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    i REALLY need advice here. i left my last club, the gold club, to come back to the club i worked at before, the ritz. when i quit the ritz the first time, it was because i got in an argument with a manager and thought he fired me, when i found out later he really didnt. (i was very very drunk and embarrassed myself horribly). so i went to the gold club. i made money so easily there, but hustling drinks is required and i am a BAD drinker. i get angry, i argue, i cry, whatever. i quit there one night when i was drunk after an argument with a manager. i posted before about them accusing me of letting a guy finger me in a room. granted, i was drunk, but they did a lot of things that made me want to quit dancing.

    so anyway, i went back to the ritz at 10pm on a saturday night, drunk after working all day at the gold club. they let me work that night and let me come back, no questions asked. i love the girls, i love the bouncers, managers, etc. i have never liked a manager so much, and that counts for a LOT in a strip club, i think. the problem is i'm not making any money. it's a very small club, so the potential to make money is much smaller. it's also more of a bar atmosphere (we dance on stage behind the bar).

    so tonight i considered going back to the gold club. i text messaged my old manager, and he said call him tomorrow and we'll talk about it. i'm pretty sure that means yes (with the rule that i dont drink, which im happy with since im trying to stop drinking at work anyway), or else he probably would've just said no. so yay, back to making triple what i make now. i honestly told my manager that i was considering going back there, and would he let me come back if things dont work out? he said no. i understand why he said no, and he understands why i want to leave. he told me he'd like me to stay, and said that for the rest of this week i dont have to pay shift pay. a small, but very much appreciated gesture. it's nice to have a place that wants me there.

    but i dont want to be stuck in a club that i'm not happy at just because i'm making more money. i LOVE my club now, other than the lack of spending. what would you do?

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    Default Re: money vs. happiness.. what would you do?

    Money can't buy happiness, and happiness is always better than money. I'd rather be stress free, happy, and making alittle less money. Sanity is not overrated.

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    Good advice above.

    I would go back to The Ritz. Not only for the reasons listed above but because of the alcohol issue. That sounds like a really bad situation just waiting to happen that should be avoided.

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    i'm at the ritz now. that's the club i almost don't want to leave, i know it might not have been totally clear. out of the 5 clubs ive worked at, this is the only one that i havent angrily thought to myself that i was never coming back. i've had some drama with a few girls, but nothing serious. i honestly love this place! i dont want to burn any bridges, but i also dont like the fact that if i quit i can't come back. i dont think that's fair. especially since i was honest and upfront about it. i dont think most girls would be.

    (and it's not a little less money, that's the problem. i make an avg of 150-200 here. it's HARD to make money. i was making an avg of 500 at the other place.)

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    always choose happieness over money. you cant go wrong there everything else will work itself out.

    i make bank here in myrtle but i miss ohio clubs where guys kept their fucking hands off of me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by britt244 View Post
    i'm at the ritz now. that's the club i almost don't want to leave, i know it might not have been totally clear. out of the 5 clubs ive worked at, this is the only one that i havent angrily thought to myself that i was never coming back. i've had some drama with a few girls, but nothing serious. i honestly love this place! i dont want to burn any bridges, but i also dont like the fact that if i quit i can't come back. i dont think that's fair. especially since i was honest and upfront about it. i dont think most girls would be.

    (and it's not a little less money, that's the problem. i make an avg of 150-200 here. it's HARD to make money. i was making an avg of 500 at the other place.)
    That is a big pay cut, you just have to decide if it's worth it in the end. Do you really need the extra 300? It all depends on how much you can put up with and how it effects you.

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    How many nights a week do you work? If you don't have required shifts at either place you could work two nights at one club and two nights at another.

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    nope, not allowed. the gold club doesn't allow you to work anywhere else, or i would.

    the other plus to the gold club is that i can work 4-11, which is great because of school. i wish i could just love a club where i was making bank!

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    Quote Originally Posted by britt244 View Post
    i'm at the ritz now. that's the club i almost don't want to leave, i know it might not have been totally clear.
    opps my bad. I think you got what I was trying to say though.

    My advice is to go to a different club. One where you don't have to deal with the drink hustle issue.

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    haha, i tend to babble a little bit when i want to get something out fast and sometimes it doesnt make sense! the gold club is the drink hustling club that i made more money at but i wasnt happy, the ritz is where i am now and i love it but i'm making crappy money.


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    Ah, that sucks. Well, if you can get by without doing the drink hustle you could bank at the one club and put money away. But if you are happier at the other club...I dunno you just gotta do what makes you happy and feels right. Good luck.

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    Is it a temporary thing that you are not making as much, like seasonal?

    If you really love it, then you can always commit to working on your hustle. Go to the bookstore and get some sales books or books on CD and do some studying. Come home, take notes on your night and work on improving your game.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sc0101 View Post
    Money can't buy happiness, and happiness is always better than money. I'd rather be stress free, happy, and making alittle less money. Sanity is not overrated.
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    My two cents:

    The Ritz will let you come back to work. I would bet my savings on it.

