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    Sorry, when I said "fear of leaving" I meant leaving the club and having crazies mess with her or follow her. That and groping I guess would really be my only problem. I would have to choke a mother fucker LOL. Looking is one thing but touching, harassing and disrespecting is another!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sunshine73 View Post
    Poco, you've made such progress! I'm so proud of you!

    Like I said, if you are in a happy and great relationship, there would be no reason to fear her leaving you. For a customer or anyone else.
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    You know, to the OP, one thing you really have to realize is that the women often are often nude for only a short period of time. The MAJORITY of her time is spent sitting and talking to customers, being social, and .... well .... basically trying to figure out how to take their money! I would say that 95% of her time spent is SALES. It's a lot of dealing with guys who have no *clue* about talking to women, guys who have zero personality, and guys who basically suck. (Ladies, am I right?) I've sat and talked with some customers when I visit her, and boy are they (1) dumb (2) scary (3) boring (4) rude (5) obnoxious (6) drunk (7) smelly ( broke or (9) desperate - all of which mean you're a better man by far! Therefore, it takes a lot of skills to find customers who have money, actually stand to sit with them, and then convince then to spend it on you!

    My wife joked that I should strip, too. When I thought about it, I realized I can only imagine what the clientele would be like. Do you think the customers would be young, attractive, smart women? No, chances are they would be older, unattractive, and below average intelligence. Would it be possible to meet someone wonderful? Sure, anything happens, but why take a risk when you've already got a wonderful partner at home?

    Now think about it in reverse - the same is likely true for male customers. They're not there because they have great relationships with women, they are there because many of them are probably lonely and have a hard time with women. They are probably not going to win your woman over like that.

    Besides, I suspect that most dancers realize that even if a client was wonderful, it takes a very confident man to let his woman dance. I bet most clients would - if given the chance to date a stripper - tell her she had to stop! Now how does that go over with her? Not very well, I would bet!

    Another thing - Go take a read in the Hustle Hut area for "sales" tips and the likes. Then look around the site for tips on how to get naked better, or how to lap dance better. I think that you will find that the "hustle" threads far outnumber the "grind" threads. The reality is that a nice body helps bring a customer to the dancer, but it's her brain that makes the money.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xoxoGracexoxo View Post
    Ditto that. My boyfriend has never displayed any jealousy about my job, thank God. It seems to me that guys who are (or would be) jealous if their wives or girlfriends danced are buying too much into the same fantasy that the customer buy into -- to wit, that dancers are wildly in love with their customers and would absolutely love to be licked all over if it weren't for the mean bouncer over there watching us. The truth is that most of us treat dancing as a job and nothing more.

    The only time I've ever seen my bf upset about my job is if I have a bad night or someone treats me with disrespect. I know that bothers him, but it would bother him if I had a bad day and dealth with a bunch of assholes at any other job, too.
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    Quote Originally Posted by STEN_(d_slammd_1) View Post
    Sorry, when I said "fear of leaving" I meant leaving the club and having crazies mess with her or follow her. That and groping I guess would really be my only problem. I would have to choke a mother fucker LOL. Looking is one thing but touching, harassing and disrespecting is another!
    Touching, harassing, and disrespecting is not OK in my book either.

    A bouncer MUST ALWAYS walk the dancer to her car. And a smart dancer knows to watch her rearview mirror on the way home. There are many rules of safety that a dancer can follow. Too many to list here.
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    Maria Callas said it best: "When my critics stop hissing, I shall know I'm slipping."

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    It hasn't gone ovr well in my relationships, so I've decided to stay single (dating fine, no serious relationships) until I quit dancing.
    "We all must suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons. In order to achieve what others don't, you have to do what others won't."


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    Quote Originally Posted by Emily View Post
    relationships are hard for anyone.

    I'm not doing any better or worse now with them than before I was dancing.

    guys like you are typical.
    exactly. Guys that have jealousy issues are a dime a dozen.

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    A know several dancers who would be a little concerned that their man WASN'T a little bit jealous, as some of them think "he doesn't care for me or he would be jealous"... It's always a fine line between jealousy, insecurity, and still showing you care. Some other dancers want a man that is totally cool with them dancing and doesn't even question what she does at those "private parties"... Best to have a CLEAR UNDERSTANDING UPFRONT of where each partys philosphys are in these matters, or there is another trainwreck in the making. BTW, most of the dancers I know are not in any serious relationship for a variety of reasons, but they do have many "male friends".

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