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    So get this I am working and doing really well, and two girl that work there come up to me and they are like this guy really likes you and we are trying to get everyone in the CR room will you go talk with him. I was like okay but I don’t want to go in there. Well everyone wants to go only if I go with them. So I was like okay, but before we go they want everyone to have two shots! So I finally did them and go into the back with them. Then they ordered two bottles of campaign I have my glass mixed with oj to help water it down. Anyways this guy is like all over me and I was hell no but he would not stop then his friend comes over and grabs me and holds me down so that is friend can rape me! I was yelling and the two girls that were there with me do nothing, finally I was able to get him off me and I get up to leave and the other one grabs me and tries to hold me down too!!! When I was finally able to get up I walked right out of there did not care about the money went outside and Daniel was not there. He had gotten mad that I was taking so long so he went home! I tried calling but no answer so I started walking home and walked over to James’s house and then Daniel calls me and comes and gets me, now he is all mad at me for going into the CR room, I really thought I would be save in there with the other girls now I feel so stupid and used. And to top everything off Daniel is mad at me.

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    wait a sec....

    How well did you know the other girls? where did the other guy come from? Who is Daniel? Who is James? Did you report it?

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    Oh my god Icey!!! I am so sorry!! And yeah I have the same questions as Emily. Also...Where was security!?! Fuck those girls and fuck those guys!! Did you go to the hospital and get checked out? Talk to management?! We're here for you to talk about this!! Use us as much as you need to. I am so sorry this happened to you. You are NOT stupid and this was in NO WAY your fault. You cannot let their inhumane behavior let you feel as if you are at fault, you're not. Have you told anyone irl about it?
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    So those girls would have just let him rape you??Lovely.And i second where the hell was security..and why didnt you walk out of there screaming your head off for those guys to be beaten and thrown out and the girls fired?? Thats BS.

    Is this NORMAL for your club?? Is that why you didnt want to go to the CR? If so...get the fuck out and find a new club NOW.

    And if whoever Daniel is ...fuck him for being pissed at YOU.

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    I did not know the other girls well, I just thought I would be nice and help them out. Daniel is my boyfriend we are getting married in Oct. James is an ex that lives right down the street from the club.

    I yell out and screamed "no" the security never came. I was told once that anything goes in the CR room, that is why I have never gone in before. I know its not my fault so much, but yet I went into there when my head said no.

    And Daniel is like this was a good lession for you not to drink at work. But my club if someone wants to get you a drink you are not allowed to turn in down. I just feel really down and when I got home I started cutting myself, I have not done that in almost a year. I did not go to the hospital or report it. I already reported one rape this year and they did nothing about it, I am not going to go through that again.

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    Um... were you raped or was it a rape attempt and you got away? Either way, why on earth would you even consider marrying someone who gets angry with you in this situation? A real man, a man worth marrying, would support his woman and direct his anger at the rapists, not at the victim.

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    This isn't about drinking at work! And wtf is wrong with your boyfriend? Seriously...blaming you for this?

    Did you tell anyone at your club about it? The fact that "anything goes" and there is shitty security....and other women that actually help it happen and sit and watch. That's who to blame.

    This is a lot of people's fault, but not yours.

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    Yes he raped me, but I did get him off me, and his friend just got himself inside of me but I was able to fight him off. I really liked the club and have had no problems then that, I just am never ever ever going back into the CR room, and I am moving anyways so I was going to look for a different club. I don't know what to do anymore.

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    This really doesn't make sense. Not doing anything is suggesting you find this behavior acceptable? The club's reaction. Your co-workers reaction. Your boyfriend's reaction.

    How can you work in an environment where you are not safe and people are conspiring to hurt you?

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    Um... your coworkers watched you being raped and did nothing and you're just "not going going back to the CR"? And your boyfriend is angry with YOU for being raped and you still say you're going to marry him?

    If this is true, then that's fucked up on so many levels.

