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    I am working in a new club and I like it alot and want to stay. The problem is the bouncer is an older guy who is way creepy and he is makeing me feel uncomfortable last he hugges and the felt me up and he always touched my ass at the juke box. I hate it but I am not sure what course of action to take becuse I am new to the club and don't want to make wave with the"in" people. I want to know the most tactful way to deal with this. Thank you.

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    Sweetie, if he makes you this uncomfortable, I would suggest talking about it to one of the managers. That and I would tell the bouncer point blank that you don't appreciate him touching you like that. It's not making waves- it's called standing up and saying that you're not going to take being groped when you don't want it. (IMHO, he probably takes advantage of all the new girls like that, so he probably feels he can get away with it.)
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    I agree with Christy. IF you don't stand up and say something now, then it is just going to keep happening. I personally always like to go to the source first... no matter how scary or intimidating it is. Talk to him first...set your boundaries. Then if it continues I would defintley say something to management.. and if they don't take care of it then.. hmmm... then you may have to become a bit more uhh.."verbal" with him.

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    ^^Yep. Talk to HIM first. Don't go over his head unless talking to him doesn't work. Just tell him to knock it off. I've found that most strip club staff/dancers respect people who stand up for themselves much, much more. They'll walk on anyone who doesn't. It's a toxic environment like that.

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    Definitely talk to him first. Next time he tries it, swing your head around and with the most serious face ever tell him "Don't touch me." Say it very stern, the way you would command a dog to sit. He'll probably try to laugh it off & make it seem like no big deal - don't smile, keep that same stern look & tell him again "I don't want you touching me." I would say it quietly. If he doesn't seem to take you seriously, even after the 2nd warning go to management. Sexual harassment = lawsuit = lots of money the club will lose. It doesn't matter that you parade around in barely any clothes. You don't have to deal with that bs from your co-workers (and the owners of the club know it).

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    Thank you ladies tomorow I will tell him not to much to me I hope it works it should. I just worry about ticking of the "in" poeple this club has its clique of people who have been there forever. But you ladies are right and I will do it.

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