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    Default Working at a SC sucks right now - need to vent!

    I'm really upset right now. Maybe it's because I'm about to get my period - so I'm especially emotional . Anyhow, I found out on Thursday that a really good co-worker of mine was fired due to some not so nice reasons. I haven't heard from her yet, but that doesn't surprise me because she's unreliable and drinks and gets high so she's not too responsible. But in 2 years she's become like my sister. She has a great heart and would never hurt someone intentionally. I fear though that since she is no longer at my club and since it was a very unhappy departure that I will never hear from her again. I know this happens all the time...but in 5 years of stripping I've never had a friend leave a club before me and I've also never befriended someone who was too unorganized to keep normal contact with people outside of the club. SO I'm sulking right now...she meant a lot to me and it just sucks how this environment can be so artificial (for lack of a better word). I just sad I guess

    THEN....as if my week wasn't crazy enough, one of my custormers emailed me and said he was planning a date with another girl on tonight, which is the night I ork and the night he and I typically see each other. This is fine with me but a little disarming because he's been my cutomer for awhile now and even followed me from another club. Then he emailed me again to tell me he has a possible second date lined up for tonight (with one of the hottest girls at my club) ith another girl! I guess they have become myspace friends - do I really need to give into myspace to save my customers! Geez! Anyway so I'm just sort of upset because I tried to explain to him that it was fine but that it hurt my feelings alittle cause he's been seeing me forever and all of a sudden he wants to see others too. He gave me a guilt trip and said I don't treat him well enough for the money he spend (which I think I treat him very nice).
    Anyay I don't know if this makes sense....but it has certainly helped getting this off my chest. I just don't feel like I have anyone else to talk to about my stripclub drama! Thanks everyone for listening. I'm interested in hearing your perspective on these situations. Thanks.
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    Default Re: Working at a SC sucks right now - need to vent!

    Eh regulars have shelf lives. They come and go. They get "bored" with the same girl and move on to another one, not to say you're boring, but most men like variety. Don't take it personally, he will do it to the others as well.

    As for your friend, I'm sorry to hear about that. You have to have some form of contact, a cell phone number, email, etc, that you can contact her at to remain friends outside the club. Maybe let her know how much she meant to you. If you don't have the info you could maybe ask the manager if he has her cell number or email.

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    Default Re: Working at a SC sucks right now - need to vent!

    Thanks for your reply....I have her cell phone but it's turned off....she has a myspace but I dont I've sent her a message via my clubs msg board...i guess I could always stop by her house.....
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    Default Re: Working at a SC sucks right now - need to vent!

    Yeah def if she means that much to you. Real friends are hard to come by.

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    Default Re: Working at a SC sucks right now - need to vent!

    And maybe you can give in and get a myspace.... it's kind of addictive, like SW....

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    Default Re: Working at a SC sucks right now - need to vent!

    Quote Originally Posted by Elusive21 View Post
    So are you saying that your regular is seeing one of the dancers outside the club? I might be a bit naiive but isn't that against most clubs' rules? She could get in trouble for that . . .
    Yes, it pretty much is against club rules but unfortunately, there are many girls who do it. There's girls at my club that openly talk about it! What can you do?

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    Default Re: Working at a SC sucks right now - need to vent!

    Girls can see whomever they want outside the club. The clubs don't care. Talking to the manager is meaningless. They don't want to hear that kind of stuff.

    If certain girls are using the club and trying to line up dates with every Tom, Dick and Harry who walks in that they don't know, then some managers might not be cool with that.

    Your customer can see anyone he wants. You can't rely on a regular forever. You can't control him or any other customer. Complaining to mgmt about other girls is one thing that makes managers and owners angry at dancers.

    Plus managers are tired of girls who are unreliable, drunk and high. One club owner the other day told me they liked the fact that I wasn't like that.

    I understand being disappointed in losing a money spending customer, but eventually, if you're not putting out, and they find another girl who attracts them who will, you're history.

    Keep your head up and focus on trying to make money from a transient crowd. Don't be a club fuck up like all too many dancers are, and make and save all you can.

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    Default Re: Working at a SC sucks right now - need to vent!

    No the girl isn't seeing him outside of the club. When I say date I meant like he prearranged to spend some time with her in the club.

    I know regulars have a shelf life. I think I was just very emotional that day, which ontop of my already emotional self I was feeling rejected. LOL! Silly me! I've been in this business long enough to know what to expect from it. Unfortunately though, I am an idealist and sometimes get caught up in expecting more or having higher standards for people or situations than I should. So I get knocked down emotionally, but then I clear my head and remind myself of the business aspect of everything and I'm fine! I know I'm wierd! I think I just think too much
    Anyway, the customer ended up emailing me that day and asked if he brought in enough money to do a room with me if he could spend some time with me too. I told him it was fine. So going in that night he had arranged to spend time with me and two other girls. I used the situation as motivation. I didnt really want to have to deal with him in the event that he ruin my money making momentum, so I went into work with the goal of trying to be so social and so on point that I was too busy to ever stop and have a drink with him! Because typically I stop what I'm doing and go to spend some time with him. Well it worked! LOL! I had a fabulous night, stayed positive and social all night! Had a chance to chat with him for a minute but only on my way to another group of people. I made sure to be very nice and appreciative of him coming by. I'm really happy I moved past it and had a great night in the process. He actually emailed me today saying that in having dealt with the other girls he realized he was actually being too demanding of me and that he realizes I give him a lot more attention and time then what he got from the other girls. So that was nice to hear. I learned a lot though about redirecting negative energy and I'm happier because of it. Thanks guys!

    Oh- and I found out what new club my friend is at. I'm gonna stop by this week and give her my support!
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