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    I am just so confused right now, its taking everything for me to not hurt myself right now. I don't know what I am going to go about Daniel or the club right now. I just really needed to talk to someone that would not think I was a slut or something. I am lossing it right now. sorry

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    do you have friends or family nearby?

    Your boyfriend is worthless.

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    Quote Originally Posted by icey View Post
    I yell out and screamed "no" the security never came. I was told once that anything goes in the CR room, that is why I have never gone in before. I know its not my fault so much, but yet I went into there when my head said no.
    WHAT THE FUCK?! "anything goes?!?!?!?!?" that is your first sign that you need to not work there ever again!!! I am livid at the security in your club. WTF do the bouncers think they're being tipped out for?! you tell them I am tipping you for keeping me safe. If some girls want you to look the other way fine, I am tipping you to look at me and make sure my safety comes first.

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    And Daniel is like this was a good lession for you not to drink at work. But my club if someone wants to get you a drink you are not allowed to turn in down. I just feel really down and when I got home I started cutting myself, I have not done that in almost a year. I did not go to the hospital or report it. I already reported one rape this year and they did nothing about it, I am not going to go through that again.
    Fuck Daniel. Fuck any man, any person!! who blames someone else abusing you on drinking. Fuck him. And what the fuck kind of bullshit rule is that, that you have to drink what someone buys you. That cannot be legal! I just cannot believe that can be legal. That's sign number two that this is the last time you should ever step foot in that club. If anything go in and clear your locker out if you have one and you leave shit in there. I cannot believe the complacency and general disrespect for dancers that seems to go on in your club. This is not ok. I cant even think straight I am so upset about this. You do not deserve this. None of it. And even if you were thinking this is a bad idea but did it anyway there is no excuse for the behavior of anyone in that club, not the girls, not the men in the CR, not the security, not the managers for allowing this sort of behavior, not the customers who may have heard you screaming. You are not at fault and you could not have seen this coming. You are not to be blamed for this!! I am so fucking pissed off right now, I cannot imagine how you feel. I am truly sorry you had to go through this ordeal. I would however suggest getting a rape kit done and talking to a counselor. This kind of thing can cause post traumatic stress disorder/syndrome. Please don't just try and forget it, you have to talk about it to someone, talk about it over and over. I am so angry right now. I'm sorry hun, I really truly am.
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    Sometimes local women's centres have rape and crisis counselling. They can listen to you and give you support and advice on this situation. It's hard to do this alone, so if there is one around I would locate it and let them help you.

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    Um...honey if you were raped you need to do something. And this is the second time this year??? Technically the third if both guys raped you. How likely is it that one person gets raped three times by three differant guys in one year??
    And I understnad if your guy is pissed that you went somewhere knowing it was dangerous...but he should still be supportive of YOU. If he isnt....get rid of him.

    Where did you report the other...to the cops? Why was nothing done? There has to be more to all this because it doesnt sound right. No offense...

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    Fuck!
    I hardly think Icey needs to be hasstled about if shes going to get married or not right now, shes just been raped. Yes the boyfriend is being highly unreasonable, hopefully he'll come around and she can work the rest out later.

    Icey is there a rape crisis line you can call maybe? I do think you should report this even though it may be hard for you. Those two girls are totally FUCKED for watching and doing nothing. Is there even the possibility that they helped set that up?
    Hugs!

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    I do have a T that I see once a month for post traumatic stress disorder/syndrome and an eating disorder. I see her next week so I will talk to her about this. I have one friend that I can talk too about this and I have already e-mailed her. My family..........I will never tell they turned there backs on me when I was a kid when I was being SA and raped. I don't trust or like them, and I will never bring up a problem with them so long a I live. As for Daniel I am going to have a talk with him and if he wants to get mad at me for this, then we are over. I need him to understand and be there for me, but at this point I would be better without him in my life.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cameron_keys View Post
    And I understnad if your guy is pissed that you went somewhere knowing it was dangerous...but he should still be supportive of YOU. If he isnt....get rid of him.

