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    OK, we all have bad nights. But sometimes a bad night turns into a bad week, then a couple of bad weeks. You're confidence gets really low and you start to dread going to work. All of a sudden, working retail for $8/hr doesn't sound so bad. You hate all of your outfits, you hate your club, your regulars bore you and you feel fat. You know what I'm talking about?

    I've been dancing about a year and a half and I seem to go through a slump every four or five months. It's incredibly frustrating. All of sudden I feel like a newbie again, like I've learned nothing in all these months. I vaguely remember that I used to be an awesome hustler, but I can barely beleive I'm the same person. It seems like I've just forgotten how. I'm scared that I'll never make money as a dancers again...it's over for me! Of course, eventually the slump just passes, and I start making money again and feeling good. But damn!

    I wanna know about other people's slumps. How often do they happen? How long do they last? Are slumps just for relative newbies, or do experienced dancers have them too? Is there something you do to pull yourself out, or do you just sit tight and wait for the slump to pass?

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    Even veterans go through slumps. To keep my spirits up I just keep doing what I know best and things start to come back to me. For example when customer said objection X I'd come back with hustle Y and I would start to remember things again.

    Just keep working out, saving money and try as hard as you can at work. Some girls like to travel yet its not an option for everyone. Im slumping right now and this is month #2 of it so I can relate to you.
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    My slumps generally last 2-3 weeks, which isn't bad. It's always scary, though...like maybe I'll never make money dancing again.

    Going through a slump makes me re-evaluate my hustle, though, which is good. When I do well for a while I get lazy and complacent. My club has had too many girls and too few customers all month, so things have been cut-throat and gritty. But I've dealt with it before and I can do it now.

    One thing that helped: last night I wore a blonde wig and went on stage as "Lollipop." The wig was cheap and hideous, but I acted dumb and blonde and banked all night. Somehow that wig let me play "ditzy stripper" like never before and it WORKED.

    C'mon ladies. I know TM and I aren't the only ones who go through professional downturns. I wanna hear from you!

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    I had slumps all through my career. I would just take a hiatus until it passed and I got the itch again. But I had the luxury of being able to pay the bills with my regular job though.

    Just take mini breaks. Go on weekend trips. That helps me to clear my mind no matter what the job is.

    If you can afford it, work your ass off for two months then take a week long vacation. Repeat as necessary.

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    Oh man, I used to get the slumps like nothing else. For me they'd come every six weeks or so. I think I got them more often than most girls at my club because I had to keep my work quiet from most of my friends (I'm in med school, would get kicked out like a shot) and the pressure of sneaking around, lying to friends etc etc would build up into something I couldn't handle very fast and I'd find myself calling in sick for a week or so until I could get my shit together.
    For me, I'd get down about all the idiots as well. Fucktards are like buses - you get none for ages then they all come at you at once, combining their powers and chipping away at you one after another until you feel like wank and just want to go and hide in the bathroom and cry...

    Grace, hope you're feeling better - if you can, I'd take a little time off - sounds like you need a recharging session. It often pays off financially anyway when you go back with fresh hustle. I ended up developing a kind of anti-stripping routine where I would avoid strippery, glamourous, sexual things completely and bum around the house when I should be at work with no make-up and shit hair

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    I'm feeling ya! I think it's because I've only danced in San Antonio. I need to save some $$$ so I can take a trip to another city and experience working somewhere else. I think a change of scenery would do you some good...AND MYSELF as well.



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    Yep. But the cool thing about living in a van is when that happens I just take off and see the Grand Canyon, or hang out by a river for a few weeks, until I run out of money, and nothing brings my hustle back like running out of money.



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    I go through slumps, but really they just motivate me to get what I want out of dancing and get the heck out!

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    sometimes, just a switch in clubs for a week or 2 makes a world of difference.

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    Yep, I get it about once every two or three months. It scares the hubby more than it scares me.

    To get myself out of it, I throw a party, or go somewhere with a good group of friends, or get out of town and go camping with a group. Basically I seek out the socialness and companionship that I crave, but away from the club environment. That's what works for me anyway.




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    OK, we all have bad nights. But sometimes a bad night turns into a bad week, then a couple of bad weeks. You're confidence gets really low and you start to dread going to work. All of a sudden, working retail for $8/hr doesn't sound so bad. You hate all of your outfits, you hate your club, your regulars bore you and you feel fat. You know what I'm talking about?
    Wow. I thought I wrote that, and didnt remember. You described what I've been going through, exactly.
    Luckily, I'm on the uprise of my slump. Im comming out of it.

    I don't even know how long this slump has lasted.About a year and a hlaf ago, I got tired of dancing. I got a job as a cocktial waitress. That lasted 4 months, and I started missing dancing, missing my freedom... SO I quit my job on a whim and started dancing again. But I still wasn't out of my slump...It was never the same. This was exactly a year ago that I started dancign again. I have done shit the entire past year. I just felt like I lost my touch.
    I've been looking for other jobs, debating, going back and forth, but I'm scared to stop dancing cause I know I'll miss it, and crave my freedom and the money again. SO I stuck with it, and just recently I've been comming out of it.


    I'm not a new dancer. I've been dancing now for 4 years, but I take breaks every so often and get a real job. Makes you appriciate dancing more.

    You know, for me, the bes way to get out of a slump is to make money. Seriously, you cannot hate this job when you can make a grand in 6 hours. Unfortunaly, in a slump, your not exactly a money making machine.
    So power through it, keep trying, keep your chin up, and sooner or later, you'll meet a guy who makes your night, makes you remember why you started dancing, and why you love dancing.

    Going to a club as a customer helps to. You can sit there and watch all the other girls dancing, having fun, making money, and you think..hey, I can do that. hell, I can do it better than thoes girl can. All the sudden, you wish you were working instead of watching as a customer.

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    I have 'em, and almost inevitably when I can afford 'em least. Panic-stations! I particularly hate the feeling of, "Maybe I shouldn't be doing this job, maybe I just can't." Ah, but the relief when it passes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Minette View Post
    I particularly hate the feeling of, "Maybe I shouldn't be doing this job, maybe I just can't."

    This is exactly how I've been feeling. I'm a lil embarrass to say that last week I cried in my car on my way home from like the 23rd super duper crappy slump night. The thoughts of maybe i shouldn't be doing this job or maybe i can't do this job was just overwhelming because I felt like something was wrong with just me. I can't wait till this slump come to past so I can get back into my groove.

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    ^^We've all been there^^ I was just not into it last night when I worked. The customers were complete douche bags, but I didn't try talking to anyone, and just gave up on even asking for dances in the middle of my shift. It was slow and crappy and I did not get one dance. I just couldn't pretend to like these guys, who couldn't even give up a dollar onstage, as they watched with their sense of entitlement (at the tiprail!) to look at me naked for free as if they had a right since they paid the cover. I had regular give me some cash, so I took home a little money, but I did not give one single lapdance. Saturday was also standing room only, (Its not a tiny/small club)and I BARELY made 200 dollars. Very frustrating. Sigh.....I need my mojo
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    I was in a huge slump from about mid-March to the end of April. It's only now in retrospect that I know it was a slump. Looking at my stats, in that period I was averaging about half of what I expect to make. There were a lot of factors. I'd just finished with a major project in my life and still haven't committed to a new one. I broke up with my boyfriend and had a crippling crush on someone new. It was tax season.

    Now I've come out of it but there was an extended period where I could not focus on hustling or had the patience to think strategically or make much money at all.

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