Results 1 to 17 of 17

Thread: i think i hate the customers...yeah, it's a rant

  1. #1
    Featured Member xoxoGracexoxo's Avatar
    Joined
    Oct 2005
    Posts
    1,936
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 32 Times in 26 Posts

    Default i think i hate the customers...yeah, it's a rant

    I'm not making the money I used to make and it's no mystery why...I feel outright hostility toward the vast majority of customers. I haven't always felt this way. Apart from a few genuine assholes, I liked the guys and they liked me. I always made the most money off the customers who's company I genuinely enjoyed. But these days it's so hard to find a customer who doesn't bug the bejeezus out of me. In the last week, I've just gotten up and walked away from tables because I was so completely frustrated with the guy I was sitting with -- one guy kept going on and on about how guilty he felt about his wife, like there's anything I can do about that. Another guys bragging about how rich he was and how much expensive stuff he owned and then accusing me of being "all about the money" when I asked for a dance. Another guy insisted on giving me a "massage" before I danced. I let him rub my back for about three second before he started humping my ass, then I took off.

    I'm at the point where I don't want to sit with anyone, because I just assume going into it that they're going to be some kind of asshole. Has anyone else felt like this? How did you get your groove back?

  2. #2
    Featured Member NatalieFRPhilly's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2006
    Location
    Maryland
    Posts
    1,557
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 8 Times in 5 Posts

    Default Re: i think i hate the customers...yeah, it's a rant

    Are you working like thurs-sat nights? maybe switch to dayshift? or sun-wed nights..those guys tend to be a little more chill and less "I want to date you but I don't want to spend money on you cuz I'm a douche."

  3. #3
    Featured Member AznExtasy's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2006
    Posts
    1,880
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 33 Times in 23 Posts

    Default Re: i think i hate the customers...yeah, it's a rant

    I don't really have any good suggestions but I am in the same boat as you on this one, you described my situation perfectly. I'm finding guys at the club to be grabbier, ruder, and just more of an asshole in general.. Sometimes I don't have the patience and I go home mentally exhausted every night. I just hope for a better day next time.

  4. #4
    Featured Member
    Joined
    May 2007
    Posts
    1,599
    Thanks
    52
    Thanked 57 Times in 48 Posts

    Default Re: i think i hate the customers...yeah, it's a rant

    Then we have the customer who is a dream, you girls all know which ones I'm talking about. He's kind - will go get you food, tips well and when he does something for you ( even though it might not be something extravagant) your surprised by the thought.

    Sounds like you need some time to yourself. A day to do something fun?

    Go to a spa, get your nails done or simply hang out and watch a favorite movie with ice cream of course! Here's some hugs and smooches to make you feel better.

    MUAHS!
    xoxoxox
    Rhiannon

  5. #5
    God/dess jaizaine's Avatar
    Joined
    Jun 2006
    Location
    melbourne australia
    Posts
    10,144
    Thanks
    328
    Thanked 219 Times in 133 Posts

    Default Re: i think i hate the customers...yeah, it's a rant

    I dont know what to say coz I am feeling this way too. I was a top earner and lately I have not been and its coz of my shit attitude. I have lost patience with them - if they dont give me money very quickly I get shitty.

    Im prob gonna change clubs and see if that helps.

  6. #6
    AlexxaHex
    Guest

    Default Re: i think i hate the customers...yeah, it's a rant

    Congratulations! You're human! LOL

    It's totally normal to be annoyed by this BS. It shouldn't be typical customer behavior but it is these days I guess. It's so rare to find the low-hassle gentlemen. It's like they have retreated into obscurity and been replaced by rude and grabby entitlement-hungry brokeass losers! I have to ask myself if some of them get OFF on being assholes because they can't possibly think that they treat anyone with even a remote hint of respect. Do they think that kind of shit is normal SC protocol?
    I get like you do when I need a little break. I know I'm at that point when I start insulting customers. I'm really good about keeping composure and professionalism most of the time but sometimes I let a few backhanded comments out that leave horrified looks on peoples' faces - sometimes it's really awful stuff that comes from the depths of my hatred. I suppose it's better than breaking someone's jaw.
    If you can take a week off or so, then you should. Pamper yourself and don't answer your phone so much. Enjoy the silence and give yourself time to be alone for a while. At least that's what works for me.

