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    Alright, after an almost two month long battle over this, I've decided....living with my best friend isn't going to work anymore. It just isn't. For various reasons that I feel would be better posted if this weren't a public board....cause ya never know what you post thats gonna bite you in the butt when the person you posted it about comes across it....so, basically, over respect issues, for lack of a better word, I've decided I am better off living by myself and keeping our friend status as visitors and not cohabitants.

    So, I have almost a month to be moved out of here. And I don't know where to start. I'm terrified of living alone. But just as much, if not more, I'm excited. I just need some inspiration from you guys that being alone will be okay, may even be really great, for me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PookaShell View Post
    Alright, after an almost two month long battle over this, I've decided....living with my best friend isn't going to work anymore. It just isn't. For various reasons that I feel would be better posted if this weren't a public board....cause ya never know what you post thats gonna bite you in the butt when the person you posted it about comes across it....so, basically, over respect issues, for lack of a better word, I've decided I am better off living by myself and keeping our friend status as visitors and not cohabitants.

    So, I have almost a month to be moved out of here. And I don't know where to start. I'm terrified of living alone. But just as much, if not more, I'm excited. I just need some inspiration from you guys that being alone will be okay, may even be really great, for me.
    Don't feel bad. I actually lost my best friend over a roommate issue like this. She moved out from her parent's house and went nuts once we moved in together. She even went so far as to...now get this...THROW the rent money at me when I asked if she had it!

    It's hard to live with someone that isn't your SO, and I can totally understand why you'd like to get your own place. I don't know what to tell you really...just find you a good, SAFE place to live!

    I bet you'll be much happier when you only have to worry about you and what you want to do with/in your place!

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    I think your gonna like living alone. Its like your space where no one is there to mess it up or disturb things. Your own peaceful paradise. Sure its overwhelming at first, but after a while, you never want another roomie again. Even though you are excited, maybe write down what makes you anxious or afraid of living alone. Once you have it listed in front of you, I bet you will see that there is really nothing to be afraid of.

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    You know, I went through this when I first moved out. Best friend as roommate...trust issues, then she moved out and I had the place to myself to save our friendship.

    I think you'll find it refreshing and peaceful. It's a wonderful feeling having a place all to yourself. Sure it gets lonely and sometimes you'll be scared, but you have friends, family and SW to keep you occupied during those times. Other times, you'll be so grateful that you have some quiet time to yourself that you can't believe you didn't do it sooner.

    The best thing is that you'll get to know YOU. And when you're finally ready to commit to the living together with a man thing, you won't feel like you missed out on anything.

    And, on a selfish note; everything is YOURS! Your furniture, your decorating taste etc. You don't have to wear underwear, you can sing into your spatula at odd hours, you can take a 10 hour long bath.

    Enjoy it while you can, my young friend. I envy you!

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    Think of all the stress putting up with someone like that causes. Living on your own will be so much easier. You'll still have friends, you just won't have them invading your space! Haha!

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    When you clean up the place - it will stay clean!

    When you put something down - it will still be there 3 days later!

    If you feel like watching bad infomercials at 5am - you can!

    There are so many bonuses to living alone. Enjoy!

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    One of the most cherished times of my life was the year I lived all alone! As Dylan mentioned, you get to know yourself. I learned I love to cook...something I had previously avoided as to not hog the kitchen from roomates. Little things like that..ya, I believe you will really enjoy it. And when you feel lonely, just invite a friend over to your pad.

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    Living alone is The. Shit!

    No one will get mad/grossed out by your habits
    You can walk around naked
    You can go to the bathroom without worrying about closing the door
    You never have to wait for the bathroom/kitchen/tv/whatever to be free
    No one eats your food or drinks your booze
    Your home is your own, private haven. Completely free from people bothering you.
    The list goes ooonnn.
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    I miss living alone.



    I Love Life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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    I lub you guys. Thanks.

    This will be fine.

    And instead of filling it immediately with cheap ugly furniture I can sit in an empty house until I can afford the furniture I actually WANT to invest in.

    And....

    I won't have to hear disgusting sounding 6 hour long sex marathons coming from the wall every night.

    And...

    I will only have to wash the dishes that I left in the sink instead of cleaning up after her and her boyfriend all the time. And if I don't feel like going to work, I won't have anyone trying to make me feel guilty about it.

    So there. This will be great. I'll get to pick the cable I want. And I'll get to buy groceries and find that the next day - ALL of them are still there.

    And I really wanna learn to cook too.

    ETA: Oooh, SM is back.

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    My freshman year of college, I shared a dorm with my best friend. We'd been best friends since fourth grade, we were both vegetarians, we were both artists, we were so excited, we just knew it was gonna be awesome. By the end of the first semester, I fantasized about killing her with a steak knife in her sleep and she felt the same way about me. After that one semester, she transferred to a different university and I bought out the rest of the room so I wouldn't have to have another roommate.

