That is so terrible. I am so very sorry that you had to go through something so horrific as this. You and Robert and all the victims will be in my thoughts and prayers. Glad you are safe.


That is so terrible. I am so very sorry that you had to go through something so horrific as this. You and Robert and all the victims will be in my thoughts and prayers. Glad you are safe.





Damn !!! I've been in clubs where shootings have occurred, but I've never had a gun put to my head !!! Agreed with the suggestion made by others that some professional counseling is probably an extremely good idea, as well as an 'extended vacation'.
I am so sorry sweetie *hugs* Find a therapist to talk to, and I'm really glad you're ok.
I believe you Dottie and you have my support





My best friend was shot & killed a little over a year ago, and the assistant manager was shot 5 times, all because these two guys got thrown out.
I was supposed to be with them, so it could have been me as well. Then I had to deal with seeing the murderers' gang friends come in my club and the club next door the next couple nights. It was very intense, to say the least, it was difficult to control myself.
I know what happened had a big effect on me, I'll never be the same, so I can imagine how you feel. We are all here for you.
You must have chaos within you to give birth to a dancing star.
Friedrich Nietzsche
Free your mind, and your ass will follow.
George Clinton
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OMG, that sounds absolutely terrifying! I am so sorry you had to experience that. Maybe you should think about talking to a therapist for a little while just to help you make sense of everything that happened and move on from the experience. I had an extremely vivid dream one time about a similar situation and I could not get my head around it for days. I can just imagine if it had actually happened like in your situation.
You are in my prayers, girl.



My heart goes out to you,im basically in tears because something simallar happened to me.One friday night right before christmas two years ago a guy came in and robbed the bar.I was on stage(there was only one stage) and got off stage and went and hid behind the table dance couch.After he got the money from the bartender he started yelling "wheres that stripper whore where is she?" I stayed hidden and was praying for my life and the lives of the others.He ended up grabbing a girl customer(she had been coming there almost two years with her lesbian girlfriend they were really cool)he took her with him and his car was found three days later with her dead body.I felt so many crazy things for months fear,confushion,guilt,heartache,sorrow even right now im crying for her.
With time you will feel a little better it sucks that you cant speed up time but like the other girls said talking with a counciler friends and family will ease your pain a bit
Im so sorry this happen to you im glad your okay and take care of yourself



My god! that' is so horrible! I'm so sorry you had to go thru something like that. Maybe you should just stay away from dancing for a while till you get thru this. I really hope they catch those guys.





Holy shit. I'm so sorry you were there. That's incredibly terrifying. I don't have any important advice or anything......my situation wasn't nearly as scary as yours, but the second night ever working at a strip club, I was waitressing, and a huge fight broke out at the table I was taking drinks too - it knocked my tray back and covered me with 8 beers and they trhew me backwards where I landed on the stage and all the girls proceeded were made to hide in the champagne room - it resulted in three stabbings and a shooting. I was terrified! So I can only imagine how you are feeling because yours is even worse.





know it's a horrific experience but I must say one thing - those bouncers earn their money!
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Think like a man
Act like a lady
Work like a dog
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OMG, that is so scary. I am so sorry that this has happened to you, and I agree with everybody about getting some therapy.
Hope things get better for you honey.
That's just terrible I'm so sorry. That club is only 2 hours from were I live. I'm glad your ok but I feel so bad about the people hurt and killed. It bad enough to rob somebody but then to shot and kill makes no sense to me. I hope they catch the guys soon.
How truly terrified you must have been! You are definitely suffering from post- traumatic stress--a good counsellor will have techniques to help you get beyond the constant startle reflex. My best wishes to you and I'm glad you are safe.
omg you poor thing!I'm glad you are okay but I feel bad for the innocent, especially their friends and families.
Are they releasing the names of the two scumbags that did this? I want to know who they are and if they have been apprehended.


as everyone has said already, i'm so sorry, and i do hope that you get counseling. my heart goes out to you and everyone in your club, as well as the family of your customer.
Oh, God, Destiny that is so horrible. You will be in my prayers, if that helps any.




Wow, i am so sorry...
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My prayers are with you and the victims family. This is one reason why I stopped going to nightclubs with my friends. I didn't experience anything that traumatic but I knew someone who got shot outside of a nightclub. One traumatic experience was when my brother died in a car crash. I started seeing a counselor again because I was not myself after that. I'm doing better but there are still days when I'm not right. When I get upset I write poetry and listen to music. I try to stay busy and think positive thoughts. We all go through struggles in this life but there's always a light at the end of a tunnel. GOD BLESS!
Wow, my heart goes out to you. I'm so so sorry this happened to you and the staff. I hope they recover well. How sad.
Thank you again for all the response. I spoke with my husband yesterday and he told me that if I feel I need some counseling then to go get it. I think I will. Im going to the funeral of the man that died. Im hoping that will help me put an end to all of this. I still have to go to the club tonight to pick up all of my stuff. They're accually opening up tonight. Im taking this week off and Im going to go to a different club. I just cant dance anymore I was cocktailing the other night covering a shift for a girl. I dont think I could sit and talk to men knowing this is on my mind. So my old club called and told me to come in tonight to talk to them about a job cocktailing or bartending. So thats where I will be. I know I have to just get back to my life and eventually this will fade. I think... I dont know Im just so confused right now.
But thanks again everyone this means so much to me.
Destiny





wow, destiny, that's absolutely awful. i hope you take the time and go to a therapist to talk this over like some other ladies here said. it would help immensely. and what you are describing (in your OP) sounds just like PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder), so i thnk getting past that will be the best way to help you move on. good luck, and i think going to the funeral will be good for you to get some closure on his death.
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my god...im so sorry destiny![]()
Destiny, I have been thinking and thinking about what happened to you, and I think in addition to getting trauma counseling, you should get a lawyer. There are two reasons you should get a lawyer.
First, your club's insurance company will want to settle with you, and you do not want them to take advantage of you. You want to get enough out of them to pay for all the counseling you will ever want, plus the mental anguish you have been through.
Second, someone may think that there is a "True Crimes Story" or a movie to be made out of this. It was strippers, violence, etc., and that will sell movies and crime magazines. You will want to protect yourself from this, or, if you decide you want to sell your story, you will want to make sure you get the most you can from it. Don't talk to reporters until you've talked to a lawyer.
I hope you are doing a little better today. You're still in my prayers.
I'm so sorry you had to go through thatI used to work at that club back when it was excalibur and for a little while after paper moon bought it. I actually thought about riding by there last week to see if it had changed any since I worked there, but then I heard about the shooting on Monday.
You definately should get counseling. I know a psychologist that specializes in post traumatic stress disorder, and from my own personal experience (similar to yours) she is very good at what she does. I think she's the only one in the area that does the EMDR technique. And she is in W-S too. Here's a link about it: http://www.emdr.com/
PM me if you need to talk.
I'm so sorry to hear that this happened to you![]()
I hope Frasier properly takes care of you and the injured bouncers, any decent owner/person would, but we'll see...
Wow, honey, I'm so sorry! I hope you seek help!
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