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    Quote Originally Posted by Casual Observer View Post
    for the most part, people under the age of 40 have better options available to them through free, alternative social networking communities on the internet.
    Gosh, what COULD you be talking about, CO?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Casual Observer View Post
    I thank you for the water in my nose. That was great.

    There's a reason online dating services are starting to implement more gimmicks into their business model now--because regular people are seeing that it doesn't really work. Sure, you'll hear of a great match up every now and then, but for the most part, people under the age of 40 have better options available to them through free, alternative social networking communities on the internet.
    Hehe. Glad some people got a kick out of that.

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    I met my fiance on Yahoo personals, so chalk another one up on the success story side. She's also a former dancer, y'know...

    Internet dating was a boon for me because, due to a rather traumatic childhood, I'm pretty socially awkward. I guess typing on a screen gives me enough protection to where my personality can come through easier, instead of simply staring into my plate of food during an uncomfortable first date.

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    I got roses from a match guy I never met!!! It's the guy that wants to pay me to take off a night of work. He sent me a package with all his info about what he does for a living too. I dont know what to make of it. He sounds interesting but this is a weird experience for me. I'm keeping my guard up. And no, I didn't give him my apartment. He sent the packages to my leasing office. He knows where I work. You think he's going to be a stalker? I agreed to meet for drinks with him tomorrow. He seems nice enough for a drink. I will not take cash from him to make me take off from work. We all know what strings are attached to those bills...Will keep posted.
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    Gosh, what COULD you be talking about, CO?
    Oh, you know me...I hang around the sites with all the cool chicks, like over at navellintcollectors.com.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Casual Observer View Post
    Oh, you know me...I hang around the sites with all the cool chicks, like over at navellintcollectors.com.
    Oh! I love that site - the colors, the variety. Ah, art.
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    Kiki- not a stalker. Definitely a player.

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    Ok, so I go for drinks with Mr. Big. Everyone knows him, he's like Mr Vegas. He's really nice and gentlemanlike till he starts to get sloshed and falls in "love" with me. He then insists on paying for my night off, then when I refused he insisted he was going to come into scores to see me. I continued to refuse. He was sloshed. Thank God his driver came to check up on him. He had to carry him out of the restaurant! I was sooooo embarrassed. He was gushing all over me in front of everybody. I can never go to this place again. He called and apologized this morning. I don't know what to make of it. I'm very forgiving. I'm thinking of trying it one more time. Thoughts anyone?
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    I think he is an alcoholic and he has emotional problems he's not solving. Think of it this way, he's self-medicating instead of dealing with his crap. The last thing you should do is give it another chance. He's nice but can't stay sober for a few hours for the dreamgirl he's waited to spend time with.

    Why try to build a commitment with that gorgeous? You can do better. I know it can be lonely while you're trying to connect in a new town but it's waaaay lonlier sitting with a mess of a guy. Just be his acquaintance.
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    Could you cut off social aquaintance with him entirely and just have him as a regular ITC since he's trying to act like one already? Clearly he's a loss as a date, why not have him be a decent short-term regular? Obviously, his shelf-life would be pretty short before he wanted to marry you or some crap like that. Or does he know too much about you OTC for you to be comfortable with him as a customer?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Optimist View Post
    I think he is an alcoholic and he has emotional problems he's not solving.
    Ditto that! Kiki, would you hang with a customer who was such a mess? Doubtful. Why then would accept this in your personal life?

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    Sorry your date went so poorly. Thankfully, that's only one date.

    It's a mixed bag online. Some of my friends have found love online, and others not so much.
    One girlfriend kept getting these elaborate artsy gifts(that he made!) from the first guy she met online. I was really worried he was some closet freak, but he turned out perfect, and they're married, and I'm so jealous.
    One girlfriend asked for a picture of the guy, got a fuzzy thumbnail image of Ian Ziering. And the guy had the balls to tell her that everyone says he looks like Ian Ziering!
    Another girlfriend would find someone on one dating service, tell me how she was so totally into him, then back off after three months, and go on another service, find another guy, and repeat. So sure, you've got some flakes, and some of them are us.

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    i felt like guys didn't actually READ my profile just looked at my pics and maybe read a few lines.
    I'm sure that happens a lot. The thing with online dating, you have to do the real dating to figure out if it's for real. But it's like that in a bar. Guy doesn't come up to you because he thinks you're well versed in philosophy, he comes up to you because you've got wicked tits.

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    Optimist/ Minete and Chicago editor: You all have great points.