    As I quickly discovered, living alone is WONDERFUL. You can sit right in the middle of the living room masturbating to the Spice Channel if you want to. You can play your own music as loudly as you want, eat whatever the hell you want, and stay out all damn weekend if you want and no one has to know. You'll love it.

    My friend and I didn't talk for a few years after that, but we got back in touch eventually and we're close friends again. I love her dearly, I really do. She's like my sister; we've known each other almost 20 years. But I damn sure never want to live with her ever again and she feels the same way.

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    Haha, Yek. I kinda wanna masturbate to the spice channel, now.

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    you are a big girl, you will be fine! This will be a great period for personal growth for you! Embrace it!

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    Just start off small. Get a small, cheap place, on a 6 month lease. Don't go purchase crazy, and explore your options as you go.

    You'll make mistakes, it'll be tough to begin with, but it will be YOURS and YOURS ALONE.

    And therefor....FUN
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    It is just too damn hard to live with a friend and it often ruins friendships. You will be a lot happier. Craigslist.org is a good place to check for shorter term leases or rentals directly from the owner.

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    Shopping at Target. Your gonna need to shop for all those hpouse things like a welcome mat or kitchen towels. What about plants? 1000 thread count egyptian cotton sheets? How can you not be excited?

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    You can eat ice cream right out of the carton. If you feel like getting it on in the middle of the living room, that's totally cool. When you want quiet, it actually is! You'll like it once you get used to it!

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    Quote Originally Posted by PookaShell View Post
    Haha, Yek. I kinda wanna masturbate to the spice channel, now.
    Haha. Now I kinda wanna masturbate to the thought of Yek and Pooka masturbating to the spice channel. HAWT.

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    Now you can masturbate wherever you want in your own place!
    Pee naked with the door open! Its a fun free place to be.

    Just be safe.
    Dont let anyone know your schedule for work or school
    Keep your address safe from weirdos (ie new guys)
    Dont let anyone weird inside
    Dont eat weird cakes left on your doorstep (hehe)
    Always look around while coming and going esp. at night
    Take different routes from work to home
    Know open fire stations and places to go late night in case of stalker
    Make sure all locks work and window locks work prior to move in

    Sorry if I scare ya but its always better to practice safety too. I hope you find the place youre looking for. I love craigslist.com!
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    The first time I ever lived alone I was scared at first but after a couple days not only did I get used to it but I loved it. I now live alone again and can't imagine living with anyone ever again, well, except for my dog of course.

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    I lub you guys. Thanks so much.

    And.......TM.....if someone randomly caked me...I thin I might eat it.

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    i live alone. sometimes i love it and sometimes i hate it (partly because im homesick). but i dont see myself going back to living with anybody else anytime soon, just because the benefits outweigh the bad stuff. plus, i got my kitty, and now i dont want anybody else that i'd have to worry about closing the doors or whatever. living alone is sooo much better, like everybody has said.

    my only advice different from what people have already posted is to give it time if you dont love it at first, or if you do but then you start to get lonely. it definately takes some getting used to!

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    When I was first on my own, I rented a studio. It was great. My own place, albeit really small, but all my own. I could come and go as I pleased, invite people over or not, and all that. It was GREAT. You'll LOVE it. So wonderful.

    Totally... I miss it!!!!

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    In college, I manipulated my roommate to asking for a room transfer just so I could be by myself, and I did it so well that we remained friends after he left. It isn't the proudest thing I've ever done, but it's how bad I wanted to be by myself.

    Now I cohabitate, but it's a love thing. If I didn't do so with this particular one, I'd live on my own. Be my own boss of my own time and my own actions. Sounds wonderful. I envy you.

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    I've had a few crappy roommates in my time. OH WOW did some of them suck ass. There was Adrianna, who started a passive aggressive campaign against me to try and break up me and my boyfriend at the time. When I asked her to do her own dishes one day, she started laughing at me. Shane threw a full beer can at my head. I had to get a restraining order. There was also Jen, who also never cleaned and decided to start hoarding cats and doing meth.

    I sort of miss living alone sometimes, but now I am at a place with someone who works well with me. If it were completely up to me with no financial restrictions, it would either be him or no one else at all! I was totally able to be myself and do whatever I wanted at any time. It rocked! But I did get lonely sometimes...and occasionally a little scared because I had a dungeon in my house and I would smoke pot and be paranoid that some angry client would stalk me.
    But that's what friends are for. Whenever I got too freaked out, I'd call someone or walk over to my friend's house around the corner and sleep on his couch. It seems like you have a good support system, Pooka and you won't be inviting weirdo into your house, so I'm sure you'll be fine.

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