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    Default What do you think..."needy" "insecure"?

    So I was watching this courtroom show and there was a case of this gay male couple who had differences in thier relationship.

    I didn't get the men's names so i'll make them up. The accountant(Greg) and his BF(Chris).


    Ok Chris was complaining about the lack of PDA. LOL. He felt as if him and his bf should NOT hide the fact that they are two ppl in love. "It's 2007, we're gay accept it ppl." But Greg feels that in certain places they shouldn't display affection. Like in his family reunion for example. He has an 8 year old niece and a 12 year old nephew there who don't know about his uncle's sexuality yet. Until thier mother(Greg's sister) is ready, comfortable enough to explain it to the children. That's understandable too...and IMO at any family function(no matter what your sexual preference is). I mean if they do NOT want PDA there, fine.

    But Chris has this attitude that it shouldn't matter, it should be shown EVERY WHERE.

    Now at work, everyone know's about Greg's sexuality. So his co. threw a party and didn't invite his bf Chris for whatever reason(Greg said bc he knows how Chris is). And he was also invited for a wedding and didn't invite Chris over. Chris gets offended yet again. lol.

    These two met at a gay city in California(forgot the name). In that town Greg is OK with PDA. But in other towns he said where it's more conservative and unaccepting of gays, he will NOT show PDA with Chris. Again, Chris gets a hissy fit and gets offended. lol.

    So the judge asks Greg this, "Greg, if you were straight and dated a black woman, would you not hold her hand in a town where bi-racial couples were accepted?" Greg answers, "Honestly, no." So apparently Greg cares what other ppl think.


    So what do you all think of this situation, is Greg ashamed of his sexuality and isn't proud of it like Chris is? Or is he right to hold out on PDA in certain places?

    Do you think Chris is a needy, insecure person? The judge said he was needy and insecure. LOL, Chris got offended....again.


    See, I can kind of relate to Chris. I, myself am BIG on PDA. But it's bc i'm the affection/sexual bitch that I am, I can't help it i'm a hornball. Not bc of insecurity... needy, I don't think so either.

    I sometimes don't even notice it when I do it. I remember when I first started dating my ex. he told me that in certain places(like around his family, or ppl of his culture) I had to chill out with PDA, and that in other places it was ok. Around family I understand 110%. At first, I didn't get it either and I got a little offended...but at the end I got the point and was ok with it too.

    See I can be a little kissy kissy(no tongue) and huggy huggy(no humpin'ish ish) around my family(as long as it's PG rated of course, nothing sexually crazy), that kind of PDA doesn't offend my family. It's different in the Latino culture... I guess.

    What are your thoughts ppl?
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    Default Re: What do you think..."needy" "insecure"?

    If Greg isnt up for showing PDA in public where he could be sneered at, verbally harassed, or even beat up I don't think he should be forced to be. Not everyone welcomes drama and some people really do all they can to avoid unwanted attention. Its great that Chris is not afraid to show who he is to the world, but he can only speak for himself. I think the issue is that they are just different people, and as such they need to reach a happy compromise or face the possibility that they are just not compatible as a couple.

    Dissecting day-time court drama is fun!

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    Default Re: What do you think..."needy" "insecure"?

    Quote Originally Posted by Zabrina View Post
    If Greg isnt up for showing PDA in public where he could be sneered at, verbally harassed, or even beat up I don't think he should be forced to be. Not everyone welcomes drama and some people really do all they can to avoid unwanted attention. Its great that Chris is not afraid to show who he is to the world, but he can only speak for himself. I think the issue is that they are just different people, and as such they need to reach a happy compromise or face the possibility that they are just not compatible as a couple.

    Dissecting day-time court drama is fun!
    Totally.


    The judge did ask them what were they going to do about the situation. They both said they loved each other a lot, and the judge told them to talk it out, and compromise.

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    Default Re: What do you think..."needy" "insecure"?

    I'm sorry, Greg is lame. Like, the whole family reunion thing? What's to explain to an 8 and 12 year old about their uncle being gay? "Uncle Greg is not attracted to women, so he dates men. Some people are like that. You might hear that it is not a good thing to do, but our family believes that as long as two people love each other and are happy it's OK (well, I'd hope their family believes that). "

    It's not like you'd have to say "Uncle Greg is not into pussy. He likes to fuck men in the ass instead. Not all gay men fuck in the ass. Some just give blowjobs and handjobs. Now, gay women love pussy. They eat each other out, use dildos and vibrators. Now let's sit down and watch Go Fish." You explain it the way you'd explain anyone dating. I know someone who was raised by two lesbian women so of course she knew what a lesbian was at a very early age, and she's not perverted or weird because of it.

    Now, I'm not saying they need to make out in public or grab each other's behinds. And maybe if they are in a very homophobic area they should tone it down. But if I were Chris I'd probably dump Greg. He seems uptight as all get-out.

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    Default Re: What do you think..."needy" "insecure"?

    Yeah but Greg feels as if it's his sister's(the mother of his kids) job to be the one to explain to them about homosexuality when she is ready. I see nothing wrong with that. And his family isn't against his homosexuality either, they know Chris and get along with him.

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    Default Re: What do you think..."needy" "insecure"?

    Personally, it seems to me like Greg is doing what he feels is necessary to protect himself and his partner from being targets for a [possibly violent] hate crime. So what if he cares what people think? In this instance, he "cares" because he knows that there are many ignorant people in this world who may react in a less than appropriate manner because they don't "approve" of homosexuality.

    It sucks that he has to live in fear like that.

    On a side note, Greg is gay. That's not a choice, his sister shouldn't be hiding the fact from her children. IMO, it sends a message to Greg and others that being gay is wrong...

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