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    I have a problem with my confiance level it effects my hustle I will be going strong and then for whatever reason I will start to feel not as good as someone else and if evidant that i am feeling this way my whole demnor changes and I want that to stop how do you deal with it when you feel low so it dose not effect your money.

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    What brings on this change of thought? It has to be something?? Best thing for me, when I feel in a slump is go in the back relax. I give myself a much deserved break. Then I check my hair, makeup, and then I put on one of my "money maker" dresses. That always makes me feel worthy of more money!

    I hope you get out of this slump!







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    You got to be in the mood. The entire club/room can read your face.



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    Confidence isn't something you get overnight, it's a life long process. For me, the biggest boost in confidence comes from accomplishing something. When I feel I can do well at something, I feel good about myself. This affects all areas of my life.

    Are you in school? Do you have a hobby or other interests outside of work? Doing well in other aspects of life makes the SC environment so much better. Low self confidence is totally tied in to low self esteem so if you're feeling this way, maybe consider seeing a counsellor or life coach. They can help you uncover the root of this and give you some tips on how you can improve this area. I've been to therapy and I can honestly say it was that best gift I've ever given myself. You don't have to suffer from mental illness to benefit from this, everyone has areas of themselves that needs improvement.

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    thank you lex and cin It dose come from my low self esteem i still have not gotten over being made fun of badly in school and I am 27 so I always feel akward in a room full of people becuse I am sure they don't like me and no matter what i feel like the ugliest thing in the room i could use some consuling becuse I need to get threw this issue if i ever plan to be a figure compiter.

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    and i know it effects my money becuse it is a very true fact a women that is a 3 on the scale of hottness can make bank if she presents her self well and is full of confiance men are drawn to there personailty we have all see this happen and watched in amazement.

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    Quote Originally Posted by krchab99 View Post
    thank you lex and cin It dose come from my low self esteem i still have not gotten over being made fun of badly in school and I am 27 so I always feel akward in a room full of people becuse I am sure they don't like me and no matter what i feel like the ugliest thing in the room i could use some consuling becuse I need to get threw this issue if i ever plan to be a figure compiter.
    Honey, I know exactly how you feel as I've been there myself. Some scars will never completely go away, but if you let your insecurites get the best of you, then it just means those school bullies have won. Be a survivor, not a victim.

    ALL women are beautiful and unique in their own way, you're no exception. So instead of comparing yourself to others, make the most of who you already are, and embrace the things that make you unique! As Judy Garland once said“Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else.” No one is truly perfect, so don't hate yourself because you don't have the lips, tits, ass, etc. some other girl has. Thats a one way ticket to misery. By doing this, you're putting a glass ceiling on your own potential. On top of that, beauty, like art, is subjective. The woman you find most attractive in a room may be seen as repulsive to a different person. A person who might consider you the hottest woman alive.

    If theres things about your appearance you'd like to change though, thats ok. But until you change them, don't view your imperfections as a disability. We're all a work in progress in one form or another, but life goes on no matter what. If you wait too long for that perfect moment, it might pass you by.

    Think positive! If you think positively about yourself, it'll enhance your inner beauty, which in turn will enhance your outer beauty. People who are beautiful on the inside as well as outside radiate a sense of well being and have a natural magnetism. Audrey Hepburn for example. An unconventional beauty for her time, who was extremely thin with imperfect teeth. But shes often considered the most beautiful woman of all time.

    Of course, you can't go from low to high self esteem overnight. So sometimes, you gotta fake it till you make it. Give yourself compliments and after a while, you WILL start to believe them! Your confidence will start to grow before you know it.

    And when your confidence grows, so will your earnings.





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    oh thank you dolly your post realy helped alot thank you for takeing the time to say that.

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    Yeah, Dolly. Your post is very helpful.

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    No problom ladies. Glad I can be of help : ).

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    Quote Originally Posted by krchab99 View Post
    I have a problem with my confiance level it effects my hustle I will be going strong and then for whatever reason I will start to feel not as good as someone else and if evidant that i am feeling this way my whole demnor changes and I want that to stop how do you deal with it when you feel low so it dose not effect your money.
    Do you guys ever think this might be hormonal? Like certain times of the month you feel all emotional and sensitive? That exact same thing happened to me last Friday. In the beginning I felt all confident...made money at the beginning of the shift then all of a sudden I started thinking my breasts were hideous for some reason and I went down and had an emotional breakdown in the dressing room for no reason. I started out ok then all of a sudden I felt ugly and didn't want to take off my clothes for anyone.

    But this whole week I felt confident and had my hustle on. Werid!

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    I have exactly the same problems sometimes. I seem to look at the other girls and they always seem to look so great then I see myself in the mirror and my confidence completely drops. But lately ive spoken to these "Look so good in a paperbag" girls and they're just as insecure as i am and have the same problem. I think we all go through trends where we feel like we're not as good as others.

    But obviously theres different strokes for different folks. Guys who think your hot might think the girls you envy are unattractive and visa versa. Little do you know some of the girl might envy things about you and really why shouldn't they. Your obviously a person who is individual and theres noone out there thats you. Just Remember (and I know this helps me) One persons Perfection is another ones Flaw.
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