  7. #7
    God/dess Lena's Avatar
    Joined
    Jun 2002
    Location
    On a sweet muddy river.
    Posts
    6,399
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 78 Times in 43 Posts

    Default Re: i think i hate the customers...yeah, it's a rant

    So, um, not to sound totally nuts, but. Probably your vibrational frequency is off so you are attracting people who are also off. Take a couple days off and do things to recharge yourself.



  8. The Following User Says Thank You to Lena For This Useful Post:


  9. #8
    Moderator Optimist's Avatar
    Joined
    Feb 2004
    Location
    House of Aion
    Posts
    8,074
    Thanks
    7,881
    Thanked 5,705 Times in 2,127 Posts
    My Mood
    In Love

    Default Re: i think i hate the customers...yeah, it's a rant

    You're not imagining it! These dudes are more like johns and less like dance customers. I'd try the quieter nights or dayshifts to avoid that hassle.
    “What a caterpillar calls the end of the world we call a butterfly.” - ECKHART TOLLE

  10. #9
    Featured Member xoxoGracexoxo's Avatar
    Joined
    Oct 2005
    Posts
    1,936
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 32 Times in 26 Posts

    Default Re: i think i hate the customers...yeah, it's a rant

    Quote Originally Posted by Lena View Post
    So, um, not to sound totally nuts, but. Probably your vibrational frequency is off so you are attracting people who are also off. Take a couple days off and do things to recharge yourself.

    Yeah. I'm looking for trouble and I'm finding it. So, any idea how I re-tune my vibrations?

  11. #10
    God/dess RoseWhite's Avatar
    Joined
    Mar 2006
    Location
    On a babymoon.
    Posts
    3,145
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 18 Times in 13 Posts

    Default Re: i think i hate the customers...yeah, it's a rant

    This is ranty, I know, but I'd really rather keep it here & semi-topical.

    Man, it's oddly heartening to read others who are getting totally fed up with customers lately. I think I just had the worst shift ever yesterday - I've been feeling more and more easily frustrated by the classic combo of horrible customers & horrible management lately, but I finally just snapped on someone yesterday. This was after getting pinched onstage for no reason (not that there's ever a justifiable reason, but I mean that he clearly didn't even mean it in a sexual way, just pinched my leg hard, just obviously to hurt me), after little to no reaction from other customers who are evidently there to text at the rail, morosely play Keno, or stare off into space looking constipated, and after dealing with an obnoxious bartender who routinely comes over to solicit tips from customers with her boobs (exposed) AND chat them up WHILE I am actively dancing for him.

    ALL the girls are complaining about the recent lack of cash flow - and I need to add that this is a quality club, the best in the area.

    I finally find someone who seems like a good customer. Older guy, he tips me well on stage. We start chatting right then, and we talk about his daughter who's living in my home state & find other common ground to chat around, too. I get offstage, and he buys me a drink. It's not long before we start some dances - just a couple with a tip, as I have to go back onstage, but also with a 'come see me again later, we'll have another drink & more dances'. Great! Not a huge spender, but a decent one who seems to get what's up and seemed to be enjoying my company. Modestly lucrative, but respectfully so.

    However, there's a red flag that I ignored earlier. During the day, it seems, our club has decided that no bouncer is necessary in the LD area. I do NOT like this one bit, but what can I do? Besides, around here, the bouncers are mostly spaced-out lumps. This customer comments on this while I was dancing for him, that he's glad there's no "lap dance police" around. Said he had had an altercation with a bouncer here before. He was a little handsy, but not terribly so, mostly along the sides & with a few awkward 'hugs' - I detest this crap, but have learned to tolerate it within reason because it's the standard here.

    But I should have paid attention to that red flag. When I returned later, after that set, he had been joined by a buddy. Fine, I was managing to build a decent rap with both of them, and they buy me another drink. The shift changeover is about to happen, so I suggest we do those few more dances for the road before I have to leave. He looks over at the lap area, where there is now a bouncer, and says, nope, sorry, you're too late.

