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    Default Stupid bitch in clinical could have gotten me expelled!

    There's a busybody in my class whom I will refer to as Nosy. I am not jealous of her, and I'm not being catty. What concerns me is her tendency to gossip and tattle. In nursing school, this could equal expulsion.

    There's a saying, "Keep your friends close and her enemies closer." I'm not sure which is safer, as this human tabloid has proven that even if she considers you a friend, she will spread shit around because she loves drama and being the Barbara Walters of gossip. She's not overtly malicious, I think it's because she's only 19 and still acts like she's in the microcosm of high school. She's popular in high school terms, and always needs to be surrounded by admirers. A lot of people are aware that she's nosy and gossipy, but flock to her because she's smart. I'm smart too and get better grades than her, but I keep to myself and don't spend all my time trying to get all social information possible. In fact, she once asked me how I get such good grades. I was tempted to say, "Instead of gossiping all the time, I actually study."

    Last semester, Nosy and I were in clinical together. I got a bad vibe of her from the beginning due to her constant need to know EVERYTHING that is going on, even if was none of her business. She was a vast wealth of social information. This could be useful, like learning about things that people who had already taken the course. However, she'd also talk about people and complain about how unfair things were. The first and pretty much only time she every tried to gossip with me, "If she talks about others with you, then she'll talk about you."

    One day, the bitch showed how dangerous she could be. I made a mistake in clinical, and the clinical instructor asked me to stay after class, and was kinda cranky for the rest of the day. Nosy was all over it. She asked, "What happened? Was it you?" I played dumb, hoping that she'd lose interest. I changed the subject by commenting that clinical was boring and uneventful because everyone was sleeping. That only made it worse. She spread it around, trying to dig into my business through other social contacts.

    How do I know that it was her spreading it around? Because suddenly 3 different people in the group came up to me asking if it was true that I had gotten in trouble for falling asleep in class. In the gossip game of telephone (the game in which a bunch of people whisper a message in each others' ears ad see how much it gets distorted), she had asssumed that I had fallen asleep during clinical, and spread it around. In addition to the trouble that I had already gotten into, I had to sort that one out with the clinical instructor. It risked my enrollment in nursing school. I managed to get off with a slap on the wrist, but I have to make doubly sure that I never make a mistake again or I will have more of a risk of getting booted.

    I confronted her, and of course she denied everything despite the overwhelming evidence. I told her overall to stay out of my business and stay in her own. She doesn't like being reminded that her shit stinks. I noticed that a lot of people who had previously been friendly with me were suddenly giving me the cold shoulder or even brushoff comments. How immature.

    Like I said, I don't care if she doesn't like me, or if she's going to get others not to like me. I'm just scared shitless that she could cause further trouble with my education. I mean, if she treats her friends like that (not that I ever considered her a friend), I'd hate to see how she treats her enemies.

    We're in lecture together, but not clinical, so things have been nonthreatening. However, there's 3 semesters left, and if I'm stuck in clinical with her again, I'm going to have to develop eyes on the back of my head.

    Any advice?

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    Default Re: Stupid bitch in clinical could have gotten me expelled!

    Just leave her the fuck alone...do not sit with her, dont sit with her, email, nothing...you go your way, and let her go her way!

    I also wouldn't socialize w/ my other peers unless it was absolutely necessary (ie. for group assignments) You already said that you mostly keep to yourself anyway, so just keep doing it.

    I never played into that keep friends close and enemies closer..as you can see, it turned an bit you in the ass. Word to the wise, stay away from nosey cause she is definately more trouble than she's worth!







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    I did try to stay away from her, and even that didn't prevent shit from happening. Things are okay so far because I sit in the front of class, she sits in the back, and there's 40 people in class. Clinical isn't so easy. There's 7-9 people in clinical, you have to stay tight-knit, and everybody knows what's going on. I didn't keep her close as a friend or enemy beforehand, just professional. I dunno what kind of passive-aggressive shit she might pull.

