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    So I am trying desperately not to be all jaded and pessimistic about this situation. Recently I've made the first real, great amazing friend since I've been in L.A. She's younger than me, 21, but she has ALL the qualities I am looking for in a friend, I absolutely adore her, and we've been hanging out constantly.
    But there's something very VERY strange going on and I need the help of people wiser than I am on this matter.
    I've noticed very strange things like: she doesn't drive and she has no liscense. She lives at home with her parents. She has no job and her parents pay for everything and mom drives her wherever she needs to go.
    Finally, last night she confessed why her life is like this. She said there is no paper trail on her. She basically does not "exist." She was born at home, no hospital records, no social security, no credit cards, nothing. She was home schooled for her whole life as well. She said the reason behind this is because her father, a doctor, is a very controlling man who doesnt not want the government to have any tabs on her. It goes on a little more but basically, that is the gyst of it. She claims she hates her father for denying her a life but if she rebels against his wishes, he will cut her and her mother off, financially. She claims she is 21, but since she has no real records, she could be a little younger or a little older.
    My worst suspiscion says she may have fibbed about her age when she first met me and now is trying to cover up the reason why she can't go to bars/clubs with me? But then again, she doesn't drive! Even if she were younger than 21, she'd still be old enough to drive. I'm so confused..
    So what do you guys think? Is this legit? Is there anything that I can do to find out if this is true? I don't want to drop her as a friend, but I cannot stand the thought that this may not be the truth? How common is a situation like this?

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    Do you know where she lives? Or her full name? B/c you can look up birth anouncen=ments and such....

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    Okay, I'll be back when I think of something.

    I just gotta say, damn! This is very weird, sounds like a spin-off show to HBO's Big Love or something. I'll be following this thread. Hopefully we'll find out her real "story".
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    Sounds like dad is schizophrenic, and has been for quite some time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Yekhefah View Post
    Sounds like dad is schizophrenic, and has been for quite some time.
    I second that.

    Maybe CPS should be notified. After all, you don't know if she's a kid. Also, who knows if she's a kidnapped kid who's been kept under the radar?

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    I have no clue..it seems there are so many possibilties with a scenario like this

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    I grew up the child of hippies. We lived in a community that was very anti establishment - people grew weed, were activists, avoided taxes, etc. But even the home schooled kids still "existed". We all had social security cards and immunizations and such.

    To live that far below the radar in a place like CA is very, very odd. If you want to live that far below the radar you move to a little shack with no running water in rural Wyoming or something.

    So, yes, there is defenitely something really bizarre about this. And I agree, call CPS.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hatshepsut View Post
    Maybe CPS should be notified. After all, you don't know if she's a kid. Also, who knows if she's a kidnapped kid who's been kept under the radar?
    that's a really good point. there are so many creepy things that this could be...

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    He could't just cut her mother off. I am sure she could sue him, and the mother could divorce him with a lawyer. But then he would just say he was going to kill them or something.

    If this story is true, it does kinda sound like she was kidnaped.

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    I'm getting chills reading this.

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    If she's saying all of this just to lie about her age, I wish she'd come clean, because she's putting me in a very scary predicament.

    Don't know if any of this matters, but she claims her family is italian.
    Met her mom last night and she seemed very nice, very normal..

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    This sounds so sketchy to me...
    The kidnapping theories seem likely.

    Maybe she was illegally adopted? Like bought... or maybe she was kidnapped by someone else and her parents "adopted" her.

    Or maybe her dad is just totally insane.
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    If I were you, I would say to her, " look, I really like you as a friend, and I suspect that you may be younger than you told me. But I'm also starting to wonder if you have no records because you were kidnapped as a child. I'm prepared to inform the authorities, so they can look into it. So if you are really younger, please just tell me the truth. I wont be upset, and I will still be your friend, I just need to know the truth, right now"

    Thi swhole things is very concerning to me. It sounds so fishy. I mean, wil this girl never get a job, never marry, never have children, never even move into her own place? People need their identies for the smallest things now. Has she never even been to a hospital? What if she were to fall ill? You even need to show ID at the hospital, or a doctor's office.

    If I wer eyou, I might go to the website for the missing children, and search through thoes pictures a bit, see if any look familiar to you. God, do you know how many children have been missing in the US? How many families have assumed their child is dead( and is probably right) but what if this is someones child?
    God, this is scary. Definatly go talk to her. tell her nto to Bullshit you around any longer, you must know the truth. Even if she says ok, yoru right, you found me out, Im only 17...Id still want to see some proof. A birth certificate. Something to prove she has records. I STILL might go inform the authorities to check into it. It just sound slike an unsafe situation for her, to be cut off from society like that.
    How did you meet her?

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    Her father's a doctor - he must be on the radar.

