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    He's not the problem, but I was wondering what experienced dancers would recommend. Do you tell customers? Do you lie? Do you avoid the subject?

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    Tell them you don't have one, regardless if you do or don't.

    By saying that, it makes you seem more available and it gives the guy a false impression that he might have a chance with you by the end of the night. Leave your options open and play along with it until you've bled him dry of his money, then leave and move on.


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    i used to tell them the truth (i do have one), now i never tell them. i got tired of being asked...

    1. what does he do for a living?
    2. why do you have to dance then?
    3. what does HE think about this

    etc. etc. etc.

    say you have a boyfriend and the next 10 minutes of convo will be about him, which makes the guy lose interest in spending money on you. plus, the whole "you wouldn't -have- to dance if -i- were your boyfriend" thing gets irritating.

    the only people i (occasionaly) tell are really good club regulars. there are times when it's ok, but not often.

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    I think I read in HustleHut where a girl tells customers, "well look at how cute I am, I could NEVER have just one boyfriend. I have to have at least one on each arm" I thought it was cute.







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    Thats a perfect answer CK

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    Potential good customers want to feel you are single. NEVER admit to having a boyfriend. You WILL lose more customers than you will keep.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Maisumi View Post
    Tell them you don't have one, regardless if you do or don't.

    By saying that, it makes you seem more available and it gives the guy a false impression that he might have a chance with you by the end of the night. Leave your options open and play along with it until you've bled him dry of his money, then leave and move on.
    GO GIRL!

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    What do the experienced ladies think of the answer "Yes, and also a girlfriend"? (This happens to be the true answer for me.) Can one pull off giving the false impression of "I'm a crazy insatiable bisexual nymphomaniac"? Or do you think the fantasy is just usually sold better with "I am alone and available, and maybe looking for YOU and only you! Teehee!"?

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    You dont want to lead the guy on too far because then he might try to bug you for otc action, unless of course you dont mind fending off his advances and coming up with witty comebacks. To me that's just too much trouble. Leave it open like with CK's answer, or with grasshoppers. Dont actually say youre single and available, but dont say youre taken either (I know, I know, that's almost a contradiction but there are ways to do that.)
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    Regardless of whether I was single at the moment or not, I'd tell customers "no, I don't have a boyfriend but I just got out of a relationship and am just kinda sorting some stuff out in my mind."
    That way, I appeared single enough not to ruin their "fantasy," but emotionally guarded enough to have an excuse to deny them if they pushed for anything.

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    thanks! good advice. I have a follow up question:

    To guys who generally hit on me in the regular world, telling them you have a boyfriend is always the easy out...I presume strippers get asked by patrons to spend time with them outside of the club. What do you guys usually say?

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    I always said that I had a boyfriend , but we werent getting along and i ws thinking of breaking up with him.

    It gives me an out if they ask for OTC(well..I havent officially broken up and I dont want to get accused of cheating....) but they still think they have a chance....Hell I had regs for months(sometimes longer)who would always ask 'when are you giving that loser boyfriend the boot so I can take you out?"
    "Oh soon..He was really sweet for awhile, but he's been pissing me off again..."

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    I am single until married

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    I always say "we don't talk about that in here silly, this is about US" and avoid it all together, they usually smile and change the subject.

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    I usually say im too much woman for just one man..
    Or i say im free spirited and dont like being tied down..
    I really do have a bf and sometimes its hard to lie about it cause as soon as they bring it up i think about him and how much i love him and i have to pretend my smile is for them and not him.



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    Quote Originally Posted by immapixie View Post
    I presume strippers get asked by patrons to spend time with them outside of the club. What do you guys usually say?
    every shift pretty much. i always say that i dont really know them or that the club doesn't allow us to see guys OTC.

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    I only tell guys about the bf if they are really pressuring me to meet them OTC. Sometimes it's enough to stop them, other times it's not. I try to avoid it all together.

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    When asked if I have a bf I say

    "He's far far away.... in London"

    (makes them think I'll cheat)

    "Which one?"

    (again, with the sleaze fantasy)

    or

    "I'd rather you think I'm *your* girl"

    (watch it with this one though, use it on the blatant players only, not the potential stalker types! Play the players!)


    When asked to meet otc I usually giggle and say nothing. If they ask a second time I'll giggle more, say "Oh, you naughty naughty man!" and follow that up with more giggling. It's best to do the giggling while aviding eye contact. If they persist a third time I say "We should get to know each other a little better first." Usually this keeps the cash flowing, or at least it does until he gives up.

    These are the approaches I take with someone thats respectful though. If they're using pressure tactics or are just plain rude, only then will I tell the truth, and I'll be very blunt about it. Last time a guy pressured me I quickly snapped out of my stripper persona and told him I sell fantasy, not reality, and that this is a strip club, not a brothel. That shut him up real quick.

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    Well i would have to agree with every one where i work it's just common knowage that you don't tell them that they are there with some hope of taking a girl home not that it happens but they spend a lot more if they have that hope you know and i told my girl that she needs not to tell them she works at the same club and sometimes its not good to let the other dancers even know we have had issuses with other girls telling customers that the guy standing there is this girls boy friend and such but you will have that and i suggest if you man does come and watch you make sure he is bending in so guys are not asking who that guy standing there looking mean is you know

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    Wow, alot of you girls have some really good lines!







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    I just give them a big grin and say..."oh, maybe a few" and like what dollyrocker says, "Which one?"....this piques their interest and is amusing. Men are easily entertained...it kills them when I'm vague.



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    i always said i didnt have one, it made things so much more simpler!

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    If a guy asks to go home with me right off the bat, or is annoying about it, i will say "I think my husband would mind" just to shut them up. But no one at work thinks I am really married. I am single BTW
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    If asked if I have boyfriend or a man I reply with "some days of the week".

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    Paris Love had the best response and I stole it... "Sure I have boyfriends, usually three or four!" Keep it in party-girl mode to keep the money flowing. It totally works.

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