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    The last month or so I have been bartending more than dancing at the club I work at. This club allows the dancers to drink as much as they want whenever they want. These girls drink until they pass out on the floor sometimes its unbelievable. The club recently got in trouble and A.L.E. was called because even the underage girls are allowed to drink.

    So since Ive been bartending I follow the rules I dont serve dancers I dont serve underage girls and I do not allow the girls to sit and drink at the bar. They also cant drink until they pay house. So its obvious that the girls just hate me now. I tell them its not worth a $7000 fine and never being able to work in a alcohol establishment again. They will just get over it.

    Well I still have to dance twice a week to make the owner happy. He says he dosent want to loose me as a dancer. Because I dont do the stupid shit the other girls do I just work make money and leave. Sunday and Monday I danced and could feel the tension from the other girls all night. Everytime I walked into the dressing room or got on stage it was awful and well kindof scary. I know how mean girls can be I was one of them for a long time and I still am. They just hate me with a passion now and I dont know what to do. Maybe I should quit bartending? But I love it. I would quit dancing but the owner wont let me.

    I dont know what to do. If anyone has any advice it is much appreciated!!

    Thanks in advance.

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    First of all, if you want to quit dancing you should be able to just quit dancing - your manager doesn't own you or anything. If you enjoy bartending, I really think you should just do that. You'll always deal with bitchy girls who'll give you shit if you do both.

    And I think it's great that you stand your ground while bartending. Some dancers are so stupid. I swear, they act like children.
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    I say fuck it to dancing in this situation and talk to your manager about the conflict of interest that has arisen. You cannot fulfill your duties as a bartender and continue to dance in a comfortable environment.

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    What the heck do you mean "but the owner wont' let me" This is your body. If you aren't trying to dance, and just do the bartending then tell him that. Nothing will change, unless you take action







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    I am sorry to hear that that shit is going on.. I bartend and dance as well, and I do follow all the rules, no underage girls, not letting them drunk, I cut them off when I need too.. I only have a problem every great once in a while, and usually only with a new one I cut off..
    You may not be able to continue both, I stopped dancing for a while for a break, and when I went back the girls seemed more easy going with me the second time around..
    Now we all try to work together and for the most part respect how much and hard I work..

    Maybe telling your owner that the conflict maybe isn't worth losing you all together, or to just let you take a break for a while, and if and when you go back you'll be more energized to do it...
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    Quote Originally Posted by destiny2980 View Post

    I dont know what to do. If anyone has any advice it is much appreciated!!
    Just keep doing what you are doing. You are correct that being well liked by your fellow dancers at the club it isn't worth you a getting a $7000 fine and never being able to work in a alcohol establishment again.

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    What I mean by the "owner wont let me" is that I made a deal with him that if he let me behind the bar a couple of days a week then I would continue to dance for him. And up until recently it wasnt a problem. He knew that I didnt want to dance at all anymore but those were his stipulations on the position. So I agreed. I didnt think that it would be an issue.

    I just need to talk with him about it I guess.

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    These girls are used to coming in..drinking til they pass out all day long. You basically cut them off and you didnt think they'd be pissed at you???? These do not sound like girls smart enough to know that it is management and the law doing it, not you. They are just going to blame the messenger....period.
    Has the owner or manager made any kind of announcement as to what the rules now are and why...that anyone,dancers, waitresses or bartenders, who do not follow the rules will be severely reprimanded?? That would take a lot of the heat off you if they are made to realize that you are doing as you are told..not just being mean to them.
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    I agree with cameron, your mgr should definietly be backing you up on this. He should tell the dancers that rules have become tighter around there and underage drinking is not tolerated. Any good magr will stick up and take the ehat for the bartender.

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    Quote Originally Posted by destiny2980 View Post
    What I mean by the "owner wont let me" is that I made a deal with him that if he let me behind the bar a couple of days a week then I would continue to dance for him. And up until recently it wasnt a problem. He knew that I didnt want to dance at all anymore but those were his stipulations on the position. So I agreed. I didnt think that it would be an issue.

    I just need to talk with him about it I guess.
    I would stick it out for a little while longer, juggling bartending and dancing...then when you've got some experience, you can bartend at another SC or regular club and just dance at your current club. The tension will probably dissipate after you stop bartending at your current club.

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    Not my manager he says were on our own. He dosent care what happens in the club he just dosent want to be a part of it. Im thinking if this keeps up Im going to have to move to a different club.

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    Yikes, that's a crappy situation! If your manager won't back you up on following the rules (shit, by following them, you're saving HIS ass)...

    If you had to pick one, which one would you rather pick? I don't know if just dumping the bartending and going back to dancing would help... Tell the girls point blank that you're not putting 7k of YOUR money on the line so that they can drink. They can sneak in their own if they need to. I'm sure that they know (deep, deep inside their little brains) that you consider your ass much more valuable than theirs. Maybe you can just help that connection surface a little with something like, "So, if I get busted by letting you break the rules... What do *I* get out of it?"
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    I would try to get a bartending job at another strip club. I used to shot girl, then started dancing, then went back to shot girl and it didn't work. It's hard to do both jobs in the same club, esp when you work with idiots. Congrats to you for standing your ground!

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    Quote Originally Posted by destiny2980 View Post
    Not my manager he says were on our own. He dosent care what happens in the club he just dosent want to be a part of it. Im thinking if this keeps up Im going to have to move to a different club.
    Yikes, if he feels that way, then I dont think you need to be there at all. No one, especially not him will have your back if (and when) the chips fall.







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    Quote Originally Posted by destiny2980 View Post
    Not my manager he says were on our own. He dosent care what happens in the club he just dosent want to be a part of it. Im thinking if this keeps up Im going to have to move to a different club.
    I'm thinking that is a damn good idea if that is how your manager behaves.

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    Well first of all, good for you for sticking up for yourself. I know some people cave in the hateful line of fire of the drunken bitchy stripper, but you are doing the right thing. What a bunch of morons!
    Tell the girls that you will happily serve them drinks at $7000 a shot.
    Do they understand that this is the law? I agree that your manager sucks for not backing you on this. It would take a great deal of the heat off of you and make it seem more "official". I would just keep bothering him about it until he does. Even just putting a sign at the bar or in the dressing room might help. I don't see too many other options, other than to take each girl aside individually and explain what is going on in a friendlier way. Encourage them to bring their own little flask if it wouldn't cause problems. That may help but I'm not sure if it's realistic.

    Ugh...these girls shouldn't be taking up room in the clubs anyway. I hate it when alcoholics make my work environment unstable and hostile.

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    Which club is it in NC? Just wondering. I have heard that NC clubs are really lax about girls drinking in clubs. Southside Johnny's in GSO was busted for that a while ago.

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