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    Tell me really...

    Last Monday I was kind of smacked in the face with the realization that I'm 20 pounds over my ideal weight. I've been working out like a fiend and only a week later I'm already looking better - tighter and a bit slimmer, with the glow of exercise. I've been eating healthy, doing at least an hour of cardio at the gym six days a week, staying active the rest of the time, all that jazz.

    So I REALLY need money and I've been wanting to get back into dancing, but I had a really frightening bruise on one breast that I needed to heal up. I know I haven't got a chance in hell at a good club when I'm 20 pounds overweight, but I chose my most slimming outfit (see pic) and hit FIVE clubs tonight. ALL OF THEM turned me down - they didn't even give me an audition. They just said they had enough girls and didn't need anymore.

    Is it really that slow these days, or am I too fat to be dancing right now? Tell me honestly, because I'll keep trying if y'all think I should. Or maybe I should go get a minimum-wage job at damn Blockbuster and forget about paying down any debt until I lose this weight. I would like to be debt-free AND sexy by August, or at least not starving. And shit is SLOW at the dungeon.

    So tell me, should I give up until I lose the weight or is it really that slow right now?
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    Well whatever youre doing ..youre doing a damn good job at it. I dont know what those managers were smokin but damn those gams

    I mean it depends on how bad you need money. Like you need it so bad you cant afford even ramen or so bad you just really really want it? I felt alot better about myself when I first lost the weight of 30lbs in 05 before I started back. Or you could do just half and loose the other half while dancing. We all know how much dancing lowers your weight when you start back.
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    i dont think you look that overweight! maybe wait another 2 weeks or so, because even though results arent immediate, like you said, you can tell already that the new eating and exercising plan is making a difference. but i dont think you look bad.

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    Well, thanks, guys... it's just that business dried up completely at the dungeon (seriously, NONE of us are getting more than one or two sessions a week) and I've got bills coming due, including a big-fuck tax bill that I had hoped to pay off. Maybe I'll go try some more clubs tomorrow. Maybe I'll go out to City of Industry or something. I'm not crazy about super-high mileage but for a week or two I can deal with it.

    I didn't THINK I looked 20 pounds overweight; I mean, I know I needed to lose some but I was mighty shocked when the scale said 140 pounds (I'm 5'1"). I'm just not sure if I fall into the "thick cute" category or the "get off the stage, Bertha" category!

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    Oh Yekh, we are so in the same boat right now as far as how we feel. I'm just going to go for it, and so should you. You've got killer legs babe!

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    From what I can see in the pic, you look great! I vote for crack-smoking managers.
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    You dont look 20lbs overweight at all. I wouldnt worry that you look overweight at all. Besides, when I picture and overweight dancer I picture a gruesome picture of rolls on rolls deal. Like a chic who has more rolls than sara lee. Luckily, thats not you.

    Maybe the COD idea isnt so bad b/c it wont be too long. I remember the stories of your high mileage horrors. That way you can stay on your feet while not having to work there for too long. As for the weight thing..really youre doing really well from the last pics you posted. Itll come off in no time.
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    Hm. I wore jeans tonight when driving around to the clubs; in the pic, that's the outfit I had planned to dance in. Maybe I'll wear a short skirt tomorrow night and try again. You guys are sweet, I hadn't even been looking at my legs, just my big squishy gut!

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    Default Re: Tell me really...

    if you have a shred of doubt about yourself then you will be putting that out into the universe and the managers have no choice but to make it true for you.

    keep doing your exercise plan and go back when you have no doubts. then they'll have no choice but to take you... and make you #1 bitch in house.

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    I agree with the others: based on your legs, we can tell you're not fat, you're actually fit looking. However, I think what you're wearing might have made you look bigger than you intended, especially if it is dark colored. Maybe take another pic in something lighter and closer to the body. Would lingerie be asking too much?
    Another note: I think each woman should find the weight that flatters her chest the most, since some women who lose too much tend to have it be noticed up there.

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    I can't see the pic too well since it is sort of dark but you definitely don't look fat to me. I agree to try going to clubs in a different outfit.

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    It's really hard to see your body in that pic. It looks like you are a shadow! But I've seen your myspace and your dungeon pics so I think you're being paranoid. Go shake your ass, woman! There are much bigger girls making tons of money because of the insecurities of skinny girls thinking they are fat.
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    WTH are you talking about?! You look fantastic! Seriously, I think you have a beautiful body

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    Nopee, you are gorgeous, but keep doing what you are doing.

    I think it is helping your self-esteem from what I read, and confidence=money.

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    Even if you're not too toned in the stomach, you have TOTALLY HOT BOOBIES (as well as legs, face, brains & various other attributes), which should make up for it. Because a hint of a belly is the last thing on my mind when I encounter THBs.

    It's weird that no one even gave you an audition... WTF is up with that? Does CA have a "season," and is it over, or drawing to a close? That's the only thing I can think of.

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    I'm not aware of a season. Last year I made the most money in May through July. Maybe it's a tax thing. I'm gonna head out to City of Industry today and hopefully get hired somewhere out there... I'm betting there will be a higher proportion of customers who like thicker girls and aren't paying taxes this week. Fingers crossed, anyway!

    Thanks for the boost, guys. I'm definitely going to keep trying to lose this weight (got a high school reunion in August, and since I don't have an Oscar yet I have GOT to be the sexiest bitch there, heh!)... I was just really starting to worry that I was just too fat, even though I don't feel THAT fat!

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    Good luck Yekh!

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    Good luck. I think you look great!

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    That pic's so hard to see...your body looks fantastic, imo. However, from previous pics I've seen of your face, your face looks like it's holding some weight. Having extra chubby in your face makes you seem bigger...that could be the issue.

    I also know glasses are your thing, but I think you'd have better luck auditioning without them. Lots of whoreish makeup, and for goddsakes, unleash those puppies with a big push-up bra!

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    Default Re: Tell me really...

    A photo usually makes a person look heavier than they actually are, and since you look attractive in the photo, I would guess that you don't look overweight in real life. Perhaps you are THINKING fat, and that means you are moving and projecting that image even though you are not?

    Think of Stanislavski, remember a time when you thought yourself to be slender, sexy, and beautiful, and project THAT.

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    Glasses aren't my "thing," I just need them to see! I would like contacts, but my last pair wore out last year and I haven't been able to get a new pair. Till then I've definitely got to wear the glasses though. Without them I wouldn't know the difference between a single and a twenty - I'm really blind.

    Thanks, guys, I'll work on the mindset too! I'm already feeling a lot better than I did last week.

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    you look great yek!!!! nice legs good luck!!

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    Default Re: Tell me really...

    I'm going to diverge a little here since you said, "tell me really..." Your picture looks fine, but it's very dark and at that angle really hard to tell. The thing that makes me think you're overweight is that you said you're 5'1" and 140lbs. Sorry, but that's pretty heavy. 120lbs is a good goal, especially if you carry it well but if you're 140lbs then I can see why you're getting denied.

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    Default Re: Tell me really...

    really .. i can't see your pic very well. i think my computer monitor just sucks ass, but from what i can see, well i don't see a fat lady. your legs i can see and YOU'RE LOOKING GOOD! If you still need toning up, it sounds like your working out/healthy eating is doing the trick. Just give it a few more weeks, and I bet you'll look more fabulous than ever!

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    umm hello.. are you crazy? (j/k) You look absolutely fine. Gorgeous.

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