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    I get along with everyone at my club (I know this isnt the norm).

    There was one dancer in particular who i just find to be a perfect 10 - absolutely stunning but she never made much mmoney coz she didntlike talking to customers.

    Anyway I hated being on stage with her even though i really liked her as a person coz I just found her so dam hot even i would be starring at her instead of working my own shit. i could be standing right in front of a custie with my g-string clad arse right in front of him and he would be trying to look past me to see this perfect looking woman hahhahaha!

    I know a lot of girls felt this way.

    Does this happen to any of you?

    DOes it wreck your hustle or your game?

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    i totally suffer from that.

    i'm friends with/get along with all the girls at work, so it's not like i'm intimidated in a scared way. but the absolute number one reason that i make hardly any money and don't approach customers, is because i am intimidated by their weight/looks/boobs/etc.

    "why would he want a dance from ME when he can have one from someone who is so much prettier/thinner/has bigger boobs? someone better."

    ^ that there is the exact reason i don't make money, because no matter what i do i simply cannot get past that mindset that everyone is more attractive than i am.

    so yeah, it absolutely wrecks my hustle. in fact, it kills my hustle. my hustle doesn't even exist. hah.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Darcy Foxx View Post

    "why would he want a dance from ME when he can have one from someone who is so much prettier/thinner/has bigger boobs? someone better."
    oh this goes through my mind as well!!!!!!!!
    it totally kills my hustle too. its impossible to sell dances when u think there money would be better spent on another dancer.

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    No, not really. One girl a long time ago, but she is gone now. haha.

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    She was German, tall, had giant tits, a gorgeous ass and didn't even need to talk to people. I literally had people TELL me, "Why should I get a dance with you? She has bigger tits!!"

    ... hehhheh..I can't wait to go back with my new pair.


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    ^
    wow what a mean comment!

    anyways it happens 2 me som,etimes. one moment, ill feel like the hottest girl theere..htne some BEAUTIFUL chick will walk in, and ill feel like so insignficant.

    but i dont know, this sometimes happens 2 me, n my confidence will blow away....but i just try to think "hey, everyone is beautfiul in their own way" so then i jus focous on what makes me specail and beautiful to get my confidene back.

    hell, some other girls mite look at ME and think the same thing, you know?

    just try not to think about it, jus focous on yerself and what makes u beautiful.
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    Default Re: do other dancers intimidate u (looks wise)

    I did when I first started but not anymore. I know what you mean though, there are a couple girls that I've asked to not be on stage with because when you're on stage with them, forget about getting tipped, they get all the attention. I hate that! But please don't think that way, each guy has a different taste in women and just because you might not be this guy's type, you'll be another guy's type. Just keep telling yourself over and over that you're beautiful and every guy wants you!

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    That is so bullshit! Remember just because you think someone is hot doesnt mean everyone else feels the same, they dont! I cant even work out who you might be talking about.
    If you feel like youre not as good as someone else on stage it probably shows thats all. Youre hot and you do awsome pole, you should be worried!!!



    Quote Originally Posted by jaizaine View Post
    oh this goes through my mind as well!!!!!!!!
    it totally kills my hustle too. its impossible to sell dances when u think there money would be better spent on another dancer.

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    Default Re: do other dancers intimidate u (looks wise)

    Other women intimidate me in general. I really enjoy female company, but I'm very insecure about my own appearance and can't help comparing myself unfavourably. This doesn't affect my female friendships, but it certainly makes me feel like shit about myself.

    This issue is certainly there for me when I'm dancing- it's always there for me. For some reason, though, if I'm working I can put it to one side to some extent. Perhaps I feel prettier in the club, since I'm being complimented and whatnot. However, I did ask a friend who came into Kittens when I was working there whether or not I was as thin as most of the other girls. I literally can not see for myself.

    After seeing your photos, jaizaine, I must say I'd likely feel intimidated by your looks.

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    I am glad for this thread becuse I felt like I was all alone in this. I do this constently and yes it hurts my money becuse I will be talking with a custy and a girl i see as better then me goes on stage I will stop talking and withdraw becuse I am thinking there is no way he will want a dance with me when he can have her. We have to rember that these girls are in the club when we are makeing money and it dose change the fact the we are makeing our money to try not to focus on it but i know that easier said then done. To the OP thank you for posting this I am glad we are talking about this issue.

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    Actually no! I think I have a great body, with a nice ass face to match.







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    The whole "Why would he spend money on me when that other girl is prettier / has bigger boobs / is a 10 etc" is all in the mind. If thats the attitude you put out, thats the result your likely to get. Just because a customer looks or shows interest in someone else doesnt mean that they dont think youre also fabulous!

    Look how many threads there are here about girls who are "too beautiful" to make money because customers feel intimidated by them. Look how many threads there are about less pretty or even ugly girls banking bigtime.

    We all have something different to offer, sometimes being who we are works for us and sometimes it doesnt, but at least try. Everyone, dont let it get to you! (-:

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    I love the fact that you know it too Cinammon!

