ive been dancing for about 2 1/2 years now and i do ok, but i feel that is mostly due to how i look and i need to work on how i approach people now that i work in a club with higher quality dancers.
like i said i feel confident in the looks department but i have trouble with feeling shy or self conscious socially. i feel silly smiling at work all the time but people always tell me to smile so i know i need to. im a rather serious person though and have trouble with standing around smiling, but it makes me look unapproachable and snobby. are there certain things people think about to smile, is it just forced, how to other, normally introverted people, do it?
i also have trouble making myself approach guests who arnt obviously interested in me, i talk myself out of it. "they look grumpy, or broke, or they just sat down, or the other girls/bouncers will think im stupid for trying to sell to someone who looks weird/old/poor." are things i constantly tell myself. how do i snap out of it? the only thing that seems to work is drinking but that is a such a bad habit to fall into.
i try to tell myself "ok tonight i will talk to EVERYONE! no matter what" but then i get psyched out.
how can i look friendly just standing around? and how can i get in the habit of approaching guest more often?



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I usually like to find a spot where I can be invisible to the patrons in the club and watch for a little while before making myself visible out on the floor and only then smile. Granted, it also depends on you as your stripper persona as there are some girls (I swear by it) where smiling is just not what sells them. It is the fact that they DO have that bitchy look that sells them. It just seems more sexy for them to NOT smile. So you really do have to find out what works for you.


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