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    I think you should go back to the better paying club and pretend they don't allow drinking on the clock either. If you need some help try tipping the barstaff at the beginning of the night with instructions to NOT serve you any Al.

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    I'd go back to the Gold Club. It's called work for a reason, we're not all happy 100% of the time, you might as well make the most you can.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Andygirl View Post
    I'd go back to the Gold Club. It's called work for a reason, we're not all happy 100% of the time, you might as well make the most you can.
    But she has a drinking problem..I think staying at the Ritz would be better. Health and happiness are my reasons..







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    Quote Originally Posted by X Evan X View Post
    My two cents:

    The Ritz will let you come back to work. I would bet my savings on it.

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    well, so far, girls who have left and wanted to come back weren't allowed. the manager has only been there for 3 months. when i was allowed to come back before, he let me come back, but he wasnt there when i quit before.

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    When required to have guys buy you drinks, it is always a good idea to instruct the bartender and waitresses to make you "virgin "drinks. Have a code name for a drink with no alcohol, and tip your bar staff extra for doing it.

    These damned bars need to be prohibited from selling alcohol to dancers while working. I really believe it is a bad thing.

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    okay, it's official--you are my stripper twin.

    I was in exactly the same position...I love my current club; 99% of the girls are reasonable, fun and easy to get along with; I love the DJs and get along with all the managers, etc, etc.... but the money just went ridiculously downhill and had been awful since December. I reached a breaking point last month, and had to decide whether it was worth it to leave my club for the Gold club, where the money is great but the whole place is one giant bitch.

    I decided it wasn't worth leaving my club. The funny thing is, right after I decided for sure that I was just going to stay and make it work, my money started going up again. Which leads me to think maybe my bad/lazy/pessimistic attitude had more to do with it than the club or the slow season. Not saying that you have an attitude problem; just saying that it might be worth thinking it over before you leave your club. Is it really the club that's the problem? It's easy to get down and mindfuck yourself after a string of bad nights (or even weeks).

    best of luck, whichever club you end up at.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tina View Post

    These damned bars need to be prohibited from selling alcohol to dancers while working. I really believe it is a bad thing.
    I don't know about a straight up ban considering we are adults. I do agree that pushing drinks on the dancers is bad though.

    Actualy I thought the whole drink hustle or drink quota thing was illegal? It was in the area where I worked back when I was dancing anyway. I think it should be too. Dancers are there to sell their dancing and not stupid fucking drinks

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    IDK .. I guess for me it would depend on if you can live .. and be happy living .. off what you're making at the 'happy club'. It's a job, ya know? Not always fun, but then again, you can't be putting up with stupid bullshit and wanting to quit your job either. That's tough. Like I said, my bottom line would be if I would live (and thrive, honestly) off the lesser money-making club...

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    You have to decide what will keep you going for the long haul (if that's what you want). Granted you might make more at the other club, but you have the drink hustle which you've already said that was a problem for you and that you don't really like the place & atmosphere of that club. Now, you could go back there, work extra hard, make more money & save up and then quit or stay at your current club where you're happy, where you won't have the drinking issue and at a place that you're happy at in which you wouldn't burn out nearly as fast. I think if you stay at the club you're most happy at, you'll continue with dancing for a longer time because let's face it, even if it is a job, you have to somewhat enjoy where you're at or otherwise you're just going to dread going into work anyway. And before long you'll start making excuses not to go in, you'll be sick, you don't feel good, you've got school, etc. Trust me, I've worked in places that I hated and that gets old really quick. I think it's a safer way to stay at the place you like and determine to work harder for the money instead of going to a place that you don't like and where you've got a drink minimum, I think that's asking for a disaster! But only you can truly make that decision for yourself! Good luck sweetie!

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    The more the strip club atmosphere is set up like a traditional job, the more dancers will take it seriously and not get drunk, get high, and be dishonest.

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    Is there any way that you could make sure that you get ONLY virgin drinks at your next club? Depending on how big it is, it might not be too hard. You'd just have to make sure to talk to and tip the bartender/waitress at the beginning/end of your shift... a small price to pay if you can pretend to get drunk but actually be totally on top of your game.

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    so here's my plan: stay at the ritz for now, go back to the gold club once school's out in may. that way, i can work day shift and not deal with the bouncers, dj, and manager i was having trouble with at night. i was making just as much working day and i was happy! i didnt have problems til i started school and had to work at night.

    i'm definately going to go with either virgin drinks or just pay the fee instead of selling drinks. i'll figure that out when the time comes. plus, this extra month and a half gives me time to get used to not drinking at work, period.

    when it comes down to it, that extra thousand or so a week (more once summer starts because i'll be working extra shifts) really does matter to me. so that's my plan for now.

    thank you guys for all your advice!

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