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    Kaylinn
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    My first ( and only) customer of the night was a gentleman sitting by himself, so I approached him. he was a nice guy, and we had good conversation. Since it was pretty slow, I sat for longer than usual before asking if he wanted a dance. When I did pop te question, he said, can we chat a few more minutes? Being that it ws slow, I agreed.

    As we sat and talked, he seemed to geet more and more quiet and depressed. Finally i said, you knwo what, I can tell you've had a rough week, your not to happy, boobs will make anyone feel better, so Im giving you a dance, right now.

    I take off my top, he starts to cry.

    I ask what's wrong, but he says he'd rather not say, because it is so aweful, he dont wanna ruin my night.

    I try to continue the dance, but it's just not working, so I get dressed and say, ok hunny. What's wrong, please tell me, maybe I can help.

    He said, well, Wednesday night, my 8 year old twin daughters were killed by a drunk driver. I thought comming here with the loud music, and distractions would help take my mind off it.

    What the hell do you say to that? I just said of course it wouldnt help, unfortunatly nothing will. Im so sorry.

    we chat for a few more minutes, and I finally say, you know what, you gotta go home, go to bed. Im kicking you out. I didn't even ask for the money for the dance. I gave him a hug, and led him to the door.

    About 20 minutes later, he comes back in, and says, IM so sorry I spent so much of your time. I feel really bad, and I know I owed you for that dance, IM sorry I forgot. He gave me $20 and left.

    Just...wow. What do you say? Nothing at all. I felt so bad for the poor guy.
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    That made me feel so sad.
    I dont know that there is alot you can say. it sounds like you handled the situation as best as you could. You showed concern and that is a good thing.
    A friend of mine lost her 2 year old daughter to a drunk driver. I dont think theres anything you can say that will take the pain away. Its the worst thing Ive ever seen anyone go through.

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    Oh wow, that's terrible.

    I've had somewhat similar situations...lots of guys come to the clubs after funerals, it seems...but no crying. I don't know what I'd do. It sounds like you did the best thing for him.

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    Default Re: Wow. I don't even know what to say....

    Wow that is really sad. Sounds like you handled it really well tho.

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    You did the right thing, good call.

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    You did the right thing. Poor man, that has to be awful, my well wishes to him whereever he may be.

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    wow. just wow. kids' deaths hit so close to home with me. and 8.. oh gosh. thats the age my sis was. but drunk driver... what DO you say.. my lord. i wonder if he had a wife or gf to turn to? my guess is not if he was in the club. pooor guy. you handled it well kaylinn.

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    oh my... poor man- my sympathies to him... that's a freakin tough situation for both of you (well, obviously for him, but you know what i mean). It's really hard to watch another person's raw grief when you don't know them and have no idea how to comfort them or what they've gone through. I would have just hugged the guy in silence- I'd have been 100% speechless. good for you for handling it so well.

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    Default Re: Wow. I don't even know what to say....

    Oh my gosh, that's so sad. You handled it well, Kaylinn. Even though he was crying and was sad, you probably cheered him up and helped take his mind off things for a little while.






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    I had a customer come in a couple of weeks ago and tell me his 11 month old just died the day before from SIDS. I didn't know what to say. I wish I would have thought to do what you did but I was really speechless.
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    Oh man! It's always weird when customers want to cry into your clevage... But this guys story is so sad! I think you handled it really well.
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    thats so sad, wow. I know a lot of men feel that only women can comfort them, and maybe being with the childrens' mother only makes him feel worse right now. I've gotten a few widows and they're always very respectful and grateful for the distraction and affection. If one started crying I would certainly call him a cab, and I have to say it sounds like you did the right thing. It sounds weird, but comforting men who are in a difficult point in their lives always makes me feel better about my job.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Miss_Luscious View Post
    I had a customer come in a couple of weeks ago and tell me his 11 month old just died the day before from SIDS. I didn't know what to say.
    Back when I was bartending at a regular club, I had a customer one night who, when I asked him "how was your week?", he said that his girlfriend had miscarried and she was a wreck. I said "oh...I'm sorry". He grinned and said, "don't be. I'm celebrating--now I can leave the bitch without worrying about child support."

    I didn't know what to say to that either.

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    ^^That is just downright awful. What a fucking asshole.

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    Wow, that is so sad. Kaylinn, you handled the situation very well. I think I would have started crying.

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    OMG how horrible. :-( The poor guy!!! That was sweet of you to be cool like that and it was just super sweet for him to come back anyway... Oh that made me super sad.

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    that was so sad... poor guy. He really needed that hug Kaylinn..

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    As someone who knows that pain all too well; thank you for your compassion in dealing with this man.

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    Sometimes we show compassion in the weirdest places like working at a strip club. I wish titties really could make everything better at least for awhile. You handled everything as best as you could. Its hard to know what to say when a customer drops a bomb like that.

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    Oh my gosh that is so sad. That poor man. I think you handled it the best you could. There is not really anything you can say, but I think hugs and silence are most comforting in that type of situation.
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    Default Re: Wow. I don't even know what to say....

    There's not much you can say except "I'm very sorry for your loss" and if you feel so, "Know that my prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time".

    I am currently grieving the unexpected loss of my Grandpa at this time. I went to a bar tonight to get away from everything and hear music so I understand what he ws attempting to accomplish. There is nothing that can take from the pain at the moment, though one tries to distract from it.

    You did the best you could and there's nothing you can say to make it better. You helped him more than you know to simply listen. It's not what you want to hear when you're at work but know that sometme in life you will go through a sever and painful loss and not know how to cope.

    Just keep him in your thoughts.

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    thats so sad i think i would have started crying also

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    oh lord.

    I've been working all week, and I kept seeing a man at the bar who looked familiar. So tonight I stop and say, wow, you look so familiar to me. He says yeah, you to. We start chatting...and he starts commign back to me piece by piece. He was the same guy I met last year from this post.....

    He was the same depressed, wierd dude. Wanted to cuddle, asked me out, I did all in my power to get money out of him, eve saying srtaight up look, I am financially motivated. I don't want a boyfriend, I don't want company, I want money. I also told him I couldn't waste my time sitting there cuddling with him for free. I was there for an hour as it was which was stupid, but he go a grip on me and wouldn't let go. Every time I tried to disentangle myself, he would start to tear up!
    So finally he says he'll buy 1 lapdance. He actually tried to lick my stomach the whole time. I turned arund to present my ass, and he started lickign that. Not like, sensual, but lick it like a dog. When I would try to move away, he would grip me tightly in this bear hug and bury his face in my neck and try to cuddle really tightly. Dance ended early. He still insisted he give me his number and we should go out. I told him flat out I wasn't interested.
    This guy may be very very depresed and looking to frown his sorrows in a stripper, but he ain't willing to pay for it. He claims he is an oral surgeon. They have cash.Yet as bad as he wants me, he wouldn't even pay me for my time there, and when I asked him to, because I was at work needing to make money, he just said, well lets meet when your not working.

    this dude creeps me out. and annoys the living hell out of me. And he's a local. There all the time. I'm gonna have to like, walk past him not making eye contact for the rest of my life.

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    ew. wierd!!!!!

    that sort of makes me think maybe he made it up in the first place.....

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    That's something to think about next time I've had a couple drinks and I think I'm "borderline" ok to drive home. I'd rather wake a friend up to give me a ride home from a club than wake them up to pick me up from the hospital.

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