, many managers are unpredictable. I'm a wimp. I will never talk back to a manager, DJ, bouncer, etc. because I know I am expendable. I can be fired at any moment for any reason. If a manager insists I pay a fine and I don't plan on quitting, I cough up the money. There have been times when I refused to pay because the club needed me more than I need them. But those times are rare.

    As a stripper, you can count on no one but yourself. No one has your back. You are in this alone. Wear a watch from now on.
    This is really only a good answer if the club is worth it in every other aspect. We can all put up with alot more crap when the money is good. But if you can make same or better money at another club, or if there is alot more bullshit besides the unpredictable cokehead manager, then I say don't put up with it. Hell, I won't put up with certain shit even IF the club is good for money because there are just too many places to work and my sanity is worth so much more to me than anything else.

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    Are you fucking kidding me? ALL of the above have NOT HAPPENED to me in any of the "real jobs" I've worked in, and some of them all 5 occur at once. So I might as well make $500 + cash a night to deal with that.

    Generalizing "real jobs" is just like microwaving soup when you could have steak!!!!!!!


    That's the funniest fucking analogy ever, thanx for that!
    I never used the words "real job". I am referring to the opportunities available to those willing to rise up and prove themselves. If you are a maid or a clerk in a convenience store or retail store, of course you may have to deal with some negatives in those positions, even though it shouldn't be that way. I don't think it should be that way in the stripping industry either. The point is that if you aren't getting these things, be looking into situations where you will, because they are out there looking for people. Most of you are worth it. Most people putting up with the disgraces and dishonors they do at work is needless.

    I have had some very poor experiences in what you refer to as "real jobs" as well, but there is a big difference between a company that pushes people to excel and a dead-end job. The point is that there are greener pastures than what you guys put up with.

    I know my post came across a bit harsh. I just think some people could look at the way they are living and choose better options.

    This week it's the girl that glued your lock... next week the manager yelled at you... the next week a customer grabbed you and showed up on your doorstep. Most people don't have to put up with this. It's all over the place in this industry, and all over this board. I'm stating the obvious.
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    The corporate world sucks big time too. Office politics, people getting promoted over you out of favoritism, having to work a rat race schedule, and getting the same old paycheck every 2 weeks. Plus virtually no one becomes well off working for someone.

    As I always say, the problem with strip clubs is lack of dancer training, and lack of a team player atmosphere. In many clubs, management and dancers are worlds apart.

    And many jobs don't offer the same level of take home pay as dancing does. If a girl works 5 days a week in a club and averages a mere $180 a day after tip outs, that is $900 a week. Most dancers cannot find a job that will net them $900 a week. That is above the median income in this country. Some girls of course make more than this dancing and others obviously make less.

    The smart dancer with an entrepreneurial mind (which many dancers and paycheck earners don't have) will dance until she has built up a business or an investment strategy of her own where she will NEVER have to work for ANYONE the rest of her life.

    Even though most of us have control over our schedules and where we work, we don't OWN the club, and working for someone as opposed to working for one's self opens the door to A LOT of bullshit and hard times getting along with co-workers and bosses.

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    Quote Originally Posted by erotictonic View Post

    I know my post came across a bit harsh. I just think some people could look at the way they are living and choose better options.
    You are in no position to know what "better options" are for anyone. No one thing is best for everyone. I have a job at a law firm during the day, and let me tell you, honestly, I'll take the crap I deal with occasionally at the club over what I deal with at the office from an asshole boss. I keep the day job because I don't want a resume gap. My choice to work at a club was and is, currently, the best option for me. It allowed me to go to university full time, graduate with honors, and will allow me to go to law school in the fall, all while keeping a somewhat normal life.

    Just because something didn't work for you, don't push that on someone else.

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    Default Re: Abusive Managers/Independant Contracter Dilemma

    Quote Originally Posted by nicole84 View Post
    You are in no position to know what "better options" are for anyone. No one thing is best for everyone. I have a job at a law firm during the day, and let me tell you, honestly, I'll take the crap I deal with occasionally at the club over what I deal with at the office from an asshole boss. I keep the day job because I don't want a resume gap. My choice to work at a club was and is, currently, the best option for me. It allowed me to go to university full time, graduate with honors, and will allow me to go to law school in the fall, all while keeping a somewhat normal life.

    Just because something didn't work for you, don't push that on someone else.
    You are settling for less - an asshole boss and an unsafe job, but I guess somebody has to do it, or do they? Resume gaps don't mean that much if you have the right stuff.

    I settled for less too.

    Some people believe they should mutilate themselves.

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