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    Thumbs down May 2nd :(

    For those who are really oblivious (notice the avatar change?), please go read the latest posts in (this thread). Otherwise, for everyone else, I have made a date and paid for it.

    Wednesday May 2nd 2007

    The vet will be coming around to my place around 1pm.


    I may or may not be online much over the next week from that time. I'll be grieving and mustering up enough will power to get thru the week (work).

    I'm already having to muster up enough will power to get my ass to work tonight since I took Thursday night off for Bibs and I do need to earn money (so I can have time off to grieve).


    *sigh*


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    Default Re: May 2nd :(

    I'm so sorry, GCG. I know Bibs has been close to you for a very long time. She was lucky to have such a caring mother who fought so hard for her and stuck by till the end. I'm sure Bibs appreciates that you are willing to go through something so hard for you to see that she doesn't have to suffer any longer.

    My thoughts will be with you and Bibs on May 2nd.


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    Aww, Im sorry

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    you're doing the right thing. be strong.
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    Sorry GCG. You are doing the right thing and you know you have all of us here for you

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    GCG, you are such a loving and caring kitty-momma. I want you by my side if I'm in Hospice.


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    I'm so sorry. Be strong. We're here for you.

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    I just don't have the right words for you, GCG. All I can offer are my prayers for you and Bibs. She's lived a full life and has a momma who cares the world for her.
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    That's the reason for this message. Just to give everyone's a "heads up" that I will be a blabbering mess on this day and so if my posts are a little depressive then you will know why....................


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    just got your email poor bibs!

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    My heart aches for you right now V. Hold fast to the time that you still have together.

    And when the time comes, sing to your baby so that Bibs transitions hearing your voice.

    Bibs will always be with you. We're here for you during this time and for as long as you need to move past the grief and move on to a time where you can laugh through your tears thinking about the silly things your kitty did.

    My thoughts and strength vibes are with you as well as my sympathy and empathy.

    Hugs.

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    Paris has a point. You should consider hospice work or even the oncological-medicinal field..... You have such a sunny disposition and elegant manner, you could excell in such a field.

    Someday I'll tell you stories about my childhood pets...I always had dreams of them after they passed & the dreams put me at ease.

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    I'm with you babe, here's a big



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    Stay strong girlie. Sorry

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    Default Re: May 2nd :(

    After my familiar (magickal partner) Smokey transitioned ( here is her online memorial page ) I did seriously consider becoming a pet grief counsellor.

    I'm not so great with dealing with human deaths. I've only had my mother die on me. My nan did recently however due to not having really had any interaction with her for many many many years the grief was there just not as much as with my mother.

    Maybe I should have a look see into this again.

    I really do understand death and grief and how our animal companions transitioning can affect us.... and that it can be just the same if not more of a hurt than if a human died.

    One of my pet peeves is people who will say to me

    "Get over it! It was just a cat. Now if it was a human.. I would understand.. yet it was just a cat."

    She wasn't JUST A CAT to me.

    She has been my rock, my constant companion for the last 14 years.

    Excuse me while I yell and scream and cry.

    ps, just a friendly heads up... don't tell me to "be strong"... why the fuck should i? i don't want to be strong... i want to be human... i need to feel all the emotions that happen when one is grieving.. and being strong is not one of them... anyway...


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    Quote Originally Posted by GoldCoastGirl View Post
    ps, just a friendly heads up... don't tell me to "be strong"... why the fuck should i? i don't want to be strong... i want to be human... i need to feel all the emotions that happen when one is grieving.. and being strong is not one of them... anyway...
    Oh V, I don't think anyone was trying to hurt you by saying that...it's just that people are at such a loss of words in trying to comfort.

    "Stay strong" just means that they want to give you some type of support to have the strength to get through it, not that you can't scream, cry, be mad and grieve openly.


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    ^Yep

    No shortcuts for dealing with pain and tragedy unfortunately.

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    I know what great companions cats can be and having lost a few family friends myself, I understand the pain you must be feeling.
    Please take care...
    and if there is a kitty afterlife, may Bibs have all the treats and sunny naps she can handle.

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    I offer my love and support during this time, girl. I'm a little tear-eyed myself in thinking of my last cat, Nike. He was with me for 11 years, he watched me grow up. I miss him to this day, but even though the hurt is still there, the memories are too. I can think back to napping with him in a sunbeam, the way he'd sleep on my arm at night, his surprise run-in with the garden sprinkler, and smile through the tears. Be comforted knowing that she loved you as much as you loved her. Again, I give my best. *hug*
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    Quote Originally Posted by DylanAngel View Post
    Oh V, I don't think anyone was trying to hurt you by saying that...it's just that people are at such a loss of words in trying to comfort.

    "Stay strong" just means that they want to give you some type of support to have the strength to get through it, not that you can't scream, cry, be mad and grieve openly.

    Oh. Please forgive me. I took it the wrong way. I was thinking "be strong" meant to not deal with the emotions and to just "get on with life". I will kill anyone (as such not literally) who says to me "she was just a cat, get over it! now if it was a human death, i would understand".... argh!! I have had my mother transition.. and other people transition.. and the grief is the same.

    To me grief is grief .............whether it be connected to the loss of a relationship, loss of an animal companion, loss of a human and so forth. It isn't to be denied and it is there to be felt for a reason.

    It's totally utterly selfish (as it is all about "my loss") yet it is a healthy selfish.

    Anyway, I didn't go to work tonight because I really wanted to spend time with Bibs since I will be working Monday and Tuesday nights. So I need the money.. Bibs is a little more important to me right now as I know the money will always be around for me to earn yet she won't be...

    After today.. I realised I am making the right decision to help her transition. I don't have to like it .. yet ultimately.. it is the right decision. She is far from "living" at the moment.

    I think she knows.


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    I am so sorry about this GCG, I totally understand having a close emotional bond with an animal. She was a member of my family, not a pet, and some people don't get that. You are doing the right thing, and when she passes over the rainbow bridge, she will be at peace.


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    ^^I was just about to mention the rainbow bridge.

    You are doing the right thing..keeping her alive now would just be selfish. Take her pain away and know that she will be healthy and happy when you see her again in the afterlife.

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    You are doing the best thing. it's great the vet is coming to your house and she will be at ease with that vs going to the vet. try to spend as much time as possible with her before then. maybe take pictures?
    I am so sorry. I am in the same boat. My kitties are 15. Just isn't their time yet.

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    I'm sorry about Bibs, my thoughts are with you.






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