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    My best friend just rang me in tears confessing that she has a problem with alcohol. Well I knew this already but I didnt realise the extent of it.
    She said she has to have a drink of wine before she can even get out of bed in the morning at 8am and that she drinks all day until she goes to bed at night.

    She has a 2 and a half year old daughter and a 6 month old son. She said her husband is furious coz she was so drunk today that she didnt realise her daughter was breaking the television.

    Im so worried about her and I have no idea what to say or do to be of any help to her.

    I dont have any experience with substance abuse or really know anyone else who has so Im feeling out of my element here for advise?

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    Oh thats sad!
    Does she want to get help because shell get support and information at the local AA if shes up to going there.

    Heres their website

    Ive never really been close to anyone who has an alcohol problem like that before where they're drinking all day everyday. I do have a bunch of friends whove had other drug problems though and alot of them swear my their NA meetings (Narcotics Annonamous) and rehab. I know she has a child but considering then rehab might be a good option.

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    well im hoping she has confessed coz she wants help. she was in tears telling me she is a terrible mother and wife. i just didnt know what to say. i think she has made some terrible decisions such as breastfeeding while getting drunk and drinking and smoking when pregnant but i dont think she is a terrible person. she has a very good heart and i think being an alcoholic is an illness that needs to be treated.

    Maybe AA is the way to go then. I think depression is behind it - if she cant get out of bed without a drink I suppose that sounds like depression.

    I wish I knew what to say to her to help but I really have no idea and I think she needs to speak to a professional.

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    That's so sad. I've never really known anyone with a substance abuse problem, but I'm thinking the poor girl should have therapy. Also, let her know that you're there for her, as I know that some people with these problems tend to feel alienated and thus never seek help.

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    Definitely get her to an AA meeting. Go with her for support if you can because she will be more likely to stick with it.
    Alcoholism is nothing that children need to be growing up around. It is so sad that she has babies and can't properly take care of them. That is a huge deal. I know several alcoholics and it is a life long battle, but if she wants to get better for her kids and herself she needs to get into a 12 step treatment program (not just stop drinking). Unfortunately, many alcoholics don't get help unless the courts mandate them to - after a few drunk driving charges and a revoked license or even a concerned friend or neighbor calling Child Protection Services.
    Sadly, it usually has to come to extremes for a change to be made. It is called "hitting rock bottom". I hope that's not the case with your friend. I think it's great that you are so concerned and willing to help. It might be tempting to not do the right thing, especially when she will probably get mad at you for not enabling her, but be strong! The best thing you can do for her is lead her into safety and health.

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    Definatly seeking help from a professional is the way to go. I hope she wants and is ready for help. Alcoholics are hard to deal with smetimes and can be very sneeky about their drinking.
    Its such a big thing though and very hard to deal with. I sometimes think it must be the hardest substance to give up because alcohol is so socially acceptable - especially in our culture.
    Sometimes friends and family can go to councilling session too or on their own so they get a better idea of what the persons going through.
    Shes lucky she has you as a friend, I hope things get better! (-:

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    Alcoholics sure must be sneaky coz I never knew she had such a problem! I knew she liked wine but I didnt know she was drinking to this extent.

    I really am going to try to get her help. She deserves better and so do her children - they didnt ask to be brought into this world. I dont want her to die either and if she keeps drinkign to this extent that could happen. Doesn't help that she is anorexic too - she has numerous psychological problems which all got worse when her father passed away 4 years ago.

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    ^^^^^
    thanks you're right about not sacrifising too much of my own life too. Not to sound cruel but she moved very far away so Im kind of an over the phone friend now as much as that sucks. Im too busy to drive out there all the time as she would like as she never makes the effort to come down here.

    I will be there as much as I can.

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