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    So, I come home from the police station about trying to deal with ONE psycho male to find my stalker outside my apartment. He sees me and tries to talk/follow me. Luckily, I was on the phone and read his plate number to my friend (while trying to turn around and in the midst of being VERY FREAKED OUT). So, he thought I was parking and parked his car... and I drove off, calling 911. It's a long story, but they have all his info. I called the apartment manager to tell her what was going on. After my descriptions, she knew exactly who it was and said he was here all the time. He asked her about renting a place whenever he saw her outside but only wanted one in the front of the complex (aka, my area). He had filled out an application but she said he was so creepy, she wasn't going to rent to him and he only wanted month-to-month. So, from her I got his number and name and called the police back.

    The thing is, when this guy first waved me down (while I was out jogging a few months ago), I was nice to him. So, I feel like this is sort of my fault. Like, I could have done something to prevent this and he's just under the impression that I want him (since I haven't had the opportunity to tell him to f-off. One time I just shut the door in his face becasue I was so freaked to see him there and the other times, I drove off.) Am I just completely crazy?!
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    Bella21 honey, you are too pretty to be so nice about these guys. My best pal gets the same kind of attention & she has altered her lifestyle to avoid problems.

    Get a concealed weapon & some self-defense training, OR a large male room mate you can trust.

    Women cannot tolerate these kinds of guys- your kindness is encouragement to them. Their heads are all backwards. Not your fault, but you shouldn't take chances.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bella21 View Post
    The thing is, when this guy first waved me down (while I was out jogging a few months ago), I was nice to him. So, I feel like this is sort of my fault.
    you're absolutely not responsible for the (impaired) mental state of another human being.

    i'm sorry you have to deal with crap like this.

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    You are not psycho. You did the right thing by calling the police and telling them everything. It's not your fault that this guy has decided to go freak-stalker on you. Try to walk with a buddy and please stay safe.
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    No..he's crazy. Next time you get a chance tell him you are NOT interested in any way shape or form..that he is freaking you out by stalking you and that you have already given all his info to the cops. tell him if he does not leave you alone you will have him arrested on stalking charges.

    Can the cops have a chat with him so you dont have to?

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    I felt that way about some guy in a class of mine I gave a ride home to a few semesters ago. He got so weird that at one point I started having a police officerfrom the school walk me to my car. That creep stole my e-mail address from my teachers list, started writing ( at least I think it was him) un-return addressed crazy ass letters like "I killed a man in his sleep once, and my conscience rests easy," and how he walks around "strapped to the nines," I also found out he was spreading weird rumors about me to otehr classmates and telling them not to be friends with me. Later some girl said she overheard him telling the teacher about his 9 years in prison, and how he was late because he had to check in with the attorny general or someone like that.

    Sorry, not trying to thread jack. Point being, I felt guilty too after making it known to the teacher, school police, and eventually calling him out in front of our entire class after i found out he was telling people I was a prostitute and a crack addict.
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    ^Yea, I figured I wasn't the only one who had guilty feelings from this stuff. I thought that maybe it was a societal thing (or, maybe not.)

    Kali, I don't go jogging anymore (besides that I've seen him driving up and down that street before, I don't want to have this happen again).
    Cameron, I hope so. The lady said an officer would call me... I don't know what's taking so long!

    Thank you everyone for your responses! I guess I needed to hear it or something...
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    What a creep! I can't believe he went as far as to try and get an apartment by yours-that's just scary. Thank god the police have his information and will (hopefully) do something about it. Stay safe!

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    Deep down, these guys are cowards. TRULY. Once you show that there will be consequences for their stalking (like incarceration or worse) they usually bug off.

    Case in point- my neighbor (nicknamed "Creepy Lecher") has been bugging me for months...Not anything too outlandish but enough to make me annoyed.
    Now he knows I live with a large male with many guns (a hunter) & Creepy Lecher has cooled his shit out. A couple days ago I saw him coming out of his house...when he saw me he went back inside. He understands now there will be consquences if he keeps trying to bother me.

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