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    Default Very reserved audience!

    So I have only recently started doing private parties. Reading through you guys' posts here I simply can not even begin to relate to any of them!

    You see, living in Finland people are very reserved. You get tips on stage maybe every other MONTH on clubs, otherwise you have to do rounds through the room to ask for them. I've done three private parties so far and I've never even seen anyone consider giving me tips even if I've had my tits on their face. Only once have I had an audience who was actually really into it and caught the drift very soon, at other times people have been mostly staring at their toes and seeming a bit uncomfortable.

    So how on earth do you work under circumstances like these? I suppose one option would be to start with pyrotechnics or something so people would actually consider it a show rather than just be awkward in front of a naked lady... So far I've been doing a cowboy theme with a pink stetson, a riding crop and so forth, and only housewarming parties and biker club openings so there's never been a birthday boy or such to dance to (save for at the club on stage, but there people are into it straight away since they know to expect something like that on a strip club!).

    I think it would be a lesser of an issue if I had the time to talk to the guests a bit before my show, just hang around very clearly looking like a stripper so they'd know to expect it, but of course oftentimes it's a surprise they're bringing in a stripper so I'm just smuggled in through the back door and then pushed on stage so I can clearly see a big ol "WTF" thought bubble rise above the audience!

    I do suppose some of you have to deal with this in the States/Australia/other tipping countries too, like parties where you're obviously a total surprise to everyone involved basically. How do you work around it?

    Help me I'm at loss here I just booked my first private birthday party, it was actually the birthday boy's auntie who booked me and apparently it's like a darn family gathering with his wife present too (so I doubt they'd appreciate a lolli in the pussy act), early on in the evening too at 8.30pm so I doubt they'll be drunk enough to be rowdy either. Maybe start with the cowboy thing again and ride him like a pony and stuff like that? Or any other ideas? Either way I'm thinking I'll have to turn it more into a comedy than a lap dance or similar because of the family presence, it'd be awkward otherwise... Any smart ideas?

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    Re: Very reserved audience!

    Well i can see what the problem is i guess that you are going to have to figure a way to get the people involed with the act instead of just taking off you clothes and such play some games with them to lossen every one up like the Beer out of the baby bottle race or something like that once you break the us and relax everyone i am sure you will find them a little more compfortable with the whole thing i would have more then one theme to better fit you audince i mean you can not go wrong with the school girl that is always a hit men like the idea of have a little school girl dancing for them but mostly you have to find a way to get them involed and break the ice and relax them and this also gives them a chance to get some drinking in and we all know they spend more when that have a few hope everything goes well and good luck

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    Default Re: Very reserved audience!

    If it's not a tipping culture, raise your price and charge enough for it to be worthwhile up front.

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    Default Re: Very reserved audience!

    Quote Originally Posted by Susan Wayward View Post
    If it's not a tipping culture, raise your price and charge enough for it to be worthwhile up front.

    I agree as this is the practice here in Australia. No one tips generally speaking when you do a show. Then again we aren't there for an hour or so - only 30 minutes usually.


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    Default Re: Very reserved audience!

    Of course I charge enough to make my trip worth while... The problem is getting the audience into it as they obviously have no way to get involved by cultural tipping expectations for example. Especially since often times the audience doesn't know what to expect. How do you break it down to them?

    I've been thinking about maybe making the birthday boy do some tricks/tasks of some sort first and then letting him bodypaint me with fingerpaint while wearing a white T-shirt, gonna give him a hug so he'll have a T-shirt with my boobies on it for the rest of the evening... Dunno what kind of tasks to make him do tho!
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    I believe lots of men have the flip side of the coin when it comes to the "white knight" fantasy. They'd LOVE to be a white knight. But they usually don't really have it in them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Asurfael View Post
    Of course I charge enough to make my trip worth while... The problem is getting the audience into it as they obviously have no way to get involved by cultural tipping expectations for example. Especially since often times the audience doesn't know what to expect. How do you break it down to them?

    I've been thinking about maybe making the birthday boy do some tricks/tasks of some sort first and then letting him bodypaint me with fingerpaint while wearing a white T-shirt, gonna give him a hug so he'll have a T-shirt with my boobies on it for the rest of the evening... Dunno what kind of tasks to make him do tho!
    Um... tell them?

    And all those ideas sound great.


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    Yea, so I've decided I'm going to be a teacher, make him do a phony test on subject like how to best flatter a woman etc, then do the body painting thing and give a few relatives the opportunity to judge his artwork. I think it'll pull together OK if I ask for an applause on correct answers in the quiz and so forth so the audience will get involved.
    Quote Originally Posted by Jo Weldon
    I believe lots of men have the flip side of the coin when it comes to the "white knight" fantasy. They'd LOVE to be a white knight. But they usually don't really have it in them.

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    Don't teach him how to flatter a woman - that's useless now that he's getting married! Teach him how to bed his OWN woman! Hahaha he'll NEED that!


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    He's been married for quite a while, it's a birthday party Besides, at least I need flattery from my husband, either way, I'll probably start with some schoolbook questions, proceed to relationship ones and then sex ones. We'll see, I'll report back!
    Quote Originally Posted by Jo Weldon
    I believe lots of men have the flip side of the coin when it comes to the "white knight" fantasy. They'd LOVE to be a white knight. But they usually don't really have it in them.

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    It went a-ok and the audience was far less reserved than I thought, I guess they saw it coming when my car came to the driveway. I was announced on stage, did a small dance, asked him like three questions (easy maths, relationships, strippers being the subjects) then gave him a body painting art lesson. All went well, got tipped an extra tenner in addition to the already ok price. So couldn't be happier, basically!
    Quote Originally Posted by Jo Weldon
    I believe lots of men have the flip side of the coin when it comes to the "white knight" fantasy. They'd LOVE to be a white knight. But they usually don't really have it in them.

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