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    I've posted about this once before, awhile ago...about the girl at my club who is my un-intentional twin. I.e. we look alike physically, are both eastern european, have the same makeup look...and literally have ALL the same outfits.

    The last time I posted about this, it was basically just "we have the same exact 8 or so outfits and it's really obvious in our smallish club; this is kind of awkward and weird, but not a big deal IMHO." I don't care if someone else runs around the club in an outfit that matches mine; stripper costumes are a dime a dozen. It is weird for someone else to have an entire work wardrobe that matches mine, especially since half of my costumes were custom-made, but whatever. I really don't think she's imitating me, because she was wearing "our" outfits at my current club long before I got here. (Hell, even if someone wants to imitate me and buy the same outfits as me...I don't care! They can buy matching outfits and rock them all they want; I'm still the one and only uniquely charming Picaresque ) And I'm not mooching her style either--I also got most of these outfits long before I came to this club.

    Anyway...I'd started grudgingly wearing the same two outfits every shift because I didn't want to cause drama over it. But a few months ago, this girl left to work in another state, and I happily pulled out all my lovely wasted outfits and started rocking them again. Unfortunately she's back now, and working pretty much every night...and last night kept making snide comments because I was wearing one of the outfits that she has. Halfway through last night, she came up to me in the DR and started making small talk, and then said "Bitch you'd better stop copying me."

    I sense a fight brewing, especially if I don't go back to wearing the same two dingy outfits that I have that don't match hers. Personally I think it's a stupid thing to fight about. Apparently she disagrees.

    Advice, please? How would you handle this situation, preferably with the least amount of drama possible? And without being a doormat--I'm not going to go out and blow money on new outfits when the ones I have flatter me perfectly and are awesome, and I'm not going to keep wearing the same two outfits night after night just to avoid her glaring at me all night and making snide comments. Why should I have to do either of those things? Unfortunately "just avoid/ignore her" isn't really a feasible option, as our club is quite small!

    arghghghgh... drama llamas suck.
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    Default Re: problem with a co-worker (another "what would you do?" thread)

    Ok, I only have 2 ideas here:

    1) Explain to her that if she sees you in a particular outfit, then SHE should not go and change into anything similar. And vice versa. That will cut down on confusion.

    2) Go on ebay and get some "housemom" or custom typed outfits so that way NO ONE will ever wear the same thing as you.







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    It sounds to me like she's jealous.

    I never have to get a girl to change her outfit if we happen to be wearing the same color or even a similar style. Coincidentally, the girls end up changing on their own. It never bothers me one way or another.

    I wouldn't let her bug the hell out of you and I sure as hell wouldn't let her intimidate you into changing. Tell mgmt if she gets out of hand. You shouldn't have to put up with her cattiness. Don't be nice and stay out of the clothes you have alike just because she has them. You should be allowed to wear whatever you want.

    There are only so many colors and styles to choose from. How do you think Hooters Girls feel? Everybody looks different, even in the same outfit. If she was so confident in hers she wouldn't be catty about yours.

    Nip this problem in the bud ASAP and don't let her run over you...

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    Default Re: problem with a co-worker (another "what would you do?" thread)

    I know exactly who you're talking about. My suggestion, keep rocking your outfits, and dont let her intimidate you at all. Hell, dont give her any reaction. If she keeps saying stuff, or starts yelling, just pretend you dont even hear her. If she escalates it, and touches you, either tell management that she assaulted you, or call the cops. Honestly, I dont see it going beyond having her maybe yell at you.

    Besides, you've had other girls talk way worse shit about you, so just ignore it. You handled the other stuff fine, so this shouldnt be any different.

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    Quote Originally Posted by nicole84 View Post
    Hell, dont give her any reaction.
    That's probably the best advice. I actually did break down and blow some $ on a black 2-piece and fishnet gloves last week, figuring I might as well have one more "safe" outfit...until she came in on Sunday wearing...you guessed it, the same black 2-piece, with fishnet gloves that she'd borrowed from Isis! I wonder about that one, actually.

