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    Ladies, please please help learn how to deal with overly emotional customers. The other night I had a man in his late 60s pour his heart out to me and cry about his wife who had passed away. He bought some dances from me, but was trying his best to keep me there for the whole night (NOT in VIP mind you). He became so comfortable with me that he seemed to think that he could get away with not paying me what my time was worth. He went on and on about how SINCERE and HONEST and PURE I seeme to him, and how nice it was to meet a girl who cared about him and not the money. Obviously he was trying to take advantage of my kindness. Yet, the money I did get from him, I know he paied me because I was being kind and open to him (he is normally notorious for not buying any dances). The next bight he came back and wanted to do the same routine. I tried to explain to him that he had to pay me for my time. He got upset and started crying again. I know I should just walk away, but it is very hard for me to leave a hurting person. I am very sensitive, and I need I way to deal with this so I will make money and not feel like I was kicking an old man when he's down. Please don't tell me to just tell him to fuck off, that is not my style. So any sensitive gals out there, please help me out. There is more money out there for me, and I love my job otherwise!
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    I understand completely I had a guy who was separated from his wife and i could tell he was really hurting and I am a very caring person. I spend longer with him without getting paid than i should of but i figured that my conscience wouldnt allow me not to. I dont know what to say, i wish i could be more ruthless too.

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    Ive had a few of these so I know it can be hard.
    Be kind, chat (if your not busy elsewhere) for a few minutes but then apologise and state that you do have to get back to work. Check that theyre ok for drinks and that they're are comfortable etc and tell them youll keep checking up on them later on in the night.
    Checking up only takes a moment or two and quite often youll find someone else has moved in on the customer anyway. If you get a quiet period you can go chat for a while then, but keep it short and say "Hey, I have to go make some money again etc." when you feel you have to go.
    If they do get shirty about it firmly explain that you have living expenses like everyone else and that your at work your required to make money.
    Good luck (-:
    If people have real problems then Im prepared to listen and spend time sometimes, but there still has to be that respect for my work too. And this guys soundslike he knows hes taking advantage of you and that aint cool!

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    I had that at Saturday night, I talked with him for about 2 songs, then told him I had to get back to work but I would come back and say hi. He stayed at the bar the whole night never bought a dance from anyone. I did come back every 5-10 songs and say hi and asked how he was doing, I would stay for about 30 seconds then I would get back to work.

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    Quote Originally Posted by feria42 View Post
    Ladies, please please help learn how to deal with overly emotional customers. The other night I had a man in his late 60s pour his heart out to me and cry about his wife who had passed away. He bought some dances from me, but was trying his best to keep me there for the whole night (NOT in VIP mind you). He became so comfortable with me that he seemed to think that he could get away with not paying me what my time was worth. He went on and on about how SINCERE and HONEST and PURE I seeme to him, and how nice it was to meet a girl who cared about him and not the money. Obviously he was trying to take advantage of my kindness. Yet, the money I did get from him, I know he paied me because I was being kind and open to him (he is normally notorious for not buying any dances). The next bight he came back and wanted to do the same routine. I tried to explain to him that he had to pay me for my time. He got upset and started crying again. I know I should just walk away, but it is very hard for me to leave a hurting person. I am very sensitive, and I need I way to deal with this so I will make money and not feel like I was kicking an old man when he's down. Please don't tell me to just tell him to fuck off, that is not my style. So any sensitive gals out there, please help me out. There is more money out there for me, and I love my job otherwise!
    Boo Hoo
    Turn it around on these guys. Let tears well up in your eyes and say, "I feel for you SOOO much, I just feel like I can't be here right now, I'm going to start sobbing (heave). My eye makeup is running!! (Dab your smearing eyes.) OH God, I have to go fix this ...I'm going to get fired for being unprofessional! OH no!!!"

    If he doesn't get his weepy ass out of there, he might even buy you a drink or buy some more dances to shut you up.

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    It isn't your responsibility to take care of this guy, point blank. I'm not saying to tell him to fuck off, but honestly, he might be a weirdo who is getting all super crazy attached to you in the wake of his wife's death.

    That aside, you say that you don't want to hurt him, but he's hurting you by fucking up your money at work. If you showed up at his job and told him he couldn't work because you had to sit there and give him a sob story every day, he'd kick you out the door!

    But I know that you are nice, and I wouldn't ever be mean to this guy either. I think it would be best if you just say a brief hello to him when you see him and walk away. If he persists, just explain to him that this is your job, and you will not be able to pay your bills if you sit down all night chatting with him.
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    Perhaps you stopped spending money on her. Strippers need money to operate. They are like coin operated juke-boxes of love.

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    I really don't have any mercy for guys who come into a strip club looking for discount therapy. If they're hurting so much they should go to counseling and not a stripper.

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    He took advantage of you and deliberately torpedoed your income. He knew what he was doing. He does not deserve your kindness. Your hospitality should be reserved for those who respect you enough to pay you what you are worth.

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    I think a little compassion is certainly in order, but if he truly needs a therapist, he needs to seek a real one out. In a case like that, he shouldn't be substituting strip club sympathy for professional counseling. Perhaps level with him that you're there to sell dances to make a living but you don't want to take advantage of his vulnerability because you think he should seek out a therapist, and then excuse yourself by telling him that you have to get back to work. Naked ladies are for sexual excitement, not psychological healing.

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    "The Lapdance Is Always Bitter When The Tipper Is Crying..."

    Ladies, don't feel bad about getting suckered by a nancy-boy that can't man up when he sees titties. I DATED this kind of PL, swallowed all his crybaby crap....So be warned. "Never trust limping dogs or crying babies."

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