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    Ok fuck it.. seriously im done with this shit!!!

    No matter where I work im constantly told im either a) too classy or b) too intimidating because of my stage show.

    Every single customer I talk to, no matter what club or how I try to present myself. I am not capable of pulling off the slutty ditzy girl, its just not me... and nothing else works for me

    Okay whatever, im in Toronto, I have regulars... well I thought I did...

    One customer after I was done in the VIP with him(no Viewer NOT you), I asked him to take my friend from out of town for a dance cuz she had a super bad weekend(I wasnt worried about her stealing him because she doesnt live here and is just passing through)... well he took me for like 10 dances I think... then took her for like 15.... ugh... thats a kick in the ass...

    Next regular.... he text msgs me when he gets here telling me hes here, I said okay, im just getting ready to go on stage so i'll come see you when im done.... I go see him when im done my show and he goes 'oh well you took too long so I have another girl im going with now, how about next time?'

    Its been constant shit with customers lately.. I cant take it anymore. Random assholes in the bar piss me off.... most of them make my skin crawl with shit they say/do.... and the rest of them just cant be bothered with me....

    The rare customer I can get seems to insist on violating me... they grab my hips and try to hump my ass... or try to shove their fingers places they shouldnt be shoving them... or try to grope me and molest me and blah....

    I dont know what it is... im really starting to feel ugly and pathetic

    I mean it shouldnt bother me because I get paid for stage dancing... but its damn expencive to get into featuring... im constantly spending money on costumes, hair, makeup, tanning, nails, pole classes, travel etc... I need private dance money to help me get by until I can stop shelling out money into everything... plus it is contest season so I need extra money to do the Miss Nude contests to get more titles to get more bookings.... ugh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Fuck there are some days I wonder why I got into this

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    Default Re: Im done with private dances and customers!!! RANT!!!!!!

    Cally! Where are you? I'll come get a dance without molesting you.

    Really, I'm gonna be in Canada soon...



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    OMG Lena!!!!!!! Im in Toronto right now at Filmores... im heading back out west though in mid June.... lemme know when yer gonna be in Canada and where... i'll get a booking there

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    cally, i just want you to know that i really, truly, admire you. You have incredible strength, character, dedication, perseverence, and beauty. You are niether ugly nor pathetic. I am very proud of how far you've come and I am envous of all you get to do. Don't give up, if some people don't appreciate a strong woman it's their own fault. I'm sorry you've had to deal with shitty customers lately.. keep your chin up...there will be others. You are an inspiration here.

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    Cally Ive been feeling like this about customers lately.
    It seems that the nice ones are few and far between.

    *Big hug*

    COme to Melbourne!!!! At least u wont have to deal with touching.

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    If I could feature in Melb I would be all over that!! Ahaha... I refuse to private dance anymore... i'll stay poor and thats that *hmph*

    And Embry thank you hon *hugs* I needed to hear that... it gets so fustrating sometimes


    Here is another kick in the ass tonight... My club hired another house feature... the girl has no themes, no props or extras for her shows, no tits(but a nice ass) and no titles at all... and they pay her more then me!!!! *bangs head on wall*

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    They would def let u feature at my club but girls dont get paid for it just have house fees waived so that sucks.

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    ^^ Oh hell no!!! LoL.. fuck dat I dont get naked for free... just next to free it seems

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    well i dont blame u.

    im not doing the feature show now. i might do it later but at the moment i decided to put it on hold, i am saving for my nose surgery so i dont want to spend on costumes etc.

    It must cost u a small fortune!

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    I've invested more money then I care to think of right now *sigh*

    I want to get my nose done... and I want my boobs done... but im poor *lesigh*

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    Sounds like you need a week off. I had a bad run last year and I felt similar like customer was acting like a jerk off. I took a whole week off and when i came back i felt alot better. i dont know if your able to take a week off but i know it helped me so maybe it'll help you. I think us girls need a head refreash every once and a while. I think our job is more mentally tiring (<---mind blank on spelling) than anything else. Just a thought anyways.
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    I know it'll get better, hun. You're a class act.

    -Ev

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cally View Post
    Here is another kick in the ass tonight... My club hired another house feature... the girl has no themes, no props or extras for her shows, no tits(but a nice ass) and no titles at all... and they pay her more then me!!!! *bangs head on wall*
    Please don't compare, it just needlessly eats away at you. Whether or not another dances makes more or less than you, in the long run, is immaterial. And you are neither ugly nor pathetic, so don't even think about that another second. You are a great dancer, I've seen you on youtube.

    Take a vacation! Take the money cut and get away...you will feel so much better psychologically. And yeah, it will help business and whatnot, but what's the point of fighting to make money if you can't take a step back and enjoy it all.

    In spite of the similar set backs I feel on certain nights, today I am relishing in the fact that a vacation and a lighter school load are doing me awesome. And when I am old, I will remember the fact I was once a lithe young dancer hanging upside off a pole and getting paid very well to do it...and I had a lot of fun.
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    Okay the other girl thing doesnt really bug me that bad.... shes a really cute girl and she is flexible and is great with hands on audience participation... Im great at audience participation, but I do it without contact.

    Anyway it kinda dawned on me I get other stuff she doesnt from the club... so yea... I think it was just the whole week eating at me that made that set me off.

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    This is probably a stupid question from a newbie, but what kind of clothing do you wear? I used to get the whole "look too classy" thing as well until I started wearing really unclassy clothes (yes I look cheap on purpose). Or do you have a gown policy or something? So I still dance the same and act the same (or actually probably looking even more classy than I used to before) but I wear clothes that look like I paid 10 bucks off them at the discount rack of a local cheap-o store. Which I often did. So no matter how classy you act or dance there's just no question about how classy you really are if you're wearing faux denim bikinis with a white marabou-trimmed stetson for example!

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    I wear nice gowns and rhinstone chokers and earings and stuff.

    My thing is, being the feature I have to present myself as nice and classy. It looks bad to be wandering around the club in a tank top and gstring. I have an image I have to hold.

    I also dont drink when I work, and my stage shows are high energy and a lot of pole work... I also do fire shows too which apparently is intimidating lol.

    I dunno... I just give up... i'll stick to my paid stage work.

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    you want i should come in there and kick some ass?
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    Quote Originally Posted by scarletfang View Post
    you want i should come in there and kick some ass?

    Perfect

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    i've been told i made a pretty good body guard...i'm all feisty and fiery
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    And oozing with hotness ahaha....

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    *blush* i'm too little to be hot...i maintain cute
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    ^^ Your hot... id do you in a second *grin*

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    Hmm, that's true. Also it's got to be clothes you can feel good in (or at least manage to ignore!). Being a feature I doubt presenting a more authorative role would work? Not necessarily PVC or latex God forbid but something sleek enough to say if you touch me I'll spank your fingers with a ruler? Guys are turned on by so many things but unfortunately being good-looking, smart and elegant just doesn't seem to be one of them. Sheesh. Breaking one of the pattern really helps, but yea, I know what you mean about not wanting to play a total idiot either. It wears you out after a while.

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    Cally your the shit!! i seen the youtube thread ,you dont need to change a thing. you way to hot for us suck ass men anyway.

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    Thanks guys.... I feel a bit better tonight. I've had some good shows, no drama and im a little perkier now.

    I guess you just get in those moods once n awhile...

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