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    I think I just hit a new low--I got ready for work, drove all the way to the club, and then turned around and went back home. Because I felt too fat to work. Because I'd eaten dinner before I left for the club.

    It's always the same way--if my stomach is empty and I've not eaten for a few hours, I feel like the sexiest girl in the club. I know every guy in the club wants me, and I'm worth hundreds of dollars. Rude assholes don't phase me, bitchy girls and drama don't phase me, rejection only means that some poor brokeass can't afford me and/or is a fool to turn me down. And on those nights, i BANK. Money flows to me easily, and I love my job.

    But when I eat before work, even if it's a sandwich or a piece of fruit, I dread going in. It's pointless to even be there on those nights, because even though most men are kind of dense, it's obvious that I really don't have any self-confidence...the voice in my head keeps reminding me that no one wants a dance from an ugly fat chick, that I'll never make money again until I lose weight, that I'm a pig and I don't deserve to have a good night. My confidence is shot to hell and I end up huddling in the DR miserable and hating all the skinny hot girls that are banking.

    Thing is, I'm not technically overweight. I'm 5'2" or 5'3" (I don't really know which; half the time I get measured they say 5'2", the other half of the time I get 5'3") and 120 lbs. But I look BAD. My thighs are huge, my arms are huge, I'm not toned enough, and when I eat before work I just go from ethereal goddess to pasty beached whale in 2.5 seconds and my night is shot.

    I really needed the money tonight too...but with the whale mindset, I wouldn't have made anything anyway. Am I the only one that this happens to? You'd think I would have caught on by now, to just save the eating for after work. Because if I eat a nutritious breakfast in the a.m., a healthy lunch in the afternoon, and something light AFTER work, I'm good to go! No problems. (But even then, if I eat anything junky at any time...it's beached-whale time again. )

    I feel stupid, and disgusted with myself. It's like I sabotage myself. Why?? I know that I'd feel good about myself, and make more money and have a far easier time at work, if I lost 10 lbs and toned up, got back to working out regularly and ate in a way that wouldn't make me feel like an orca. But I do the complete opposite of that. FUCKFUCKFUCK.

    And the management at my club just gave about five girls warnings: they were told they had 30 days to lose weight or they'd be sacked. I didn't get a warning (thank God)...but it's made me paranoid for sure. Maybe I should act as if I'd been given the 30-day warning...maybe that would get my ass in gear.

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    I'm like that in a sense. I can't bring myself to work if I've overeaten because all I'd want to do is to crawl up in a ball and sleep it off. I can work around having a small snack as long as the result's not that visible, but I definitely can relate to that feeling of "unsexyness" you're talking about if I feel bloated or have eaten too much. Instead, I'd just stand side-on in front of the mirror and look at my tummy from all sorts of angles. Or as useless as it sounds, I'd pat it to make it go down while crying, "I'm soooooooo fat!" and would promise myself to never gorge on food before a shift again. But of course, that never happens and I fall into the same pitfall during my next shift.

    It's really stupid, I know. But why I do it to myself, I haven't a clue.


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    eat something about 6-7 hours before work. veggies or fruit only..or something light like a piece of turkey breast, or applesauce if you like it. drink alot of water and you should be good to go...

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    Default Re: can't work if I've eaten...am I the only one?

    it sounds like you have a disordered eating problem.

    This is not healthy.

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    Default Re: can't work if I've eaten...am I the only one?

    Try having a medium sized meal mid afternoon, then wait a few hrs and hit the gym before going in to work. Even if just to walk on the tradmill for a half hour or so. That way, you'll feel like you worked a bit on not letting the food just 'sit' there and yet you didn't eat a huge meal so you won't cramp up. Have a lot of water around you all day as this will keep your systems working well and make you eat less during your mid-day meal. Don't eat any heavy meat or things like that,more like lean chicken/turkey, salad, light pasta, and go easy on the cheese on anything you eat.
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    Yeah, I know what you mean. I mean.. the way you describe it sounds a little excessive as far as worrying about your image, but I can relate to feeling huge when I've just eaten a big meal. But I'd recommend what some of these other ladies are saying: eat hours before work.. something that will keep you satisfied so you're not hungry before you go in. And at work, can't you bring in an energy bar or something??

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    Wow..I cant work if I haven't eaten. I get to grumpy if I dont eat. I feel much better if I look a little fat, but have the energy and stamina to work with a full tummy.

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    ^^Yeah me too. Need something to absorb the alcohol! But I never eat til I'm completely full, just til I'm satisfied.

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    Cosign on the disordered eating post.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LatinaRose View Post
    ..Need something to absorb the alcohol...
    haha WORD.


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    Mmmm. I don't ALWAYS do this. But sometimes. I didn't go to work today because I ate right before I was gonna go in and felt like I was gonna be huge and gross all night. But then again my before work meal included fried pickles...(shut up). Haha. But I know what you mean.

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    Default Re: can't work if I've eaten...am I the only one?

    ^^Fried pickles?!?!? Never heard of that! Must be a TX thing! They sound good tho, I love pickles. Are they sweet or dill?