    I know that I can avoid her and mind my own business, but I don't know about her. She's also a total brownnoser with the professors. I'm on the professors' good side as well, so I'm hoping that they'll get to know me well enough that they'll know if I would do something or not.

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    All I'll say is: Teachers will pay more attention to good grades than gossip!

    Don't let the loser get to you.

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    What the fuck is going on?! Is this high school?! She actually used energy to lie about you falling asleep in class... and people actually CARED?! The instructor was going to kick you out because she HEARD that you fell asleep in class? Am I reading this wrong??
    If you think school is hard, try being stupid.

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    The big problem is that she's really naive and innocent (innocent does not mean good, it means that you don't know that you're doing wrong). It's not even ignorance. Ignorance is easily remedied with simple experience. Naivete and innocence keep going because the person either doesn't know better or thinks that s/he is doing the right thing. An example of this is a toddler stomping on frogs and pulling cats' tails because it's so much fun. They can't understand that they're doing harm, and you can't get a 3-year old mind to understand being in someone else's shoes. Another example of innocence and naivete is a suicide bomber who blows up buses because from childhood, he's taught that the enemy is so evil that he's doing the right thing by murdering. Nosy knows that gossip and being the social informant makes people like her and gets her attention and status. She's going to keep doing what favors her until she gets a nice big dose of reality, with no qualms. Basically, she thinks only of herself and what feels good. She can't put herself in another person's shoes.

    Nosy worked at the hospital where we had clinicals, so she already knew everything and was the instructor's star pupil. I was already on the instructor's shit list from my error. Also, it's not that she lied about me falling asleep in class. She misheard me saying, "It's boring tonight because all the patients are asleep." Her wrongdoing came in the form of spreading it around because she was curious about what happened.

    I hope for her sake and everyone else's that she grows the fuck up.

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    Don't give her a reason to gossip. Go to school, do your thing, get your work down, don't socialize. If she has no reason to talk about you, then she can't talk. If she spreads rumors that aren't true...so what? If they arent true then nothing can come of it.

    The nice thing about college compared to high school is that the instructors dont care if you fall asleep in class. Your paying to be there, they dont care if you dont turn in your homework, or dont show to class, or fall asleep. They dont care.
    When it comes to clinicals, yeah, you gotta be on your game. If you fuck up there, you will get expelled.

    A girl I was in clinical with flushed some pills down the toilet. Well...in order to waste meds, you have to have 2 nurses sign off on it. She watsed them without informing anyone, so it could not be proven that she actually flushed them. she was expelled.

    Another student accidentially gave to much insulin on mistake. Although it was a mistake, she was expelled. You just can't make mistakes when it comes to other people's lives.

    Just stay on your game, do your thing, mind your own business, and dont give anyone a reason to talk. If she tries to talk to you, just tell her to go away, you aint in school to make friends.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Hatshepsut View Post
    The big problem is that she's really naive and innocent
    No, that's what you fail to realize. From what you've written about this girl, she is NOT naive or innocent. She just knows how to pick her prey wisely! Think about it..







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    Quote Originally Posted by cinammonkisses View Post
    No, that's what you fail to realize. From what you've written about this girl, she is NOT naive or innocent. She just knows how to pick her prey wisely! Think about it..
    No, she's naive in her own way. My definitions of naive and innocent come from The Quiet American by Graham Greene. Basically, she's not malicious, just a gossipy immature little girl who doesn't ever have to take responsibility for her actions, and can't fathom why her actions would hurt others or herself. She's like a 4-year old who loves praise and tattles to illlustrate what a goody two-shoes she is. She's not the targeting bully type, even if she's getting people against me. It's more of a whhaaaa victim thing. I'm not sticking up for her, by the way. I'm illustrating how most logical techniques would be lost on her, that she's not your typical problem, etc.

    Kailynn and everyone, thanks for the pointers. I do work hard to cover my ass in clinicals.