    Opt: I have a bad habit of being attracted to men who need help. It's a huge flaw I have. I've gone into relationships where men were so needy that I lost myself in the process, especially when sometimes I needed the babysitting. I need to find a balanced relationship and someone like him needs someone just to babysit him. I'm not up for that job. I just can't handle that when sometimes I need help too. I will stay friends with him though. I just can't abandon someone completely after I know that they need help. It's personal now.
    Min: Yes, I will try to get him as a regular, but he's already seen me outside of the club and will likely request to see me more outside of the club. If I pressure him into seeing me at the club, he will eventually become frustrated and stop seeing me altogether. If anything, he will be a short term regular. I'll enjoy it while I can then.
    ChiEd: I understand what you're trying to say. When he was drunk, it really felt like I was at work. The only difference was that at work, I can easily walk away. I felt obligated to stay and hated that feeling. I should learn how to never put up with that in my personal life. I will try next time, if this situation happens with anyone again, that I will be brave and get up and leave the date, just like I'm so brave to do so at work.
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    Ah, the perils of online dating. Well, I consider myself a veteran. I tried various sites for a year--lavalife, match.com, plenty of fish, and a couple of others. I went out with about 18 different men--dates, nothing else. Out of those 18, I did manage to find 2 really cool guys I am still friends with--one is a stockbroker, and one is a computer geek. No sexual chemistry with either, but there was friendship chemistry. I'm glad I met them both, and still hang out with them.

    Now--the dark and dirty side---I dated one guy for about a month, and he broke my heart. Really made it sound special, and I believed him. Turns out, not so much--he was still doing the ex. Another guy--he informed me on date number 2 that he was still fucking his psychotic ex, and he was in fact bi, and oh, by the way, still planned on "sucking alot more dick". Cue my exit. A year later, he starts texting me--saying how much he misses me. I ignore this. Finds me back on a dating site, and tries to contact me that way. I tell him to fuck off. He gets nasty, and sends me a hateful email. I tell him to stop contacting me, or I would involve the police, as he is now harrassing me. He gets the hint, and backs off.

    I had a date with a NHL hockey player, fresh out of rehab. Just the one date, for obvious reasons.

    Everyone else was just dull, not as they described themselves, emotionally screwed up, just looking for sex, or completely incompatible. I had dates with everyone from a steel tycoon, to a years younger penniless photographer. I really wanted to give it a chance. I dated younger men, older men, rich men , poor men.

    At the end of my year, I realized a few things. One--that the stories you hear about someone really finding their match are the exception, not the rule. Two--most guys on those sites are married, or have a girlfriend--they just like to keep trolling. And third--that that the internet is a great place for emotionally damaged and unavailable people to hide. Best to get out in the real world and take my chances there, I found!

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    I was on match for a month and I wasnt happy way too many guys looking just to hook up.
    But I have a friend that met her husband on match, and I know of some other people that have had success. You never know.

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    daisy

    from a man's perspective (i.e. i know what we think like), i would not advertise the lingerie/etc shots nor your employment type. i know this is part of you, i would just maybe hold it off until later. probably the guy wont be dissapointed. but its just that there are a few things that cross guys minds when they see this stuff, and its not spending the rest of their life with you. im my opinion, this might initially hurt your odds of finding your soul mate and might be reasons for your experiences so far. give it a shot?

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    My mum met the man that molested me on Match.com. Apparently he purposefully looked for girls with kids in their profile. D: And of course he was the amazing rich boyfriend and I was the dirty daughter slutbag. Whatever.

    HHHEYYYY derailing..

    I met Michael online though (livejournal, I can even show you the post!) and it's working... sorta.
    Online shit, can obviously be pretty dangerous. That's horrible, I hope they're not still together

    But I've met people off of myspace, and a free dating site I like (although, none good so far), and a am talking to people on a paid one. In a way it makes it easier to meet people, but then again there are so many dirty, dumbass, assholes out there that flock to these sites.
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    Quote Originally Posted by xBlackBettyx View Post
    Online shit, can obviously be pretty dangerous. That's horrible, I hope they're not still together

    But I've met people off of myspace, and a free dating site I like (although, none good so far), and a am talking to people on a paid one. In a way it makes it easier to meet people, but then again there are so many dirty, dumbass, assholes out there that flock to these sites.
    They stayed together for two years before my mum dumped him because she decided to believe me afterall... *eyeroll*

    Again, I met Michael online though, but it wasn't some stupid shit dating site. It was a journaling site, which I think is much better... because then you know all about the real person who posts about their life daily than some fake Christian beauty king on a dating site.


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    ^ Not necessarily. I know/know of LOTS of people on Livejournal who are complete and utter liars. I had someone on my LJ friends list for 4 years and read all their entries and spoke to them regularly only to recently find out that they were a pathological liar with a fake fiance who fake died. And he wrote long in-depth entries about his life, which all turned out to be complete bullshit.

    So yeah, you definitely can't believe someone just because you read their 'journal'

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    Woody! Great point! I'm going to remove my "sexy" pics and see what happens. I'm averaging about 30 to 40 per day from guys here and all over the country, some even from Egypt and the UK! Thanks for the advice. I will see by changing these photos will make a difference, and will post the results.
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    Update:
    I changed the pics and the emails in my inbox lowered from an average of 50 to 30.
    I also went on a few more dates from match and all but one (the drunk forementioned) were really nice but not boyfriend material. I will however, remain friends with them since I need friends in this new city.
    I canceled my membership yesterday.
    Overall, it was definitely an interesting experience and recommend it to anyone in the mood trying something new in the dating world.
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    well i sure wouldnt mind a friend like you

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    It works for most people, but for me all the only compatible people they could find were a truck driver from Boise named Dirty Dave, and a fortune teller from Alabama currently named Madame Chantilly, but undergoing a conversion.

    Next, I'm going to try police lineups.
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