    Besides, you've had other girls talk way worse shit about you, so just ignore it. You handled the other stuff fine, so this shouldnt be any different.
    true. Drama just irritates the shit out of me, though. I just want to show up and focus on making money, not dealing with all the other crap. Oh well, such is life I guess.

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    Default Re: problem with a co-worker (another "what would you do?" thread)

    So you are saying that she gets pissed at you for just wearing your outfits, even though you may not necessarily both be wearing them at the same time?
    Ridiculous!

    At my club there are at least 3 girls, myself included, who have this set:
    but whoever puts in on first wins, basically. No that's not an agreement, it just seems to happen. And sometimes when it happens at the same time, everyone changes and no one ends up wearing it, ha!

    Hmm i think the mannequin is wearing the skirt backwards, btw...

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    Default Re: problem with a co-worker (another "what would you do?" thread)

    Quote Originally Posted by Picaresque View Post
    That's probably the best advice. I actually did break down and blow some $ on a black 2-piece and fishnet gloves last week, figuring I might as well have one more "safe" outfit...until she came in on Sunday wearing...you guessed it, the same black 2-piece, with fishnet gloves that she'd borrowed from Isis! I wonder about that one, actually.
    Man that sounds fishy as hell to me...I mean the sheer coincidence of you guys having the same exact wardrobe is wierd enough but now I think she is ripping your style. She is probably jealous and looking for another reason to fight with you. Just ignore the bitch and make sure you tell managment everytime she fucks with you...so they know whats going on and they will more likely be on your side if she tries to fight(instead of firing you both)
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    Default Re: problem with a co-worker (another "what would you do?" thread)

    I agree that whoever has an outfit on first "wins". If I get there at 7 and I'm wearing an outfit another girl has, then it's her choice whether or not to put it on. As long as you're not wearing them at the same time I don't know why it friggin matters. Guys won't remember, most likely.

    I guess you could tell her that mimicking is the highest form of flattery, and you just love her so much that you had to get the same outfits. Then roll your eyes.
    Last edited by carolina6; 04-25-2007 at 02:00 AM. Reason: misunderstood original post

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    Quote Originally Posted by austinatalie View Post
    So you are saying that she gets pissed at you for just wearing your outfits, even though you may not necessarily both be wearing them at the same time?
    Yes. And yes, it is ridiculous.

    I'm not worried about an actual fight starting, b/c I just will NOT feed into that sort of thing. I'll walk away. I don't do fights, whether it's physical (which I doubt would happen!) or a verbal thing...not worth it, and a waste of time and energy.

    But it is pissing me off. I mean, if I got to work and saw that someone was wearing a certain outfit that I also have...I would simply put on something else and get on with it. I could see why she'd be mad if I wore the same things as her *at the same time*...but to try and say that someone else can't even own "your" outfits or wear them at all? Ridiculous.

    And Monday night she started in on "you're stealing my music", too. Because I danced to a song that she'd "claimed". Nevermind that the DJ that brought the song in played it for me and said "I thought of you when I heard this, I knew you'd like it." Nope, apparently it's her song and no one else can use it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Emiliana View Post
    Just ignore the bitch and make sure you tell managment everytime she fucks with you...so they know whats going on and they will more likely be on your side if she tries to fight(instead of firing you both)
    I doubt management would fire her for anything; she's a top earner.
    But hey...there could be something positive in this! The situation that Nicole84 was referring to about another girl talking shit about me (i.e. telling everyone that I was grabbing guys' dicks out on the floor to get them into LDs )...when that happened, I discovered that getting a little shit from someone else can be good for me. The night that the other girl said all that shit, I went home with way more $$ than I'd expected, and my hustle was on fire all night. Because something just snapped and I thought, "success is the best revenge!"

    Same with this situation--I can let it get me down and ruin me, or I can rise above it and make it work FOR me. Competition can be great fuel, even if the other person has no idea that it's on.

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    Default Re: problem with a co-worker (another "what would you do?" thread)

    There's the attitude Sounds like this bitch has some SERIOUS jealousy issues. She must wanna be you sooo bad.
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    jealously all the way..

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