    Here's hoping that I'll never end up in a clinical with Nosy again. She's bad news.

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    If I were you, I would have a sit down with my instructors and tell them exactly what you've told us. Just make it crystal-clear that you aren't trying to cause any problems or badmouth her in any way, that it's just that you are there to study, learn and eventually become a great nurse. Let them know that she has a tendency to gossip and say things that aren't true to make other people look bad-like she had already done to you and that you don't want it to happen again. That way they'll know from an outside source what is going on and will hopefully take anything she says from there on out with a grain of salt.

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    Quote Originally Posted by virgoamm View Post
    If I were you, I would have a sit down with my instructors and tell them exactly what you've told us. Just make it crystal-clear that you aren't trying to cause any problems or badmouth her in any way, that it's just that you are there to study, learn and eventually become a great nurse. Let them know that she has a tendency to gossip and say things that aren't true to make other people look bad-like she had already done to you and that you don't want it to happen again. That way they'll know from an outside source what is going on and will hopefully take anything she says from there on out with a grain of salt.
    Hey, when you put it that way, it does make sense. The instructors know that I'm competent and caring, and I guess it wouldn't hurt to inform them or possible drama. Thanks.

    Hopefully, I'll never be placed in a clinical with her again though!
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    sorry you have to deal with such stupidity. People pay for getting a career and they use the time, effort and money to waste time.

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    Yesterday was the first exam for this course. I'm known as the smart girl in the class, so others kind of use me as a comparison to calibrate how hard the exam was, or as Schadenfreude if I did mediocre. For this reason, I don't tell my grades to people. It's a gateway for nosy people like Nosy to turn their inquisitions.

    After taking the computerized exam, we get printouts so we can go back to the computer and see which ones we got wrong. These papers are considered confidential. However, 2 different classmates (not the original Nosy) came up to me afterwards and said, "Hatshepsut, you didn't get an A!? Shame on you, I'm shocked!" I was pissed that they nosed their way into my paperwork, and told them that the head of the nursing department would be notified if they did it again because the papers are confidential. Yes, I know that they were trying to encourage and compliment me, but their nosiness was inexcusible. I told the head of the department that people were not respecting the confidentiality of the paperwork, and he gave a talk to the class about the consequences.

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    ^I hate when people do that! It's just so rude!
    If you think school is hard, try being stupid.

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    Holy shit, this bitch is dangerous. She's the kind of person whose idea of a secret is telling everybody, but leaving out names. Needless to say, word gets around quick.

    One of her friends works in the school's registrar office. He makes big bucks by accepting bribes from international students and putting them in the database as in-state, saving them from astronomical tuition rates. She, while surrounded by her audience like she always is, would often whine about how unfair of a scam it was, how she was paying rates akin to a private university even though she's attending a community college. The guy recently got busted, as one of her audience members tipped off the school authorities.

    I'm not saying that the guy didn't get what was coming to him, but her big mouth was pretty rotten. If he was her friend, she shouldn't have risked his hide like that. It would have been one thing to report him, or to tell fellow international students that there's an opportunity to save big bucks. It's another thing to passive-aggressively make it a public secret.

    God, if she wasn't such a prissy, old-fashioned Hindu girl who looks down on anyone who marries for love, she'd be right at home in a strip club locker room.
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    So did you have them look into your situation since she was the one spread rumors. She could be sue for such slander! Now everything is coming out in the light. I dont believe to many people will want to go down with her.
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    Update: I dodged a bullet here.

    Guess who was scheduled in my assigned clinical? Yep. Usually, we're locked into our assignments, but luckily, a guy with a good reason asked to switch to another clinical. I jumped on that one right away. I know that it seems petty, but this is more than just drama. I'm not taking my chances around here. Once I get my degree, I can always get another job if there's a toxic, dangerous person in the workplace. If I get kicked out of school due to her nosing and games of telephone gossip, my career may be fucked. Whew, I'm thankful I was able to dodge this one.

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