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    Default OK. I'm burned out. Now what?

    Man, oh man. Last night was awful. I did two dances in five hours. Two. Granted the club was slow and a lot of the clientele weren't spending money on anyone, but those are just excuses. There have been plenty of nights in the past where other girls said it was a shit night and I still managed to scrape together a decent ammount of money somehow. For some reason, I just couldn't pull it off. I felt like a newbie again...sitting with time-wasters, not able to close a sale, sucking on stage, just completely useless.

    Sometimes I just feel like I'm done with this job. Unfortunately, it wouldn't be easy for me to quit. I'm supporting my fiancee while he finishes school, and his graduation is two years away. I do have a college degree, but no entry-level job I could get is going to support both of us AND pay his tuition. (And please, please, PLEASE, don't tell me that I'm a loser for supporting a man. I've had that conversation here before, and I don't feel like having it again today.)

    I'm so mad at myself. I feel like I've failed at something. I just can't make myself do this anymore, even though I want to. I'm very freaked out.

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    Default Re: OK. I'm burned out. Now what?

    You need a vacation, sweetie. Take a break. Spoil yourself. Evaluate what you want to do with your life.

    Just get away from it for a while. Sometimes you need to.

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    Default Re: OK. I'm burned out. Now what?

    it sounds like you're burned out with making crappy money, not the job itself.

    Maybe you need to find a new club that has earning potential to make you excited?

    And what is it about a string of bad nights that makes you hate this job, but a string of good nights that makes you feel that this is the best job in the world?

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    Default Re: OK. I'm burned out. Now what?

    I say combine the two above suggestions and take a working vacation.

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    Default Re: OK. I'm burned out. Now what?

    It sounds like your confidence is way down. If you are feeling down on yourself, then approach people with a good attitude and ready to hustle can seem like too hard a task to do. You need to figure out how you are going to get yourself psyched up to go in and hustle hard. Ask yourself this: Why are you in this profession? What is it that you like about being a dancer? What is it that you like about your club that keeps you going back in spite of the bad nights (that happen to everyone)?

    Hope this helps. Cheer up sweetie. I think everyone feels like a failure when they know there was potential to make more money. I do that even on good nights when I am not at the top of my game. Hell, I was thinking about that one special I didn't nab at the end of the night the whole way home last night.

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    Default Re: OK. I'm burned out. Now what?

    Quote Originally Posted by Emily View Post

    And what is it about a string of bad nights that makes you hate this job, but a string of good nights that makes you feel that this is the best job in the world?
    That's soooo true!!!! When I'm kicking ass and making a ton of money, I loooove this job but when I'm having just a few bad nights in a row, I f-ing hate this job more than anything! It's strange isn't it? This is a love-hate relationship job!

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    Default Re: OK. I'm burned out. Now what?

    Girl, you're burned out. Take a couple days off and just rest. You'll be amazed at how tired you really were (you don't notice it so much when you're just going, going, going) but once you take a few days off you'll say to yourself "Wow, I really was working too much, I really did need a few days off, no wonder I stopped hustling and stopped making money". When you go back, you'll be so ready to go back, so ready to hustle and so ready to make money. I've taken 4 days off and am almost ready to go back, I was feeling very burned out last weekend and knew it was time for a little break. I was going to get a massage but instead treated myself to some Botox. I can't wait for it to settle in and smooth out my little wrinkles!

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    Default Re: OK. I'm burned out. Now what?

    Mmm. Well, I didn't work Monday or Tuesday, so I just had a couple of days off and it was really hard to go back. I'm leaving town Sunday to go stay with my brother and my brand-new baby neice (!) for a week. I hope that's enough of a break.

    I'd like to work the next couple of night before I go, but I don't know if I can do it. I was thisclose to having a total meltdown last night. I've NEVER been in such a crap mood at work. I'm usually known for being happy and smiling all the time, but last night I just wanted to punch everybody in the nose.

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    Default Re: OK. I'm burned out. Now what?

    Quote Originally Posted by xoxoGracexoxo View Post
    Mmm. Well, I didn't work Monday or Tuesday, so I just had a couple of days off and it was really hard to go back.

    I'm usually known for being happy and smiling all the time, but last night I just wanted to punch everybody in the nose.
    How many nights a week do you work? That might be part of it, too. From the sounds of it, if taking two slower nights off was worthy of comment, you might be trying to work too many nights a week. That's the quickest way to burnout I know of.

    You might be better off working 3-4 nights instead of 5, and actually wind up making more money. Sales is so much a part of this job, and sales requires a positive, upbeat attitude more than anything. The more you force yourself to sell, the harder it is. Especially selling lapdances in stripclubs.

    This business is prone to causing burnout. I hate working more than 3-4 nights a week as a DJ, or I get the same way you describe above, surly and bad-tempered, instead of upbeat and buoyant. I've been a DJ long enough I can cover on the mike and sound fine, but it works way, way better if I'm just not burned out!
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    Default Re: OK. I'm burned out. Now what?

    What if you got a job in your field and danced 1-3 nights a week for the difference..... that way you can just work the best nights, and still have a salery, espically nice durring the sucky summer months.

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    Default Re: OK. I'm burned out. Now what?

    Quote Originally Posted by leogirl876 View Post
    When you go back, you'll be so ready to go back, so ready to hustle and so ready to make money.
    This is so exactly what I needed to hear. Thanks, Leo.

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