    Where did you report the other...to the cops? Why was nothing done? There has to be more to all this because it doesnt sound right. No offense...
    I agree. I think the whole marriage thing should be looked at a little more. What did Daniel do when you were raped the first time? Did he act the same way he is now? And yes, I was wondering where it was reported as well.
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    I just got hollered at by a CUTE guy, at dusk, in my car, in gym attire and hair. Word?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Roulette View Post
    And what the fuck kind of bullshit rule is that, that you have to drink what someone buys you. That cannot be legal! I just cannot believe that can be legal. .
    Thats how it is in many clubs here. You arent allowed to refuse a drink. You can order soda, red bull, water...but if a guy buys you a drink you have to accept it. And a lot of guys will bitch about you ordering non-alcoholic. Some clubs have codes for non-alcoholic drinks, but not all and many bartenders and waitresses are too stupid to do it. I worked in one club where the code was PC(because it sounds like please in a noisy club)...I ordered a vodka cranberry PC(AKA cranberry juice and water)..the bartended raised such a fuss "PC??I dont know what vodka that is..whats PC" REALLY loud. So you cant count on it.I've poured a lot of drinks onto the carpet over the years because of this rule.....

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    ^ disregard some of the above, I hadn't seen your response.
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    I just got hollered at by a CUTE guy, at dusk, in my car, in gym attire and hair. Word?
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    Quote Originally Posted by cameron_keys View Post
    Thats how it is in many clubs here. You arent allowed to refuse a drink. You can order soda, red bull, water...but if a guy buys you a drink you have to accept it. And a lot of guys will bitch about you ordering non-alcoholic. Some clubs have codes for non-alcoholic drinks, but not all and many bartenders and waitresses are too stupid to do it. I worked in one club where the code was PC(because it sounds like please in a noisy club)...I ordered a vodka cranberry PC(AKA cranberry juice and water)..the bartended raised such a fuss "PC??I dont know what vodka that is..whats PC" REALLY loud. So you cant count on it.I've poured a lot of drinks onto the carpet over the years because of this rule.....
    Good lord, is that legal that they make you buy an alcoholic drink? I mean can you talk to the bartender before the shift and tell them - no alcohol tonight? I am blown by this. I have to go to class now but goodness I am upset!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by aussiepunkshocker View Post
    Fuck!
    I hardly think Icey needs to be hasstled about if shes going to get married or not right now, shes just been raped. Yes the boyfriend is being highly unreasonable, hopefully he'll come around and she can work the rest out later.
    Hugs!
    Thank you so much.

    3 times in one year is a lot. But as a kid and into my early 20s I was rape so much that it was normal after awhile. I am just now starting to say it was not my fault and fight back and not just lie there and take it. I know its hard for some to understand but being rape for so many years when I was a little kid, you think the right thing to do is just lay there don't say anything and get it over it and get them to go away.

    I am very proud of myself I have fought off two guy that tried to rape me before and made them stop. Sometimes I think guy just know that I will not doing anything because I freeze up and go into my own little world when this happens. I am trying not to let that happen anymore.

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    I just googled and found this. It came up under rape crisis centre Arizona but of course im in Australia so I dont know for sure what this is. Theres a hotline number if you want to try calling. I assume they'll be a counciler on the other end.





    ARIZONA


    CENTER AGAINST SEXUAL ABUSE (C.A.S.A)

    5227 North 7th Street

    Suite 100

    Phoenix, AZ 85014

    602/254-6400

    602/941-9010 (Hotline Number)

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    Most of the time I will order red bull, but these guys bought shots for everyone and I had to drink them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by aussiepunkshocker View Post
    I just googled and found this. It came up under rape crisis centre Arizona but of course im in Australia so I dont know for sure what this is. Theres a hotline number if you want to try calling. I assume they'll be a counciler on the other end.


    http://www.geocities.com/Wellesley/9691/r5.html


    ARIZONA


    CENTER AGAINST SEXUAL ABUSE (C.A.S.A)

    5227 North 7th Street

    Suite 100

    Phoenix, AZ 85014

    602/254-6400

    602/941-9010 (Hotline Number)
    thank you

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