    Quote Originally Posted by cinammonkisses View Post
    Actually no! I think I have a great body, with a nice ass face to match.

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    I have a related problem- I wish I was shorter! Whenever I'm around shorter women, which is most of the time, I feel like a giant oaf around them. A giant, less feminine, less girly, more boyish awkward oaf

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    I have my good and bad nights. I'm not immune yet overall I realise it is my 'girl next door' and 'average' looks that sell me... that my personality sells me over my looks and/or enhances my looks... I'm natural thru and thru and this is what makes me stand out and be unique and what works for me.

    It is ALL in your mind.

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    Like I said, I'm not perfect. I'm not immune. I have my nights where I am intimidated by other girls by their hustle (selling skills) not really by their looks/appearance. lol. as I realise it is their hustling skills that i am intimidated by ultimately. whilst i have alot of respect for those hard working hustlers.


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    ^^^ Oh gosh, me too with the husstling and hardworking thing! I am the shittyest hussler and I procastinate!

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    I deffinatly get intimidated by super thin hot chicks (im pretty curvy) However I remind myself that beautiful is different to everyone and I tell myself that all the guys here tonight are looking for a hot curly hair chick with smoking hot curves and they are just waiting for me to ask them for a dance finally!! It helps get me moving...

    (Im totally guilty of not approaching guys i only see getting dances from super skinny girls or all african american ladies, i psych myself out and tell myself i dont have a chance. BAD BAD BAD Im gonna work on approaching EVERYONE tonight)



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    I kindof get it. I feel like I need to be in amazing shape and look immaculate to compete, but in reality, I think I'mcomnsidered one of the hottest girls in the club, and I know I'm up there $$-wise.... But I judge myself so harshly.

    and sometimes, when a guy says no to a dance with me and 2 minutes later is getting one from someone (in my eyes) not as good as me.... I get down. But I remind myself that she's a lap sitter/he may know her/she's dirty/she's his type. I don'tcare if it's bitchy, that's how I cope.

    And I remindmyself that I just lost a fish in order to catch that whale!

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    Sometimes I'll get into moods where I feel fat, ugly, and generally unattractive. When I feel like this, I like to think of the girls at my work who ARE fat, ugly, and unattractive but still sell circles around the prettier girls. It kind of puts things in perspective, that even if I don't look like the perfect stripper, I can still be successful. There's always going to be somebody prettier, but there may not always be somebody with better sales skills in your club ; )

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    Quote Originally Posted by girlinterupted View Post
    When I feel like this, I like to think of the girls at my work who ARE fat, ugly, and unattractive but still sell circles around the prettier girls.
    Hey, T., leave me out of this!

    The first night I worked at P10, I was completely intimidated -- it's a big club with many, many hot dancers and I was coming from a smaller club where I was more or less at the top of the food chain. There was one girl in particular -- a tall, slender, gorgeous Venezualan girl who looks like (and is) a model -- who made my heart sink. How was I ever supposed to sell a dance with her walking around. And yet, not too long after that I was sitting next to her at the bar on a slow night and a customer walked up at asked me for a dance. Maybe he was intimidated because she looks so perfect. Maybe he likes girl-next-door redheads. Who knows, but it was a learning experience.

    I definitely still do compare myself to other dancers, especially girls who are thinner than me or have larger breasts. At the same time, I know who the big earners are, and they usually aren't the girls who look (to me) the hottest. I'm more intimidated by really good hustlers. I'm a fair hustler myself, but some girls just seem to have crazy charisma that never fails. I'd rather have that than big boobs, any day.

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    I don't really get intimidated by many girls, but I hate, HATE, following a girl that is better than me on stage or puts on a really attention getting show. I also hate following someone with a similar look.

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    At my current club, Delilah's yes they do! But really all it makes me want to do is compete harder and work out and stuff.

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    I let this issue get the better of me and made a choice to swich clubs that I am still kicking myself in the ass for. I swiched from pt's where i was doing fine and makeing money to a shithole where I am the top of the food chain but I am realy selling myself short. Oh you bet your ass i will suck it up and go back to pt's after derby i will till after then becuse I don't want it to look like I am just tryimg to get in there for the big money days.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cinammonkisses View Post
    Actually no! I think I have a great body, with a nice ass face to match.
    You'd intimidate me, Cin! You're such a hottie! (like i need to tell you)

    I get intimidated sometimes, but I know that I have intimidated other dancers; when I go to a new spot and they get snobby with me until they realise that i'm not a bitch or pushover.

    But when the hot girl in the club enters the room and I'm with a custy, I turn him around so he wont see her. That chick bulldozes the room! I love her to death because she's sooo nice, but I admit that I freak out when she gets too close to me and my custy.

    hmph, damned big titty chicks, lol.

    I need 10,000 bucks for a boob job so everyone can be intimidated by ME!

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    for me, it happens alot. I have really short hair - its not even enough to fling around and look all sexy with. I am trying to grow my hair out, but it looks all stringy when it gets too long, so I keep it short. But I dont seem to make as much cash as the other girls...
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