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    I've been dancing for about 10 months now and was wondering what were generally the signs and symptoms of burnout? I'm not sure if I was feeling burnout last week or was just having a bad week and very irritated by the crowd we've had. Since I'm in Atlanta we had the whole final four thing with lots of tourists. I worked Tues, Thurs, Fri and Sat. Tues night wasn't good for me because I got a VIP with this guy who I found out later was in jail for 12 yrs and he was obviously on steroids so he was super aggressive and ended up trying to stick his finger up my butt, grabbed my boobs and then put his hand in between my legs. I had already given him warnings but when he touched my kitty, I put my foot down and he got really mad. I ended the VIP and left. It ruined the rest of my night.

    Then the Thurs, Fri and Sat night crowd was super obnoxious, hearing all sorts of "what do I get", "come on, work for it" (a dollar-wow!!!), I also got a guy who tried to rip me off on the dance I gave him, he claimed he didn't ask for the dance and then claimed he thought so in so was paying for it, so I said "pay me the $10 right now!!!!", he then said I was very rude, yeah whatever dude! He gave me a $20 and I walked away, he actually chased me across the club demanding change back, when I gave him his change he then claimed "that's only $9", so I counted it out loud and it of course was the correct change. The ONLY reason I didn't have him kicked out because we were about to close anyway and I just wanted to get dressed and get out of there.

    On thurs, fri and sat I was sooo over it, mentally drained and felt the emotional energy just sucked out of me that I didn't even want to dance for anyone, I didn't even want to do any VIP's, even if they had been handed to me because I didn't want to have to sit with someone for an hour or more and entertain them. I've NEVER not wanted to do a VIP, that's how we make the majority of our money.

    I don't know if I was feeling burnout or if I had just lost my patience with the rude, obnoxious crowd we had this week for the Final Four games. The crowd was like the typical young, bachelor party, weekend beer drinking obnoxious types except multiply that times 10! At one point during the night I was trying to get through the crowd near the bar because I was running late for stage and this guy was standing in the way and I very nicely said to him "excuse me" and he said "no, I'm not moving" (now, I know he was in an obnoxious way joking around but I wasn't having any of it" so I pushed him really hard out of my way! It felt really good! This other guy when I was on stage was taking a dollar and saying you gotta work for it, doing the pretending to put the dollar in the garter and then taking it out so I grabbed the money right out of his hand!

    These guys turned me into a raging bitch not putting up with any crap whatsoever! For all the guys standing around the stage that weren't tipping, I told them to "get the hell away from my stage, it's rude to stand here and not tip", so when I said that, not only did they tip but they asked me to come dance for them!

    I'm wondering if I was feeling burnout or if it was just the crowd this week. Because today I'm feeling better, I'm still going to take a couple days off. I'm just wondering what are the signs & symptoms of burnout? I think it's pretty bad when you don't even want a VIP, even if it's handed to you! I don't know if that was burnout or just fed up with bad crowd of people we had in town for the games.

    What do you all think? Can you tell me some symptoms of burnout? Tell me your symptoms of burnout? Thanks!!!

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    Everyone is so completely different when it comes to burn out. I think the consensus will say though, that lack of hustle while at work is the main sign.

    I can only tell you what it's like for me. And you can take it from this what you want.

    When I get burn out, it's typically between 3 -6 months at the same club.

    I don't want to go in, I feel dread while there. I can't talk to people.

    Basically you feel depressed and stuck in a rut.

    That in a nutshell is what it feels like. I say at 10 months without an extended vacation is what you are feeling.

    I just took an entire month off. I didn't go to work, I didn't talk to people I worked with..even those I found to be my friends. I needed to completely seperate myself from the entire world of stripping. My friends aren't bad people, I just didn't want to hear about work.

    I did travel to Denver and LA and hung out with friends and enjoyed my time. I shopped and dined ..I worked on ME. Not stripper me., but the real me.

    Im anxious to go back to work now, and have new goals lined up for my next vacation.

    I think honestly if you are able to do that, that's the smartest thing you can do. Work towards a goal and when you reach that goal take a week off or two weeks. Dont' talk to anyone about your work and involve yourself with YOU.

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    I'm so sorry that was your experience this weekend! I have mercifully avoided most of the jerks. Maybe you have too many Gator fans from Southern FL? hah. Though I will agree that the crowds are ri-goddam-diculous around here and it takes a lot of energy to deal. Being exhausted by 1) a total asshole customer who grabs your pussy and 2) the insane saturation of a major sporting event isn't necessarily burnout. I think it's like you said, that you were just fed up. If this continues for weeks, then it's burnout.

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    I think it is just basketball fans, seriously. When the NBA Allstars was in Vegas, it brought out all the obnoxious rude customers, too. Ghetto jerks that "want to make you work for that dollar". Grrrr!

    Take some time off and know that it was the cliental and not you. At least that's what I am telling myself, cuz this weekend was full of loser basketball fans too!

    Good Luck!

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    Thanks everyone! Yeah, I think you're right, I think it was the horrible customers this week! Yes, we had tons of rude Gator fans, I don't know how the dancers in Florida deal with them on a regular basis, they obviously have more patience than I do! I am already feeling better, I think I'll go back sometime towards the middle to end of the week and see how I feel. I mean this weekend I didn't even want to speak to these men because all of them were awful!!! I think between getting my kitty & butthole grabbed and then these obnoxious sports guys it just pushed me over the edge! Girls were trying to convince to come into work tonight because the final game is tonight and I said "No way in hell, I don't care how crowded it's going to be". IMO, crowded doesn't always mean good! I sometimes get major anxiety with big big crowds too! I guess I'll know if it was the guys or burnout when I go back in a few days. Thanks for your sympathy and support!

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    Default Re: Symptoms of burnout? and mini rant

    Just take a couple of days off, then go back to work and see. And Tart summed it up pretty well. If you still feel like that, try taking a week or two off if you can.

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    Yup, I started experiencing practically the same symptoms as you when I reached the 10 month period late last year. That's when I booked a weeklong vacation to Jamaica (my first ever international!!) for me and my boyfriend and told the managers I'd be gone for a month. Unfortunately, due to an unforeseen tragedy, it ended up being more like a 2 and a half month vacation (though Jamaica was wonderful )..but now I'm back at work, feeling refreshed and making more money than ever. We are so lucky that we really can afford to take the vacation time that dancing allows; take advantage of it!! Do yo u have an emergency stash or savings account somewhere that could support you for a few weeks?
    Life is what happens when you're busy making other plans

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    Default Re: Symptoms of burnout? and mini rant

    yea, i agree with what susan said. not so much burn out as shitty customers there. however, for future reference, if you cannot motivate yourself, get irritated with work/custys easily, feel stressed out for no reason and depressed for no reason, that's burn out. and when you feel the beginning stages of it, better to combat it then rather than let it get to full-blown burnout, because the longer it stays, the longer it takes to get rid of.

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