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    ^^ Fried pickles? The mind boggles. How do you even fry a pickle? Wouldn't it just lose all its water content and shrivel up?

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    Quote Originally Posted by PookaShell View Post
    I don't ALWAYS do this. But sometimes. I didn't go to work today because I ate right before I was gonna go in and felt like I was gonna be huge and gross all night.
    You've just summed up my entire rambling post, but with far less wordage and melodrama---I'm impressed!

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    Haha. Thanks, I try!

    Fried Pickles - they are dill pickles sliced into chips and fried to put a light, thin crispy skin on them, and delicious if dipped in a light jalapeno ranch dip.

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    No, no, fried dill pickles get a horseradish sauce!

    To the OP... I agree with the eating disorder suspicion. I can understand your tummy feeling bloated after a big meal, but to feel like that after a piece of fruit is not healthy at all. The way you describe yourself doesn't sound right, and if you really looked that bad, then you would've been given a warning like the other girls.

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    YES. I could have written the exact same post.

    I don't know if I'd say "YOU HAVE E.D."...I think there are many variations, and there is a definite line a girl crosses before silly eating habits/ self-image problems become full-on disorder.

    I think my issue too is that so often after I eat, I become incredibly ill because I have a shitty digestive system. This makes me bloat like nutso, and just crampy, sick, sick, sick. So I'm paranoid about being at work sick. I eat my breakfast/ lunch around two in the afternoon, go into work afer seven, and then eat when I get home. I am usually very hungry during my shift, but I smoke and drink some cranberry juice because I am just too goddamn paranoid to get sick, which would mean I'd have to go home.

    I did used to be like that because I was paranoid about looking fat though...still think like that sometimes. But honestly honey, if you're only eating a small, easily digestible meal, NO ONE will notice but you. I'm not kidding. Other people just don't notice this stuff. I've learned. Have some nice hot peppermint tea before your shift as well...this stuff will vastly reduce bloated tummy.

    And hey, who said only hot, skinny girls should bank? Bullshit. I work with...like, ugh. Some of the hottest girls you could imagine. Girls from Montreal, and with PERFECT bodies, like out of a magazine and not even airbrushed kind of bodies. I can't compete with that shit...but I still do really well, money wise. Looks matter only to a degree...being incredibly hot is always a help, but so is hustling. And happy, smiley faces always bank more than sad, unsure faces.

    Best of luck. I hear you...I get so similar. I really, truly think the key is to not look at other girls, and not look at yourself in the mirror even...not excessively. And listen when the guys give you compliments. They are not lying.

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    I'm right there with ya.

    Sometimes I eat before work, or order in sushi or Thai when I get to work... and I end up not being able to work because I feel so fat. If I don't eat all day, I go into work feeling sexy and confident... sometimes. Sometimes I still feel fat.

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    Molly, that sounds like IBS to me, especially the anxiety component. My friend has horrible IBS but it's made even worse by certain anxiety issues... like, she will never ride in a car if someone else is driving, not even a shuttle van at work. She's terrified of her IBS acting up and the driver not stopping for a bathroom. So she plans her whole life around the nearest bathroom and never riding in any vehicle as a passenger, and all just because her digestive system doesn't work right.

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    Default Re: can't work if I've eaten...am I the only one?

    I do the same thing, I don't think there is anything wrong although it probably isn't the healthiest thing in the world. I just eat "dinner" at about 1:00, drink lots of water the rest of the day and go into work at 7:00 and I'm feeling great!
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    I cannot work if I haven't eaten. I also eat carbs before work. I am very energetic on the pole and I would burn out half way through a shift if I didnt eat pasta or rice before work. Does it make my tummy look a little bloated? yes it does but I would rather that than feeling hungry, tired and grumpy. I tend to have low blood sugar and I cannot cope without regular meals.
    I also work 8-12 hour shifts and feel extremely nauseated if i dont also eat during the shift - abotu half way through.

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    I HAVE to eat before work. I'm afraid I'll get shitfaced drunk off 2 drinks if I don't. Plus I'm bitchy if I'm hungry.

    Pay attention to the sodium content in the food you eat. Canned soups, pickles, instant pastas, etc have a ton of sodium which makes you bloat.

    I'm about the same height & weight as you. I think my thighs are huge but guys always compliment me on my beautiful legs. It's all in your head hun. Men don't want skeletons.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PookaShell View Post
    Haha. Thanks, I try!

    Fried Pickles - they are dill pickles sliced into chips and fried to put a light, thin crispy skin on them, and delicious if dipped in a light jalapeno ranch dip.
    Mmmm, those sound delish! I dill pickles!! I wonder where the hell I would find em in AZ?? Any chain restaurants serve em that you know of??

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    Quote Originally Posted by LatinaRose View Post
    Mmmm, those sound delish! I dill pickles!! I wonder where the hell I would find em in AZ?? Any chain restaurants serve em that you know of??
    Applebees did, I'm not sure if they still do.
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    I HAVE to eat before work as well. By the time i finish with me hair and makeup I don't feel to full. If I am hungry it is really had to concentrate on work.

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