    !!!

    He goes on to explain, with much righteous indignation, that he will NEVER get another dance with a bouncer present, and goes on further to say (with what seemed like a hint of PRIDE) that he's been tossed out of our club a few times. I tried to suss out whether this was one particular bouncer he had a problem with, more to redeem him somehow (don't ask me why) than to make a sale. No, he says, any and all bouncers. I even tried (I know this was a bad & desperate move even if he had accepted) to make a Champagne sale out of it. I am getting more and more furious inside. Finally I simply say, for my own pride, "Well, listen, I know it can be a buzzkill, but you have to understand that it's for our saftey, and that girls can and have been assaulted in clubs."

    This does not even register with him at all. "Those fucking guys, I'll never get a dance with them around again." That's all he has to say. So I lost it. Snapped. I leaned in and basically hissed at him that "Look. If you won't do a dance with a bouncer around that means you're looking for something I'm not willing to do. SEE YA." And literally stalked off. And then positively BURST into tears in the dressing room. I just felt so low, it's hard to even explain.

    I know, some of you will think that's a rather mild telling-off, all things considered, but it was huge for me, and all in the delivery. I've definitely made snarky, snappy retorts to douchebaggy behavior before, of course, but never something like that, never something that came from real emotion rather than just mild irritation. AND it's all in the context, too. My "best" customer of the day, and he expects me to sell off my safety for a lousy $20?

    I'm just now calming down about it. I could go on and on about the wild variety of other NONSENSE in both my clubs, but y'all have endured enough already. Thanks for reading, if you made it through that. It's reassuring to know others have gotten to the end of their ropes too.
    Last edited by RoseWhite; 05-09-2007 at 10:53 PM.
    "Before I conceived you, I wanted you. Before you were born, I loved you. Before you were here an hour, I would die for you. This is the miracle of life." -- Maureen Hawkins

    "I just can't get over how much babies cry. I really had no idea what I was getting into. To tell you the truth, I thought it would be more like getting a cat." -- Anne Lamott

  12. #11
    Veteran Member danijamesxxx's Avatar
    Joined
    Jun 2006
    Location
    Alberta Canada
    Posts
    384
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: i think i hate the customers...yeah, it's a rant

    Aww... I know how you guys feel. I think sometimes the only thing that keeps me motivated to keep going to work is the fact that I will be making good money and also I only have to deal with them ,and their perception of me, for a couple of hours. Then I am free of them.... they are not even a drop of water in the ocean of my life. It is frustrating though I agree.
    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]

  13. #12
    Tart
    Guest

    Default Re: i think i hate the customers...yeah, it's a rant

    Last night I walked away from a titanium card. ... And he did spend and probably a lot. He grabbed my tit, told me how he has a BIG 7 inches...

    You know, sometimes there isn't a price on your fucking sanity. And you HAVE to walk away and not do snappy come backs in order NOT to hate everyone. The longer you involve yourself with it the more pissed off you get. Same with girls you hang with at work.

    I think you deserve some time off. Set a goal to go somewhere..book a flight and work your ass off to pay for the hotel and expenses..it'll get you through the immediate and get you to where you need to be..whichis somewhere far removed from drunk retards.

  14. #13
    God/dess ExoticEngineer's Avatar
    Joined
    Sep 2006
    Location
    Arizona
    Posts
    3,335
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 59 Times in 29 Posts

    Default Re: i think i hate the customers...yeah, it's a rant

    Wow, you all took the words right out of my mouth!

    I have been so low lately. Dreading going into work, and when I am there, I have some serious aggression towards these guys, even the nice ones!

    I sit and watch all these girls let guy grab them, hold them onto their laps, drool on their necks, and it KILLS me! I'm in a serious slump.

    I haven't been making even clsoe to the money I usually do, mostly because I can't seem to make myself go bullshit with these guys. I have no urge to pretend to enjoy myself while dancing for a guy.

    Ugh.

    Need to shake it, and fast.

    Honestly though..... I think this will be my last summer dancing. I can just feel it.

    So, you're not alone Grace. Not at all.




