
Originally Posted by
Chrissy68
i understand what you are going through as i lost my sister almost 7 years ago in May. i have a memorial tattoo on my low back with her initials. first let me say that dr. elizabeth kubler-ross pioneered the way we think about death psychology, in that you have to go through the five stages in NO particular order: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance. it will be very difficult to move on, but at least you realize that holding onto the denial any longer will just make things more difficult in the future, in finishing the grieving process. holding on to it will also make you more and more depressed the longer you wait to let that part of him go, because he wont ever come back, as you said. there are days where i *still* cry because i miss my sister. granted she didnt commit suicide, and she was 8 years old when i was 18, but it was so sudden that i, like you, didn't get to say good bye so closure is especially difficult.
you never get over it, you just get used to it.
as for a tattoo, let me tell you from my experience, people of all kinds will ask you what your tat means and who he is, ESPECIALLY if you get initials or a name. and you don't want to have to explain to anyone, unless you choose to, what it means. so, get something more personal, maybe design wise. you may alreayd have picked something out but beware, customers, boyfriends, random ppl will ask. my tat is a butterfly- Kubler-Ross said in a book abotu child psych in relating to death that the butterfly is the symbol of transformation from life to death, that like the butterfly (caterpillar on) humans go thru a lifecycle too. so i have a very intricate butterfly (wings are intriciate) with her initials woven in.
if you need.. PM me.
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