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    but they're not going to tell anyone. i live in a medium city that might as well be a small town for the way news spreads, and they confronted me about it tonight after claiming they wanted me to come over and help them move some of my grandmother's stuff around.


    why is it so easy to defend yourself to friends and people you don't know, but so hard to defend yourself from family? i guess because i know they're just worried about me, and they don't want to hear about their little girl's need for sexual empowerment and a different kind of feminism.


    i think i'm gonna get out of the biz before anyone else in my family finds out (my dad would never forgive himself).


    my new shoes are coming in the mail TOMORROW, too. i'm pretty sad about all of this.

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    Your dad would never forgive himself for what?

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    your dad wouldnt forgive "himself" , did u mean to word it that way? its nothing "he" did to you for you to go into stripping?!?!?!? im all kinds of confused....do what YOU want though

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    Why give it up? It is a means of a way to make a living. If they're gonna find out, they will, and whether you still doing it or not, you will still have to defend your choice.

    Explain it it this way(like I have to some of my family):

    "I am an adult. The choices I make are my own, and I have to live with the decisions I choose. You do not have to agree with it, but accept it. There is a difference between my family/social life and my private life. This is one of those things that I would appreciate to be kept private. This is something I am choosing to do for now while I pursue other goals, and if this aids me in achieving those goals, than so be it. Please do not judge my character on what I do."


    I hope this helps you. I don't agree in sacraficing your own happiness and livelyhood for someone else's approval. From a quote I remember reading on here that rings so true..."I would rather be hated for who I am, than be loved for who I'm not."

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    very good advice sinder! took the words outta my mouth.

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    Even though I thought my dad would have a bad reaction, I told him last week. Not such a big deal, he said that as long as I don't do anything that is morally compromising (i.e. anything more than just dance) then good for me. I also have exhibited financial independence and responsibility since I started dancing (last July). So he is happy for me. And the whole easy schedule thing makes him happy because school can always come first. (Even though I do a lot of procrastination on SW)
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    by "my dad would never forgive himself", i meant that he would feel he failed as a parent completely and absolutely.

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    This is where you need to reassure him that he did not fail you by any means. This is an adult choice that YOU made.

    Thats kinda like saying that all of our parents have failed us becasue we're strippers. So not the case.

    Your an adult, live for you and nobody else.

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    I completely agree with everything that Sinder is saying.

    You are an adult, and if you want to continue dancing (and it seems that you do, but I may be off) then by all means, do so.

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