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    Default Why do some thrive on negativity?

    I've been thinking about this a lot today, as I had a VERY stressful day yesterday. I don't take stress well at all, and I look and feel like shit today because of it. None of it was at my expense, but I just can't handle negativity around me. But it seems like some people are just constantly being negative, or starting drama, or trying to get someone else in trouble. It's almost like they live for this, and are not happy unless they're doing one of the above.

    I always wonder what has happened in their lives to make them this way. Were they bullied when they were kids? Were they treated like shit by a significant other at some point? Have they always had people talk down to them all their lives? Why are people like this? Discuss

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    Wow...this sounds like my mother-in-law.

    I'd give you an answer if I could, but I haven't been able to figure out what the deal with her is...I'm really not sure.

    I hear you, though.

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    Default Re: Why do some thrive on negativity?

    They're not happy with their lives, plain and simple.

    Using humour will only piss them off further........avoid!!!


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    Default Re: Why do some thrive on negativity?

    i think it's part past trauma, part coping, and part personal inner strength.

    i've known people who have had great lives and still grew up to be asses.

    i've known people that have had horrid lives and still grew up to be very positive people.

    and vice-versa.

    i think it's a testament to the "difficult lives" people that overcame their problems and are still positive/optimistic though.

    the others that have had "difficult lives" and pretty much show it i actually cut some slack. i figure it's them coping or dealing back out what life has dealt them so far. doesn't really excuse them still but i at least can understand it from that perspective.

    the ones that have had life good and turn out to be "good" might have my admiration too but i kind of expect it. i.e. smooth ride? you should be well-rested.

    the ones that have had life good and turn out to be jagoffs don't get any slack whatsoever from me. unfortunately, i see a lot of that. for them it's entitlement, plain snobbery, or fear of losing what they have (i've also seen some of that in the "difficult lives" scenario as well). but i don't excuse constant negativity from such people.

    yes, life isn't a bed of roses anywhere but please put things in perspective imo is all. kind of like that story aussiepunk posted of the rapes in africa (darfur?) compared to any "difficulties" we might face. no comparison.

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    1) They're miserable and "misery loves company" OR

    2) They get a kick out of inflicting pain on others or verbally dominating them (my sister does this, she can't take what she dishes out though)

    The best answer is to let them finish, and then avoid them. Or just say, "Shut the f*ck up."

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    Default Re: Why do some thrive on negativity?

    They grew up watching 90210, melrose place, and all those dramas. This is how they believe people act. my 2 cents.

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    Default Re: Why do some thrive on negativity?

    Quote Originally Posted by madmaxine View Post
    Or just say, "Shut the f*ck up."
    haha! I love that answer. Too bad I could never be the one to say that though. I'm too afraid to hurt their feelings lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheLioness View Post


    haha! I love that answer. Too bad I could never be the one to say that though. I'm too afraid to hurt their feelings lol.
    Just tell 'em, "I didn't know you had any feelings."

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    Default Re: Why do some thrive on negativity?

    Quote Originally Posted by madmaxine View Post
    2) They get a kick out of inflicting pain on others or verbally dominating them
    Mike Tyson once said he gets satisfaction out of hurting others.

    Its best to avoid people like this!!


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    Default Re: Why do some thrive on negativity?

    ^^kinda makes you feel sorry for people like that though, doesn't it? I always think that people like that are really unhappy, and it's sad

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