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    One of my good friends is now dating her SECOND man out of prison! After being dumped by one already. The new one i HATE i cant stand and apparently, he doenst like me 1 bit either cause im "rude". So my best friends boyfriend and I hate eachother... what sucks is that i told her today that if thats how he feels i wont be around for anymore of her kids birthday parties ext. if thats how he feels Im not going to be uncomfortable and she just doesnt really seem to care. The dick head is living in a half way house and drinkin on a daily basis while he sneaks off from work when ehs only supposed to be on the bus and at work and their dumb asses dont seem to think their gonna get caught!

    Why does this bother me so much? Probably because i hate to see her self destruct and because she puts her friends on the bottom of the totem pole when she makes a new friend or gets a new man.... Untill somthing bad happens than she comes back crying and gets mad when you tell her you told her so.

    Im just discusted and tired of watching the same thing play out again and again...

    I want to just cut off our friendship till she gets a clue for my own good because i let it get to me. On the other hand I dont want to be a shitty friend just because I cant stand him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ExtacyInDaytona View Post
    Im just discusted and tired of watching the same thing play out again and again...

    I want to just cut off our friendship till she gets a clue for my own good because i let it get to me. On the other hand I dont want to be a shitty friend just because I cant stand him.
    It's hard to watch friends who deserve better self-destruct like this. She'll probably keep pairing with these losers until she works out whatever issue drives her toward them. It's hard, but don't leave her alone. She needs someone to cry to. But let her know how you feel. Let her know in no uncertain terms how you feel. She'll understand when she's ready. Until then, just limit the time spent with Scumbag Boy.

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    Report him to the police. He's most likely on parole or probation and is in a very obvious violation of his terms.

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    Trust me i have thought about it but i think that would be just as shitty a thing to do for her sake he makes her happy besides that me being one who cant stand him she would know that it was me or strongly suspect any how which would really destroy our friendship.

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    Sticky situation. He sounds like a real douche. I'm sorry that you're going through that. I would suggest just cutting out the friendship, you said that she has kids? Not that all people out of prison are complete crap but one who is skipping out of work and drinking all day shouldn't be around kids.

    If your friend can't seem to even put her kids well being before her own happiness then maybe cutting her off will help her come to her senses?
    The type of girl you wanna chew all of my bubblegum

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    i second reporting to the police. anonymously.

    Love it!

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    Yeah he's still not doing right even after he's out of prison so what good is going to come of this relationship? I don't see any harm in anonomously reporting his drinking to authorities, if only for the sake of your friend's kids. It doesn't sound like a very good situation to me. If you keep pushing the idea to your friend you will most likely push her away, as she is probably being blinded by love. She will need you one day when he hurts her or the kids and she'll have noone to call if you leave her. It does seem hard to sit around and watch though. I'd just tell her you don't want to hear anything that has to do with her man and continue to be ehr friend, if at all possible.

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    Quote Originally Posted by short skirts View Post
    If you keep pushing the idea to your friend you will most likely push her away, as she is probably being blinded by love. She will need you one day when he hurts her or the kids and she'll have noone to call if you leave her. It does seem hard to sit around and watch though. I'd just tell her you don't want to hear anything that has to do with her man and continue to be ehr friend, if at all possible.
    my thinking exactly and I have already told her i dont want to hear about him and she really doesnt speak much of him to me because she knows i dont want to hear it nor does she want to hear what i have to say about it. Only reason i met him is because i told her im not coming around for anything as long as hes there. She stated that she figured that much and basicly by her tone showed that she didnt give a shit!

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    I never understood what is appealing about an ex-con.

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    hell NOTHING!!!! Especially this one he strikes me as your typical southern redneck type hes like 6 foot 4 damn near 300 pounds that used to be solid muscle "Im big man you respect big man big man is the shit!" type person EEEWWWW Creepy! My friend is such a nurturer (i have no idea how to spell it) that i think she gets somthing out of being all he has or somthing (damn i use that smily alot huh )

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    Quote Originally Posted by jaizaine View Post
    I never understood what is appealing about an ex-con.
    There are some people who do go to jail and learn their lesson. You can't generalize everyone. But yeah, your friends guy doesn't sound like someone who has.

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    i think hes spend most of his life there anyways I cant wait till his dumb ass comes back hes just prolonging my chance to prove my point!!!

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    Well My friend i speak of in this thread has not called me for 3 weeks as i have not called her either. we work together and barely speak at workn and we had quite the arguement over emails today over the whole thing. not just the shit about the looser boyfriend, but, our whole friendship over time. I would like to share the story with any one interested in offering and out side opinion. But its long and complicated. So if you would care to hear any of it let me know I could really use out side imput on this.

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    i pmed you!

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    Quote Originally Posted by ExtacyInDaytona View Post
    Why does this bother me so much? Probably because i hate to see her self destruct
    People self-destruct sometimes. About the only thing you can do is let them make their choices for better or worse, and wait patiently as a friend for when/if they have an epiphany of their own and change directions. Accepting what we cannot change (specifically others) is probably one of the hardest things.

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    I third calling the cops.

    I wouldn't want this guy around my friend's kids.

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    In our email war we have pretty much ended the friendship which totally sucks. It hurts like loosing any relationship but im seriously over having a friend who is not a true friend. I can not sit back and have her expect me to hold back my feelings about the ignorant choices she makes in her life and than wants to come and cry to me about them I care way to much to sit back and watch it and will not anymore!

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    Sounds like this guy is a complete loser- She sounds like she has an issue with trying to "save" someone- also with low self esteem because she obviously feels that she can't do better than a moron like this. It's sad to think that she can't realize that she can actually do better. You did the right thing by cutting it off for now.... You should be concerned with your happiness and well being first. Being near that guy could only mean trouble-
    Good luck!

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    some one hit it right on the head that she can self distruct all she wants but im tired of picking up the peices......and only being good enough when the peices need to be picked up!

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