    Does he check out professionally? Is he in any Who's Who's and what do they say about his family? Ditto his business - does he work at a hospital or is he a GP? If these businesses have websites, there might be info there. That sort of website often says Dr xxx has a wife and daughter... It's good PR for the business.

    What about other local records - do you have access to electoral roles of registered voters for example. What do they say - go to your local library and ask.

    I'd also consider a second possibility.

    I've got a friend who's a bit of a Walter Mitty character - he's a nice guy, but he will exagerate about what he's done and where he's been. Is there an element of that from your friend?

    For example, if her father wants to keep her off the radar, why does he let his wife drive her out and about?

    Before I started notifying anyone in authority I'd do a few basic checks myself. After all you can still notify the authorities in a week or two's time at need.

    If possibility 2 (Walter Mitty) is correct, the good doctor and his wife won't thank you.

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    oh lord..i went through this same exact thing 2 years ago with a girl i met. she fed me storys like this. turns out she just didnt want me to think she was a "loser" for living at home and not driving, etc. anyway,i would def. sit down with her and say what kaylinn wrote..

    this entire thing just seems so shady...i mean if i was her i wouldent open up about that to a girl i met in the club ya know? im not trying to say this girl is lieing to you because anything is possible...its just so dramatic lol.

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    Can you believe I'm so disturbed about this, my stupid IBS has been acting up all day??
    I am taking EVERYTHING being said here into close, careful consideration before making a move toward anything. Hence, my need to get other people's "input" on the situation.
    Man, I'd welcome the fact that she may be fibbing just so I wont think she's a "loser who didn't drive." I could care less. I really really like this girl, she's such a terrific person.
    I did not meet her at the club. I met her at a Christmas party that my bf's company had. We hit it off immediately and have been like..best buddies ever since.

    I keep reading these posts trying to figure out what's best to do at this point. First off, I know I have to confront her and do what Kaylinn suggested. Hopefully, I'll get some truth so i won't have to resort to any other measures.

    So....no one's going for the story she has told me? That would be impossible, or no?

    Another thing to add: she wants to be an actress and has had a small part in a film. She received her SAG card from this. For anyone who knows anything about the acting world, if she has obtained a SAG card, doesn't that mean she had to present some sort of proof of who she is?

    I feel so...ughhh frustrated and actually a little bit angry

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    No it's actually not impossible. Rare, instances of this going on usually come from Montana, Wyoming, Utah, and Idaho. Those States where People really have been known to take their dislike of the .Gov to extremes. L.A. and a Doctor? Well I have said things were impossible then proved wrong in the past.

    Then again she may be making it up so you will like her. Either way why worry about it? Doesn't steal food from your plate.

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    my post came off negative..i just meant it seems so out there ya know it could definitely be true..i know nothing about acting but im sure someone here will know..i hope you get this figured out soon hun.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kaiyla View Post
    She was born at home, no hospital records, no social security, no credit cards, nothing. She was home schooled for her whole life as well. She said the reason behind this is because her father, a doctor, is a very controlling man who doesnt not want the government to have any tabs on her. It goes on a little more but basically, that is the gyst of it. She claims she hates her father for denying her a life but if she rebels against his wishes, he will cut her and her mother off, financially. She claims she is 21, but since she has no real records, she could be a little younger or a little older.
    I personally think maybe she was kidnapped at birth and they have been passing her off as their own her entire life. Shit, she's "grown" now if I were her I'd go and get my correct papers. I'd want to live life!







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    If she has an SAG card, she's *definitely* not telling the truth!

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    where does it say she's got a SAG card???

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    She could just be an illegal alien. I mean, this IS Los Angeles.

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    Another thing to add: she wants to be an actress and has had a small part in a film. She received her SAG card from this. For anyone who knows anything about the acting world, if she has obtained a SAG card, doesn't that mean she had to present some sort of proof of who she is?
    Yes she would have to present at least one piece of identification...and probably a photo one! I have done acting, and have been required to provide 3 pieces, at least one photo.

    I have been reading this thread with concern, and wow...I could not believe what I was reading!!

    Something is definitely wrong, please do look into it! I suggest confronting her as soon as possible!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Hatshepsut View Post
    ...Maybe CPS should be notified. After all, you don't know if she's a kid. Also, who knows if she's a kidnapped kid who's been kept under the radar?
    Yep .. this is way weird... does she have any siblings? If her dad wants to be low-key why is he a doctor???

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    ^^^ I am at a loss too.
    I am guessing she is definitely not an immigrant.

    It does "steal from my plate" since I am on probabtion for a DUI a year ago. If she's lying about her age and somehow it is found that I have an underage "kid" at my house drinking like we do somethimes, it could put MY life at risk.

    This situation sucks. I loath confrontation. Figures, first real friend I've made here and now I've got to wade through this shit ..

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