  15. #14
    Featured Member xoxoGracexoxo's Avatar
    Joined
    Oct 2005
    Posts
    1,936
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 32 Times in 26 Posts

    Default Re: i think i hate the customers...yeah, it's a rant

    OK, so I've had a few days to bounce back, and last night was actually OK for me. (Not great, but given how slow it was, I did OK.) I usually just walk away from the guys who bother me, but lately there have been so few customers and so many girls that the pickings are really slim. There will only be one or two guys in the room who don't have a girl in their laps, and you have to sort of stake those guys out and hustle them relentlessly if you want to make any money. Even so, I've just had to walk away from a few tables for my sanity.

    I think when I get in the mindset that the customers suck, I probably actually ignore the customers who might be good for me. I see them looking at me, but I think, "nah, no one likes me, he's probably try to look around me and watch the TV" and keep going.

  16. #15
    Chicagoeditor
    Guest

    Default Re: i think i hate the customers...yeah, it's a rant

    Quote Originally Posted by ExoticEngineer View Post
    Honestly though..... I think this will be my last summer dancing. I can just feel it.
    Awwwww. EE, you are a terrific dancer/conversationalist! I'm proud to say I'm one of happy few who got to experience you. Slump be gone.

  17. #16
    God/dess RoseWhite's Avatar
    Joined
    Mar 2006
    Location
    On a babymoon.
    Posts
    3,145
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 18 Times in 13 Posts

    Default Re: i think i hate the customers...yeah, it's a rant

    Quote Originally Posted by xoxoGracexoxo View Post
    I think when I get in the mindset that the customers suck, I probably actually ignore the customers who might be good for me. I see them looking at me, but I think, "nah, no one likes me, he's probably try to look around me and watch the TV" and keep going.
    This is what I'm afraid of! I have this EXACT thought all the time. I know it has to happen all the time! Like, I know the sale is out there, but after dealing with asshole after asshole some days, I just have to take my sanity.
    "Before I conceived you, I wanted you. Before you were born, I loved you. Before you were here an hour, I would die for you. This is the miracle of life." -- Maureen Hawkins

    "I just can't get over how much babies cry. I really had no idea what I was getting into. To tell you the truth, I thought it would be more like getting a cat." -- Anne Lamott

  18. #17
    God/dess ExoticEngineer's Avatar
    Joined
    Sep 2006
    Location
    Arizona
    Posts
    3,335
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 59 Times in 29 Posts

    Default Re: i think i hate the customers...yeah, it's a rant

    Chicago, you're such a sweetie.

    I'm hoping the slump moves on. I really need it to.

    As for trying to snap out of it, my plan for tonight is this;
    Going to go through some of my older costumes, or maybe make something new. Going to spend some seriously quality time with the guys (hubby and kiddo) before I jet off to work, since they always put me in a good mood, and I'm going to try to keep the attitude in my head tonight "I don't NEED money, but I NEED to have fun".

    Like one of the girls said in a different thread, if I feel like I am a million bucks, and worth a million bucks, then it'll show and that's what I should attract. Something like that anyway.

    And lastly, Im going to find my island tonight. The one guy who may not be spending on me, but is nice and not a perv. That way I can stay on the floor and at least LOOK like I like these butt darts. We'll see how it goes.




Similar Threads

  1. I hate grabby customers
    By DancingDaisy in forum Stripping (was Stripping General)
    Replies: 15
    Last Post: 07-29-2013, 11:21 AM
  2. Well, I don't hate customers. I kinda like them.
    By lildreamer316 in forum Customer Conversation
    Replies: 15
    Last Post: 06-04-2008, 07:50 PM
  3. I hate when customers say this. Anyone else get this?
    By michele_b in forum Stripping (was Stripping General)
    Replies: 12
    Last Post: 08-09-2007, 05:01 PM
  4. I HATE sitting/talking with customers!
    By ashley123 in forum Stripping (was Stripping General)
    Replies: 21
    Last Post: 10-02-2006, 09:24 AM
  5. I hate this when customers say.....
    By leogirl876 in forum Stripping (was Stripping General)
    Replies: 20
    Last Post: 08-02-2006, 02:53 PM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •