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    im splitting up some words so it's hard to do a search for them.

    I get out of my 1st class of the day, which lasts from 9: 25 AM to 10: 40 AM. Sitting outside of my class is a customer from the last club I worked at around 4 months ago. He was reading some newspaper, so I grab his attention and say, "heyy, I know you." I figured that he might go to my scho ol, or something, and he seemed like a nice enough guy, so I wanted to say hey. He looked up and said "hi," and proceeded to say that he had a pres ent for me. I was like, "Um, do you go here?, to which he replied "no." I took the pres ent, and said thanks, then proceeded to hug him. I purposely acted thankful (which, oddly enough, I was), but also acted as though nothing was weird about the situation. He then asked if I had another class, and I said yes. I asked him how he found me, and he said that I told him where I went to school (which I stupidly did, but didn't think that this would happen...the convo was very relaxed and just sorta led into that). I then said thanks again for the present and left for class. I looked behind me once, and only once as I didn't want to look like I was looking, to see if he was following, and I saw that he waited for me to get several feet in front of him before he started walking. (Notes: he wasn't necessarily following, it was the only way to the exit).

    The g i f t included 2 bo oks, a s h ir t, a ca r d, and can dy. the bag was labeled " to: the pa t ient, from: the pa t ient." that was creepy. also, he doesn't know my real name...so i don't get how he found my classes. i do have his phone number and email, though, since he left it on the c ard.

    Edited w/more info: he's around 30, quiet, came in club only once in awhile and only got one lapdance each time, didn't seem overbearing or like he wanted to talk much, didn't even pay attention directly when i was on stage
    any suggestions?

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    He might be mentally disabled and trying to be sweet... did you get that vibe? Sometimes they don't understand.

    I'd really only worry about stalking if it happened more than once... and be careful about what you say!


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    CREEPY...sounds like stalking to me. He went to all the trouble to come find you FOUR MONTHS later??? And it isnt like you just bumped into him...he bought you a gift and waited for you. That much dedication after four months sys he might be trouble.
    Watch yourself and if he comes to you again let him know in no uncertain terms that he is making you uncomfortabe and you want him to stop. If he doesnt...go to the cops and tell them. There are laws against stalking and harrassing, which if he doesnt stop after you tell him to...he's doing.
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    You're right to be concerned. How did he find you? If he could find you at school, and even knew what class you were in, what else could he know about you?

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    Definitely not normal behavior. For him to know exactly when you would get out of class he would have either had to follow you there or he has your schedule and all your other information. I'm not sure what to tell you to do. I think that contacting him via phone or email might deepen the situation. Keep us posted and be safe. Learn a lesson. Don't tell anyone else where you go to school.

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    Time to switch up your routine. Be smart, keep your eye out. You will never make the mistake of telling anyone too much truth again. Be careful, please. Make sure your tires are ok before you drive off, esp from work, your spare is in order, you always have phone, gas, cash for an emergency. It can never hurt to be careful.

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    I have a few questions, first...

    Is the area he was sitting in a very public, high traffic area? As in, is it a normal spot for a non-student to perch if they dunno exactly where someone they're looking for might be? If I had no clue where on campus someone I was looking for would be, I'd perch someplace in the centre of the campus, or someplace that is crossed often to go to many parts of the campus... or someplace popular like the cafeteria or such....

    Have you seen him anywhere since? Has he followed you to other places, or back to the campus more than that one time?


    Cause really, IF it was acceptably coincidental that he found the right spot to find you at, AND he hasn't popped up since, it's not SUPER stalkery, at least not IMHO....
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    I think you should tell campus security right away. This is very weird behavior. Please be careful. Whenever possible, walk with a friend between classes. Don't walk alone in any area on campus, stick with the crowds. If its been 4 months since he saw you last, hes in it for the long term. Don't get sloppy in a month or two if you dont see him. Who knows when or where else he might show up. Eeeek this is very worrisome.

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    What the hell is with the label?. The Patient? sounds like hes a nutjob. I'd be especially careful and let campus security know. Thats creepy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PaigeDWinter View Post
    I have a few questions, first...

    Is the area he was sitting in a very public, high traffic area? As in, is it a normal spot for a non-student to perch if they dunno exactly where someone they're looking for might be? If I had no clue where on campus someone I was looking for would be, I'd perch someplace in the centre of the campus, or someplace that is crossed often to go to many parts of the campus... or someplace popular like the cafeteria or such....

    Have you seen him anywhere since? Has he followed you to other places, or back to the campus more than that one time?


    Cause really, IF it was acceptably coincidental that he found the right spot to find you at, AND he hasn't popped up since, it's not SUPER stalkery, at least not IMHO....
    he was right outside of my class. nobody really sits there unless they're waiting for a teacher in that specific classroom, or waiting for their class to begin. you don't think it's weird that he showed up on campus in the first place?

    luckily, i have not seen him anywhere since. he hasn't followed me, as far as i know.

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    But he must have followed you before, without you knowing. How else did he know where your class was. He could be doing it still. Damn thats creepy.

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    There is a bunch of useful info on this site:


    Please, be careful. After having several issues with creepy men myself, I can say I am a lot more vigilant about this stuff now and I wouldn't trust your "pat ient" as far as you can throw him. What a weirdo!

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    Definitely sta lk ery. I don't know what else to say...

    btw, you've got one instance of the word 'pre sen t' un-spaced in your OP. But this thread is probably searchable by other people's use of key words anyways.

    What does 'the pa ti ent' mean, anyways? Is it a reference to a conversation you guys had?

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    Quote Originally Posted by scarlett_vancouver View Post
    Definitely sta lk ery. I don't know what else to say...

    btw, you've got one instance of the word 'pre sen t' un-spaced in your OP. But this thread is probably searchable by other people's use of key words anyways.

    What does 'the pa ti ent' mean, anyways? Is it a reference to a conversation you guys had?
    we never had a conversation about such. i have no idea what it meant, which creeped me out even more. for some reason i think of, um...mental pa tien t.

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    Wow that's creepy. Do you have any friends that are cops? (Even if your cop friends work in other states they can still run his info, if you ever got a business card with his last name - then you could find out what kind of car he drives so you'll know if he's following you in the future.) I hope you at least carry Mace on you at all times, just in case. "Pat ient"? - That's so bizarre. Be careful.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Zabrina View Post
    hes in it for the long term. Don't get sloppy in a month or two if you dont see him. Who knows when or where else he might show up. Eeeek this is very worrisome.
    I agree, you owe it to yourself to take this seriously.

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    Yes, worrisome. And the w e i rd typing creeps me out. Be careful out there.

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    ...you should go ahead and Google his email, phone number and "full name +town" to see what info may be out there.
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    Quote Originally Posted by exotica00 View Post
    he's around 30, quiet, came in club only once in awhile and only got one lapdance each time, didn't seem overbearing or like he wanted to talk much, didn't even pay attention directly when i was on stage
    Ok, a background story, what I did, and what I would do again... (Sorry so long)

    I recently had a "s t alker" at the gym. In four months he never even made eye contact with me, and seemed pretty into his workout and whatever was playing on his Ipod. Now, I've had creeps and "s t alkers" before, consider myself highly aware of my surroundings and am even suspicious of innocent bystanders at times. I was completely blindsided by this guy. As it turns out, he was totally obsessed with me, had been following me, googling me, and seeing a fortune teller about me. This fortune teller (whom I'd love to bitch slap) told him that not only was I his soulmate, but his twin flame etc., and that we would become fast friends and be married by June. Things got very scary, very rapidly, after our first conversation. Fortunately, the gym cancelled his membership and permabanned him.

    Anyway, I immediately went to the police station. They got his full name and the whole scoop from the gym. They ran a background check and made a report WITHOUT contacting him. He was angry enough about his membership being cancelled, no need to salt the wound. I keep the card with the report number, on me. If I ever see him, and it feels intentional on his part, I will call the police, hand them the card and get a ppo.

    Couple things I want to point out.

    1) I was oblivious to the fact that this guy even knew I existed. He NEVER made eye contact with me prior to our first convo.

    2) Our first conversation was riddled with clues to this guys obsession with me, but I was very polite and gave no indications that I was a little creeped out. Well screw polite if this ever happens again. By the time I told him he was creeping me out it just didn't click with him. He actually told a staff member "She said I'm scaring her and creeping her out", then darted for me again!

    My advice is to err on the side of caution. I would certainly ask him bold, unapologetic questions about how he tracked you down and why. Then make it clear to him that you don't like it and want it to end there. It is very creepy for him to show up to your campus specifically to seek you out. It isn't normal, so imo neither is he.

    I hope some of this helps. Good luck.
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    Quote Originally Posted by AlexxaHex View Post
    There is a bunch of useful info on this site:
    http://www.cserv.gov.bc.ca/womens_se...alking/toc.htm

    Please, be careful. After having several issues with creepy men myself, I can say I am a lot more vigilant about this stuff now and I wouldn't trust your "pat ient" as far as you can throw him. What a weirdo!

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    Quote Originally Posted by WiseGuy_TX View Post
    ...you should go ahead and Google his email, phone number and "full name +town" to see what info may be out there.
    I did try, but there was minimal info. i even tried intelium, that paid site, which only came up with the service carrier.

    Hell, i even tried looking in singles ads online for various sites...nada

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    "patient" kinda makes me think of that hostel movie. *shudders* seriously the nickname is what freaks me out.
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    I just had a couple thoughts about how he may have found you.

    Lots of people give out a ton of information about their everyday lives without realizing it. Perhaps at some point you mentioned to the guy that you were attending XYZ University and then mentioned what your major was. Relatively harmless information right? Its a big school, lots students, lots of classes etc. On another occasion you might have mentioned a big test you crammed for in "clinical psychology" or something and how you hated taking tests in the morning. Basically letting slip little clues that can add up. Then the guy starts to think "I really want to see her..etc..etc" and remembers or kept notes of these clues. He goes online and finds XYZ University and looks up the Spring07 course catalog. "Hmm...clinical psychology classes that meet on Tuesday and Thursday mornings....oh it must be this one!" and he just found you.

    I may not have done the best job describing it but it does happen. Its something you should take seriously.

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    "Patient" as in you've been patiently waiting for eachother for 4 months. Be careful! This is NOT normal behavior.

    I just keep thinking, why in the world did you TALK to him? Yeesh.
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